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Afolue:
Are you the very person is question here, are you willing to give love a chance again?

I am the person in question but for love I don’t think I’m capable, I’m hurt

illicit:
Weyrey


I never see any woman dey cry while breastfeeding before, except maybe the baby bit their nipple and they shout.



This baby no even get teeth

For first time mums, the nipple usually get sore from continuous sucking and it feels very painful, she’s not allowed to put medication because of the baby, it is often said that the baby’s mouth will heal the wound, so she’s not faking it. After few weeks it will heal.

Never underestimate the power of prayers

Don’t trust anyone

Don’t put anyone above yourself , you first!!

Constantly invest in getting better than you are.

Don’t tell people your mind, it will make you more predictable

Avoid people who are ungrateful in little things, they can never be grateful even if you give them the whole world

Housing:
@Yinabim please be strong and fight for your right. You need a good lawyer. Don't allow anyone to guilty trip you. You are not wrong to marry a divorcée.

You need to put the Lady in Australia in her place.

May God continue to guide and protect you. Aameen

Amen

grandstar:
Yinabim

If the security isn't the police, throw him or them out!

Get a bunch of people to throw them out. What she has done is simply illegal.

It isn't your fault her mother dumped your dad. I expected you to have challenges with his second wife, and not this one's daughter.

If the security has no legal right to be there, kick them out or get them out for trespassing. Why she's doing this is to prevent you from disposing the house. That's her fear.

My husband is buried there I can’t even do that to him

AfDapone:
When did he build that house in question? If he did so before he married you, then lady A has strong say on the property unless of course he explicitly willed it to you. Same goes for all other properties.

When I met him the house in question was an incomplete building (only building and roofing , no windows, doors or interiors) , in fact when he left his ex wife he rented an apartment, I had to encourage him to finish a part of the house which is the visitors apartment, then we moved in there, then we started rushing the main building . So I paid my dues in that house, and I knew she was interested from the start maybe the 3D floors or the 100inches TV I don’t know what is getting her so desperate, I was even willing to share with her, till she started conducting herself like alpha and omega

D111:
What type of death kill your husband

Dr said cardiac arrest

Kobicove:
What about Woman B and her 4 children... what's their position in all this?

Those ones are supporting lady A, only God knows what she promised them, even when Lady A suggested that we share properties into equal seven(myself and six children) and I told them I agree but let’s make it legally binding to avoid future problems. That way lady B children would get about 57% , they still didn’t take the opportunity until lady A said “I can’t force them to sign any agreement yet because I don’t know what her current preferences are”.

I believe she expected me to say NO to equal sharing, so that she will have a point against me(maybe paint me greedy) she was shocked I agreed.

dhiqson:
Just skirmed through your page and boy oh boy
Nothing like insults or callin men demeaning names


Anyways
Candid advice?
Your schooling in Canada is it well funded?
If yes.. worry not bout properties in Nigeria
Focus on urself ur school
Come out fine and start from scratch...


But if you want to fight it.. well ur husband should have a will somewhere??

I’m rounding up in December by Gods grace.
We’ve not found a will.

dawnomike:
What issues are they giving you?

Reach out if you need some help or get intimidated by anyone.

Hope you were legally married to your husband?

Yes I am legally married

Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.

danherb:
Good day great people, I just got admission at Niagara college. Pls, is there any review about the college? I also applied for Fanshewe and Humber colleges though waiting for their decisions.

One thing with the school is you’ll have to scan your visa page or study permit before you’ll be allowed to choose timetable.
I got my passport request letter on the 28th of Dec, I immediately informed the school that I’ll be coming so they should enable be choose timetable, they disagreed, I didn’t get my passport till 10th of January, I already bought ticket sef, only for the school to send a mail that enrollment is full. E pain me ehn, I had to differ, they don’t do that in Fanshawe.

SmartzJayTech:
Wow! congratulations jiggsbaby.
I'm resuming May 2023 at Niagara College, Welland Campus too.

I’m resuming Niagara College, welland campus too, I’ve sent a mail to you, kindly reply

I’m sure he has planned all these before now, he just had to wait for the right opportunity. Ole buruku!!

Amen I hope to marry Evaberry

May the Lord grant your heart desire

Okulaja,Aseele,Ikubuaje

tnerro1:
She just did abortion but u are not aware

Not in all cases tho ,but if the lactation is due to abortion it will stop on its own

Hormonal imbalance can cause lactation
When the prolactin hormone is high “Hyperprolactinemia” , milk can start coming out of her breast .
Although drugs like bromocriptine or Dostinex will fix it , but I’ll advice you let her see a gynecologist please

Liposure:
to be honest, u look like a dream come true.

Be a gentle guy jare

Liposure:
hello gorgeous

Hi handsome

Person wey you never marry she don Dey throw stones , how sure are you she won’t throw knife one day .
I know you saw all these before you got her pregnant . Now wey belle don enter my dear take it to the Lord in prayers

Noel1:
Hmmmmn ur nose

is that why you are vexing ?? It’s just filter joor Oya smile for mama

Hotfreezer:
That is in the Holy Bible.

In the Nigerian Bible which most Nigerian pastors use to preach, you won't find that there. They have slim fitted their Bibles to contain only things which people want to hear. The hard truths which the Holy Bible contains, they don't preach it.

Imagine dancing for 2 hours in Church only for the Pastor to come and preach that the poor would always be among you. After that kind preaching, you go gree drop money?

That's why most collect money before sermon. In case the thing pinch you for body, you no fit talk say you no drop money again.

I couldn’t control the laughter , this is so hilarious.

Omoluabi9:
Pretty girl like you calling me "dear", I am blushing ooh

Be an omoluabi joor

Omoluabi9:
Good news! Heard yesterday. Why was he missing though? Was he kidnapped?

My dear , I asked the same question . Only Femi can answer when we see him .

https://www.nairaland.com/5513285/john-femi-isaac-missing-21-year-old/1#83795800

John Femi Isaac is back home .

One of those annoying slangs , I wonder how they enjoy saying it

They tell each other things like
Ma gba eti Iya e
Shey Iya e lora motor fun mi
Maa gbe’ya e sepe

All that to the Iya that prays for them everyday o

For relationships and marriages there is no Formular , some win and others don’t , look at the story of Shade Okoya for example , she stated in an interview that if she had married a younger person she knew she wouldn’t have lasted in the relationship .
So it’s all about choice , which must be made wisely .

Femi is a very responsible guy o , he used to be my hall mate, what could have happened He will return home safely by God’s grace .

OP ! The truth is the girl is greedy and she has no feeling for you , she’s just in the relationship for the money , a girl that loves you will help you save n make future plans .

Lemme just tell u what will happen if u marry her
1) You will go broke
2)She will call you names in the house , telling u how useless n stupid you’ve been
3) U will develop a HBP
4)U will seek a divorce ( it will be too late then)
5) I pray you don’t die young .

Get Retin -A