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Seriously I don't wanna know how much my husband earn as this might create room for comparison and that is the last thing I wanna do

but then again it all depends on the relationship you both share

how does she not knowing what the husband earns affect their love? wahala dey o

If you have all this doubt running in your head PLEASE DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN!!!

Wait oh was he not footing the food bill when u two got married or he just woke up one morning and stopped or was there change in circumstance? there is more to this story than it meets the eye
I think in this present age footing the food bill is not just a man's job alone
Gone are the days women wait for their husbands to drop food money biko

PS: U'all wanna turn Dayokanu into 2nd sagamite abi, plsss we have not been able to get rid of number one sagamite so we don't need another yet

Sagamite: When I say share price falling, I did not mean their wealth, I meant their looks.

Majority of women are at their aesthetic pick between the ages of 17 to about 25.

Note: That is majority, some might break that rule. Secondly that does not mean when they are over 25, they become look like witches with leprosy. Nah, they are just not at their peak, they might still be hot.

Now unlike men, women attract partners based on two core things: their looks and their personality. The former is by far the most dominant, the latter is important too though.

I am yet to see a woman that is not good looking that attracts genuine mating partners because she is talented at singing, business, running etc. If she is not good looking, most men will just clap and appreciate her talent but not be turned on.

Now Usain Bolt is not the most handsome man one can see but I can guarantee you at the moment, he is the most sexy man in London. Majority of women would love to split for him. If he was not a fast runner but replenishes the shelf stock at night for Tescos, he would stuggle to find an attractive girlfriend despite his height.

So when Naija girls are at their peak they lack the personality part of attraction. They see no problem with this because there are many desperate niggas in London that will take their shyt. When these girls start aging and the looks start declining, they start trying to develop personalities that they should have developed long ago. Some would struggle to attract partners because some of their bad personality traits is well ingrained and a proclivity that they do instinctively and they do not even know they are doing because they have never got anyone giving them feedback as we live in a cultural setting that tells women they can behave as they wish, and men are discouraged from saying anything negative about women because it is not gentlemanly or metrosexual. And most of these mugu London men are enthusiastic about this philosophy, they are hungry to get a black belt certificate from women for being top Real Men.

Let me give you a hint of the rudeness of black girls in London.

[b]When we were back in Uni, me and my buddies went out for a night of clubbing, one of my buddies saw some nice black chic that Kai he had to make a move for.

Okay, this girl was Jamo, not Naija. Homeboy approached her and went to say hi. As usual you know the disparaging, mean stare most young black girls are somehow raised to give. She looked at him up and down like shyt and continued staring into space. Homeboy continued and tried to be nice. He said something to her and she replied and looked away, then he left her. I still remember his chat up style categorisation I did back then. His style was complete sweet complimentary talking with a soft voice. We all have different styles.

When he came back, we asked him what happened. He said he said hi and was trying to get to know her. When she was not responsive (looking mean) he told her that he really felt she was attractive and he couldn't miss the opportunity of trying to get to know her. She then turned to him and said meanly: "When you get a job, have a business or prospects, come back and try your luck"!

Damn! That was cold. I thought they would have to call an ambulance to get me to emergency because we were bursting our bellies with laughter.

That is what the guy got for trying to chat up a black girl. He sucked it up and we went to take our night buses home. No money for car back then.

The guy now wears a suit and has a good job. He has been with a white girl for years now. I wonder what this Jamo girl is up to now. She would probably see him in suit with a white woman on his arm and start insulting him for not sticking with "sisters". [/b]

I understand why footballers go for white girls.

Hold on a second
Just because of that incident your 'friend' decided to say good bye to black girls just because he couldn't take rejection for the first time
pardon me to say but he is indeed not a man.
just one chat up with a black girl and the response he got was rather unpleasing he decided to opt for white girls? oh please that is the silliest of all excuses for one to decide black girls are not worth it
I agree the jamo's girl reaction was very degrading and unpleasant but that does not warrant him ruling out black girls out of his life
so does that mean if he applies for a job in the banking sector and gets rejected he then tends to lock up and conclude all banks are definitely going to reject his application?
porfavour!!!!

cotton101: so sad that this topic how now been reduced to this - the amount of times in the past a nigerian guy has openly told me to my face while chatting me up or getting my number that "ur so nice, this is so unlike nigerian girls" "ur the best of both worlds - a white girl in black skin" i'm sorry but that is a f**king insult to me and shows a level of ignorance and lack of exposure to me - how can a few experiences with a number of black girls now tar all of us with the same brush. Gosh it was not that long ago we as a people where deemed sub-human and made slaves based on black people seen as inferior to all other races

I doubt any of us women would ever start saying to a nigerian guy "oh ur so nice, u don't do 419 like so many other nigerian guys" "o ur so different u don't have 10 baby mamas scattered around the place" "o u must be a wife beater since its the norm with african men"

Sagamite - u are quite an intelligent man and I like to think these postings are just online rants but it saddens me as a mother to a black girl that our men think still think like this - it has so many other far reaching consequences that if you think about it properly u can begin to see why black women are really seen as the bottom of the human/racial food chain.

maybe i'm not making sense and ur confidence is slightly sexy (my fiance should not see this o!) but honestly try to say the black women u have come across - and like i said stop chatting up london girls

Sagamite, 'A word to the wise is enough'

Sagamite: Obviously that is what I do. I am poor at it though because my closest friends have not dated black girls for over 10 years and say they will never again. They have stuck to it very well.

https://www.nairaland.com/826849/desperate-find-husbandis-it-normal/1#9784967

I still bump into a few because I like my Naija circle of friends.



What is wrong with girls in clubs or on the road? Women that want to marry don't go to clubs anymore? They don't use roads?

Where are the right places to go in case, god forbid, I want to marry?

Come one, Efe, lets stop giving excuses.



How old are they on average? Give me their age range.

35 what has age got to do with this? remember age is just a number
so tell her to hook you up and stop beating around the bush

kingoflag: Nah, it'll just try to have se*x with you,its known to ask politely, if you refuse, it'll ra*pe you.

Its a Pen*is snake for Christ's sakes, why would it wanna bite you when it can just f**k you silly?!

wicked

Sagamite: No 1, I never said all.

No 2, it might be law of demands. In Yankee, black men are normally guest in jails so you have to hone your skills to fight for the few black men with prospects.

No 3, it is a small sample pool.

No 4, it might be holiday blues. Maybe when you are both local, dem fit turn to normal Naija chics.

Sagamite you need deliverance
No2 and 4 got me cracking up so bad
seriously you leave me no choice than to conclude you have been hurt emotionally by Nigerian ladies countless times

Sagamite: Thank you, jor!

E ma wo awon babes.

I will soon move over paa paa just because of the classier babes.

Please park your load and go
The UK chics won't miss you at all

Sagamite: Rudeness is classlessness.

Thinking you have to be disparaging to men is classlessness.

Talking loud and being belligerent in public is classlessness.

Having the audacity to think you can talk rudely about someone to the ir face is classlessness.

Having the audacity to think because you are a man wooing them or about to woo them, they can behave as they wish or talk as they wish. (You are a witness to that one)

They have their head up their arse.

They are poor conversationists.

They have a sick sense of entitlement.



UK, darling.

The ones in Nigeria love me instantly when they see me but I know why.

I have to say, Naija girls from Yankee and Continental Europe I have met have been top notch. Sweet chics!

sooooooo whats the bitter hype all about then if you know not all Nigerian ladies are classless and rude?

Idowuogbo: Dat is d new swags na!

Its a way of forming Bad man.

I reckon whizzy was probs recording in Sahara.

Wearing glass in club is even decent
visited Naija last month and see babes and guys dey wear dark glasses for inside church
fear grip me ooo, I turned to my friend and said which kind senseless swag be this na

Sagamite: Whether na 90. Whether na 85. Whether na 52. they are too much to waddle through and be happy wiht the outcome.

They hardly ever fail me when I meet them in real life. They are rude and classless but yet think you should not even complain because that shows you are a gentleman. Mugu real men oblige them and takinng the dumb training.

Me? If any girl is rude, I put her in her place. Even worse with Naija girls. I particularly save the worst of my attitude for rude Naija girls.

Just by a first few seconds of interactions with a black girl, I can tell if she is Naija or Southern African. I aint joking. The difference is 7-Up.

You can take a Southern African or Polish girl out for dinner and not get shyt out of it but you will still enjoy her vibes and respect her.

Story!!!!!
Enjoy polish woman vibes? na beans lol

Sagamite: Nah, I will bad mouth them!

I am very happy to.

I think we have raised a generation and are still raising a next generation of obnoxious, irritating and annoying Naija women, bar a very few exceptions.

It is pertinent I am blunt about this as it is critical. And we all know I like my shock treatments, hence my bad mouthing.

I do not and will never hide the fact that I don't like most Naija and Jamo girls. They are incredible rude, classless and annoying. When one has the opportunity to interact with babes from other cultures and regions, that is when one can really have the basis of comparison and can unveil the personality miasma of the average Naija girl. If you interact with an average Naija girl, it usually really does not take long before one (with a brain) start thinking "what kind of ediot is this?". I don't hate them all but I pick and choose the ones I want to respect. Majority of them I despise.

They need to check themselves as they are currently wrecking themselves.

Honey reaax and put a halt to that vile attitude of yours towards Nigerian women before I dishusband you

The truth is that I do get where you are coming from, most Nigerian girls especially those in UK have this degrading extremely unpleasant attitude that I for one wonder what they derive from it.
A clean nice dude walked up to me today and half way into the conversation he asked where I was from, I told him Nigeria and he had this wild shocking look on his face that last for seconds and the next thing he said was "be serious, the Nigerian girls I have meant are rather ill mannered in most cases" I kinda felt uneased cos this was coming from a non-Nigerian

but at the same time in every given situation there are 'PROS and CONS' and this present generation even made it worse but then again I have met and I am friends with Nigerian girls that are well mannered, intelligent and decent

Yes you have meant some Nigerian women whose attitude disgust you but I am guessing you have not taken time to know more about few of them as they might be the opposite of what you think about them

Let down that unpleasant attitude you have for Nigerian ladies for just one day and explore the well nurtured ladies (not the nicki minajs wannabe o lol) and see for yourself that there is always gonna be the good, bad and terrible

Lovely. . . . . .

Sagamite: See babe!

Fine with personality as well.

And she would be lying she is a Nigerian girl!

Olodo, don't come and confess what country you really are from.

stop bad mouthing Nigerian babes ooooooo haba they are every man's dream

Emylexray: if its the 'JESUS" i know you murderd his name this way, then you don't deserve to live.

you should be ashamed of yourself dork-face, what a pathetic spaz u r
is it my fault you have the IQ of dirt? please watch who and how you address people here on NL

blawd of jisox

My mum was self-confidence and that made a great impact on us as kids when we were growing up, she always had a smile on her face even when things were rough. She believes and taught us never to depend on a man
she made herself a role model, she would stand in front of a mirror while making up saying mehnnnn your dad is a very lucky man hooking down a beautiful, industrious and virtuous woman like myself and having the most precious kids on earth for him with her red lipstick on her lips and I find myself emulating that act

My dad is a case . he is a very open minded man, he would talk to me about sex, his past relationships etc some of which I find gross, it even got to an extent his friends would say out loud when my dad and I are together that they would love to have the kind of father-daughter relationship my dad has with us . he always told us how beautiful and intelligent we are, how his friends admire us that we are indeed a treasure to behold those words did not only boost my confidence it also made me proud of myself and having the zeal to work hard.

PS: Those things didn't really give me the kind of boldness I needed but it was indeed a great stepping stone. My self confidence improved a great deal due to the outside exposure I had, I made mistakes and learnt from them, it made me very humble and have great respect for evryone especially men but at the same time I know my worth and no man dares take me for a ride (except he wan die )

The first step to make a child have self respect is being a role model to them and the outside world will mould them into what they want to become in as much as they thread cautiously

BoboYekini: you're something, you know that?

Lol. . . . I'm so many things honey, so which r u referring to?

BoboYekini: God, yme.

dear

The bini traditional wedding attire

[quote author=Ileke-IdI]Yme, Is it Benin or Bini? I always spell it as Bini. . . . not sure if that's right[/quote]The right spelling for it is actually Bini(eg: bini people, bini culture etc)
but when addressing the city its mostly written as 'Benin city'

I love my benin attire
I love the Yoruba attire
I love the igbo attire too

Last time I checked its a Man's world so let him pop the question definitely not me