₦airaland Forum

Ishilove:
Where una dey see all these kain women marry?

Dem plenty outside o. Those are the disasters in the name of being "woke" and FINsters we have to hope we don't marry while finding the submissive ones which is like finding a needle in a haystack SMH.

Richy4:

I didn't mean to honestly but i don't know how he missed all the red flags during courtship... it was not as if he was somewhere abroad and they matchmake and parcels a wife to him to marry without courting

You forget some of these vagina people can be pretentious to get married and then bare their fangs after marriage? It is in a huge realm of possibility as we have heard a lot on this.

Sexyliciousbri:
Gather evidence. Divorce. Win custody. Live happy life.

Gather evidence from videos and pictures of her unruly behavior and the effects. Get witnesses from your colleagues at work who will support your views that your wife is mentally imbalanced due to her unruly behavior and unfit to take care of a child and that you have been taking care of the child. Divorce. Win custody. Live happy life. Fixed.

Beblessedbaba:
Dude Let me not lie to you...

If a woman goes to that extreme you made a huge mistake in marrying her and no marriage counselor can fix this if you like allow them to deceive you until you have 3 children then it will be so tight and your youth will have been wasted.

Way forward/Exit Strategy

Immediate term
1. pally your immediate line manager and a critical member of your firm Executive Management.

2. Be on friendly terms with your work place Security team led by the security head. Give them head up especially the Security head with her pix as she will disguise and make many attempt to enter your work place to embrass you.

Short term
1. Get a friend you can work from his house daily could be a student sef or an hotel you can use their lobby during office hours or distance neighbor.

2. Your wife should not know this locations on no account

Medium term

1. Rent a new apartment or Share with a friend short term
2. File for divorce and serve her while outside the house with your daughter

On no account should she know your new apartment or you disclose this to any of her loved ones or your loved ones for now.

If you do any pity party you might lose your life as this woman is capable of killing you if you fall into her trap.. you can't serve her divorce paper and still sleep in the same house. We don't want you gracing Nairaland front page as gone too soon so use survival intent and your head instead of your heart..

Pressure and crocodile tears will come from many quarters friends, relatives, counsellors, pastors etc and you will be digging your grave if you fall for it.

A word is enough

NB: Few days back in the US, a man flew an aircraft into the home he shared with his wife with a plan to kill her and himself out of frustration instead of walking away.

The wife and her son survived while the man died.. The wife response was I don't know why my husband acted the way he did as he is a fanstatic husband. More or less the best husband in the world.

Won't it has been better if she said truly they had a dispute...you see the narrative...

Read between the lines and smell the coffee.

Perfect advice especially where he goes incommunicado to this idiot of a wife as e get why and ignores people's pleadings on her behalf. The second part of he falls for it, it is either he that will end up dead by the wife killing him or the wife the day he explodes, beats her up to her death and becomes a murder suspect. One of them or even both might not survive being alive if they continue to live together. My 2 cents.

Kriss216:
Won't be surprised sha. Oloshos no dey wear pant

Gbas gbos aye!

Apus:
Don't forget to make a video or audio recording. You will need it.

You can say that again! It will be valuable piece of evidence against her child custody claims during the child custody case in court.

LordIsaac:
Infact, I wonder why leaving, albeit temporarily or even permanently, is not an option for men going through hell at home!

It is a very handy option! Getting away from this kind of situation is the first thing men in this situation should do first to avoid being on newspaper pages as an domestic violence death suspect when he can't take it anymore. My 2 cents.

Jondelng:
Rent a small room outside for 6 months. Take your child. Let her fend for herself

Happy to see someone that gave him the same advice as I gave. He needs to get himself and clear his mind by getting away from that situation first which is where both our advice come in.

Kriss216:
A wife you're doing all these for, yet she's not submissive?

What are you guys enjoying in this institution called marriage?

No woman in this world is worth your peace of mind.

Very important the last statement! I will add to it, no marriage or even human interactions is worth more than your peace of mind!

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

As for getting the custody of your child which is your biggest challenge according to you, that is where a good lawyer comes in and your colleagues at work who have seen your wife's irrational behaviour and your care for your daughter can come in as witnesses to support your court custody claims. Ire o.

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

The statement that she is not submissive at all are characteristics of the "woke" women generation and FINsters these days. For your peace of mind and for the fact she is sabotaging your job, get another apartment and leave her. Once your mind is now clear, you can send her the divorce papers. I hate what I don't like! You have suffered enough bro! Put a stop to the suffering! After the divorce, continue to be in the child's life. My 2 cents.

PS A lot of marriages are falling apart due to non-submissive women who are polar opposites of what our mothers were in the name of being "woke" and FINsters SMH. Even if I don't agree with the bible in totality, the fact the holy book advice women to be submissive, there is something they saw. The result of an unsubmissive woman is what the Op is experiencing.

InvestinOwerri:
You mean cows invaded a state capital and residents, including passersby, motorists and shop owners all ran away??

That must be a scene from 17th century

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BeeBeeOoh:
You have really done your best by making life unbearable for Nigerians.

You can say that again!

tolufase:
For me, you are the worst President.

Me too.

Jostoman:
Yes you have done your best by inflicting pains, agony and hardship on us. Thank you Enough of innocent people's blood shed in Nigeria.

You can say that again for the first statement.

kingsman66:
Once you come down to de east am owning you one chilled bottle of beer

Thanks bro

wilcox:
Gone are the days we anticipate presidential broadcast. That era was last seen in the days of GEJ

You can say that again! PDP and always having highly cerebral Presidents and Presidential candidates, they do their home work at least on that one.

ask4double:
I watched the live, sorry, the recorded and edited interview. And I still can't phantom how a country of over 209million persons ended up with this man as the no 1 citizen.

You should ask a certain state in the Southw3st, N0rth and Fulani herdsmen killings' in the first term states how it happened instead.

ablejesus26:
There is corruption all over the world.
What apc has done is beyond repair.
Apc is corruption personified �.
Nigerians were experiencing 3g suffering under pdthief but apcheat came from the pit of hell and upgraded it to 5g.
Any apc member or supporter wey no dey very prayerful no wise because normal e no suppose better for them with the kind swear wey people dey bestow on una 24/7��

Abi. E no suppose better for them with the kin suffering they just dey suffer Nigerians SMH.

PIPPROF:
So all the pdp bigwigs

You appointed as minister are failures?

For your info under pdp life was easier
20k was a salary and people survived on it
Under your administration someone earning 100k is a pauper

And many things that the common man ate are now meant for super rich people
Even forgot they sold chicken for 15k under your nice successful leadership

You can say that again! Yes we know they stole but people were not hungry like now! And who says APC is not stealing too, at least we see some news on it!

socialmediaman:
PDP = Corruption, Slow Progress
APC = Corruption, Poverty, Insecurity

Choice is yours

My choice is definitely PDP. You can say that again!

operAhdam:
buhari/apc na the grand patron

The undisputed champion of unparalleled masses' poverty and supervisor of poverty capital of the world is their title

kingsman66:
A party built on lies never stand...... Power to the people

Yes, PDP - Power To The People, they stole but people were not hungry and the country was reasonably secure.

BigSarah:
Takes one to know one

Abi

Lawalemi:
This is not a president that can unite the nation.

The sensible ones among us which I am one knew he was never one! He is a tribal bigot par excellence!

ogelekpomgam:
And whoever that is supporting a miserable government causing pain to many and leading people to hunger, suffer in penury and commit suicide will die a miserable death...in Jesus name,Ameeeeennn!!

AMEN!

fikobon:
Trash loading

You can say that again!

NGpatriot:
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Face topic or keep quiet if you have nothing sane and intelligent to talk about..[/s]

Shut up!

Nonybb:
WE SHALL SURVIVE THIS GOVERNMENT

AMEN!

federal9:
Power does not last forever.

After 2023, him no go get mouth again together with Femi Adesina.

Abi but do they even understand that? SMH.

IgweBUIKE1:
This our president is a very diplomatic clown

More like an indispensable clown instead

ekukeku:
[b]Lori iro po
Iro po, o ti po po po

Iro po o!