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GenderMix:
Dear Esteemed Nairalanders of extreme wisdom, I have a 4+ year old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and wife. Some days ago she almost caught me and wife having sex, so in the morning she asked my wife what I was doing to her…lol. Most times I hug and kiss my wife in front of her and do same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal lives. Sometimes, when I hug my wife before her, she gets jealous..lol

I think we made a mistake in not allowing her get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my wife to allow her into our room.


We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially married couples with kids)

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

5. Is her jealousy normal?

Thank you

Where you said your 4 year old daughter is curious made me burst out laughing lol .

boss1310:
no it was siasia.eguavoen led eagles to 2006 nations cup

My bad. Thanks guys.

godwon01:
Siasia not Eguavon.

Thanks. My bad.

braveheart77:
Absolutely! I am so impressed with his tactics and substitutions. 9/10 for him

Abi. He has always been a good coach anyways. I think he was the one that took us to the Beijing 2008 Olympic finals then if I am not mistaken.

Jangbajantis:
Congrats to Nigeria but Ejuke was silly for that selfish play.

You could say that again. But guy is not quality anyways, there was a chance for him cross, he shot at the keeper instead.

Eguavoen coached the game of his life! Tactics were on point all through! Kudos to him and the Super Eagles for a famous win.

IgweBUIKE1:
even me can't hold the laff ...he even told the police officers that if I succeed tomorrow,that will I be praying for him or swearing for him,they asked him how much he is worth noW...he said he is suffering now to enjoy later

LWKMD

Coldie:
To me all the soldiers involved in it should be sacked

Nah, letting them have a pass instead imo. Send them instead to face Boko Haram and bandits to flex the powers they think they have. Better suggestion imo.

shortgun:
May you birth a son that will call you a useless father, insult you in public and question your sanity when you don't meet his needs.
May your sons call you call you a misfit where you work.
May your children call your certificate and all your achievements in life a FIASCO!

SAY A BIG AMEN TO THIS PRAYER

If I respect myself, I will never see such kind of embarrassment. It is those who don't respect themselves in the old generation that are prone to such. No wonder the country is a shith0le when we can't talk truth to power in the name of they are our elders while they are foolish elders. My 2 cents.

PS - I will pass on your useless prayer because I mind my own business and never think to make another person feel bad unlike the elders you are defending here so the chance of me having such kind of child is minuscule unlike the foolish elders you are defending here.

By the way for such useless prayer, you are a disast3r and need your brains examined ASAP.

DejiPlug:
ONE SOLDIER ARRESTED AS INVESTIGATION IS ONGOING TO IDENTIFY AND ARREST ALL CULPRITS IN THE UNFORTUNATE ASSAULT ON TRAFFIC WARDENS IN IBADAN


https://www.sunnewsonline.com/army-arrests-soldier-over-assault-on-traffic-warden-in-ibadan/

Nice especially that last statement by the Nigerian Army. Can't condone and mollycoddle brutes. Can't!

Landmack:
It’s obvious those that married for beauty are the ones sending epistles and gracing the FP of Nairaland. Single men better open ur eyes and learn from these guys.

After marrying big ass,big breast,fine face and pointed nose..u come back here to disturb us with marital questions.
Since Christmas on NL all we have been reading is reports by husbands of slay queens

You can say that again!

shortgun:
This guy is arrogant and lack respect

Shut up! You want people to be dumm1es just like you that can't question wrongs abi? People with your kind of mentality who are unfortunately in the majority (the voting trends show that especially a certain region we all know) are why the country is a shith0le and nothing is working.

DrObum:
They should be ashamed of themselves.

I see nothing worth suspension in what he wrote.

What do they want to produce from the school?
Dummies who can't question wrong?

That school's lecturers can be self-absorbed, learnt that the hard way while I was there.

naija4life247:
Nigerians are tyrants. Ordinary secondary school class captain will write your name in noise makers list just because his girlfriend is crushing on you.

You can say that again bro!

BigSarah:
Damn these people that made me sign indemnity form that year...

Abi and the money our parents or guardians paid back to be "readmitted" as students SMH.

koolib:
Uncouth ill mannered boy.

Shut up! If you are pushed to the wall like this guy and the students then, you will do worse!

Follygunners:
The question is why was he rusticated in first place? Speaking the truth? Rubbish!

As in! What he said happened why we as students protested then is what really happened. Some people in whatever position they are in can be dictatorial especially the African man SMH.

Jman06:
That's what they do when they wanna hook a simp! Pretend to have repented only to unleash the devil in them after marriage.

One of them once wrote a retraction of all her feminist posts on nairaland when she wanted to get married at all costs. I won't mention her name but she was a popular nairalander that year.

You can say that again bro! Feminists like this, once I get to know them, I run very far away from them because like leopards, they don't change their spots but can only pretend to get something. I rest my case.

Munzy14:
Likely Ubi isn't the problem in a way, may be he goes for the wrong women.

He goes for them for the sex, never to marry them! Man is living the life of a king!

bongolistik:
I think u ar the one to shut up. You don't need to live with some women to know that they are scornful, bitter, spiteful and practically umarriable.

Ok go and marry Tonto lets see or have you lived with Tonto b4..

That lady you just attacked said nothing but the truth, unless you don't know anything about most f gender. They cause so much troubles wherever they enter.. After God, fear woman.

The worst is when the woman in question becomes a celebrity and wealthy, then most men going after them are just finished cos they will so much want to ride over the man. And they are always uncontrollable cos they feel the man cannot give them anything again.

Someone that has 3 different kids with 3 different men, that alone speaks volumes of the type of lady that she will be and you don't need any soothsayer for validation.

Or didn't you hear or see the one that told her friend that she is travelling to the UK, hope you heard what her friend did to her.. That is typical level of wickedness that many women are known for because of envy, jealousy and wickedness in many of them..

Go and study women then you will know that most men are trying in their marriages. Most men are only guilty of infidelity in their marriages but you see women, they are also challenging men with same infidelity on their part coupled with so many other problems and troubles that they bring into most families that they enter..

The Psqure brothers can give you some hints of women troubles in families

You can say that again bro! I am not even dating a useless woman here and she has made my life a living hell. What will you say about that? The experience with that lady and my useless ex is enough for me not to marry but I still know there are some good ones even though they are unfortunately few.

DarkJeddi:
You Shut your damn mouth up..

A woman that goes about having children for every dick that comes her way is a HOE..

A HOE..

That's what her American brethren calls her..

You married and 5 months already your marriage is GONE!

A HOE will always exhibit symptoms of her HOESHIP..

Yes, a hoe and a thot to boot!

vickydevoka:
She has never be a feminist. She's a realist

.

Not with her antecedents here. Just saying o.

studentofTruth:
Seriously, I couldn't believe what I read was written by her.

Me too.

4FACEADELEKE:
Pocohantas e be like say you don get one good dick wey don flog feminism out of your head.

Abi o!

Deejay777:
So much sense in a single post, I'm totally gobsmacked.

And from unexpected quarters knowing her antecedents here. Hmmmm.

RedEnergy:
And just like that, Arsenal has reclaimed its title as the Most Useless EPL club . Not even 1 single shot on target, 1 oh, against a mediocre bottom table Championship club like Nottingham Forest

You can say that again bro! What is the use of all that possession if you can't put one shot on target. Don't even get me started on Nketiah, that guy is a huge -1 imo.

emmanuelbrown26:
One love man, I wish your every peace of mind u desire in this world

Same here and wish too bro.

DenreleDave:
You see women, always defending their wrong and evil act done by their fellow species...

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That is normal when emotions take over logic SMH.

Fididiguy:
You too should give your life to Christ, start family alter in your home, read Bible together and see an instant mending of broken relationship

Shut up! Won tun ti de o!

emmanuelbrown26:
Don't hate yourself now, this is not the time to start hating yourself nor blaming yourself. The best u can do right now is separation, if u could be sponsoring her MSC with your 70% income, I wonder what would happen by the time she start earning, she would throw u away, is better u damn what people would say and hv peace of mind than dying slowly and pleasing people.

Thank you especially at the last statement!

Kobojunkie:
How many have you divorced abeg?

Shut up! One of them we have been talking about SMH.

Saao:
Alot of wicked ladies nowadays. Best things to do is to avoid marriage.

You can say that again bro! The last statement though I don't support, marriage is key and must be to the right person however if it is the first or multiple marriages it takes to get that right person because let us face it, the days of women being homemakers is long gone unfortunately.