₦airaland Forum

So it is true that wisdom can borrow a place in the mind of a fool.

I hope the wisdom that rent an apartment in his thinking faculty will become a permanent resident there. All thanks to Corona virus.

Like Nigerians will be delivered from the hand of this terrible politicians because, many of hem will not survive this evil.

alezzy13:
Wetin you wan carry his identity do?

Wetin we carry Patrick Sawyer's identity do during the outbreak of Ebola?

Isn't the scam real?

Unfortunately the foreigner in question has no identity..... A faceless corona virus carrier.

Leezah:
Choose. Your girlfriend has reason to feel the way she does and you know it.

Maybe.

2 out of 2 times I have ever been jealous of an ex boyfriend's friend (not with every ex boyfriend was this an issue) it was found out later that the female friend was indeed crushing on my boyfriend. Women unlike men tend to “read” people well, especially other women. When in love a woman's intuition especially tends to intensify. Then again so does her jealousy so this can be a tricky situation that requires some reflection and honesty with yourself and openness with your girlfriend.

Some of what made me feel jealous in these times was intuition, but some things I just simply understand by being a female myself and having many female friends. I knew certain subtle things females do when they like a guy and saw it. Even personally I crushed on guy friends before and some never suspected it. So it's definitely possible your girlfriend sees something you don't.

Anyways, aside from intuition and certain gestures i saw, I noticed that these 2 boyfriends would run to the female friend with all the problems we had as though she was his “refuge”. This is growing intimacy with your friend instead of your girlfriend and a BIG NO-NO. It would have been better that they went to an older and wiser man for counsel than to her.

Although you may go to your female friend for advice with other problems you should never ever come to her with relationship problems. Friends of the opposite shouldn't know all the intimate details of your relationship. As soon as you have a girlfriend this is the most immediate way in which your friendship to your friend should change. By you coming to her you are now showing her what sort of romantic partner you are and how “romantically compatible” you now are with her.

Women are weird. As soon as you deeply open up about these conditions of your heart, etc, we cant help but to at least wonder if we are romantically compatible especially since we come out the womb being relationship/love oriented. Unless you want your female friend trying to now question secretively if you and her are compatible its best you leave her in the dark about this “intimate” side of you or only expose this side of you when you are single. Also don't break up with your girlfriend and the next day run to your female about the issues. Especially in young love people break up then 2 months later are back together.

Overall allowing a female friend to see these aspects of you should be when you are single (via the title of being single and via emotionally being untied to anyone). Then and only then you should share your romantic/relationship characteristics with your opposite sexed friend and even then just know you are opening the strong possibility that this friend will now start qualifying and disqualifying you as a romantic partner.

If you want female advice then ask older women but maybe not your mom or those who would have too much bias and too easily take your side. Maybe Nairaland could be good however take every answer with a grain of salt including my own. Honestly relationships and determining what is acceptable and not acceptable is personal and takes personal reflection. You can't just take advice for everything.

I especially think in todays world with so many boys raised without fathers its not good to get all your relationship do's and don't from females. You shouldn't think like a female when dating a female. You should think like a man. For the most part men have to be more patient and giving in certain areas of relationships and women should be more patient in othe areas. Learning intimate relationships is not like learning to be politically correct or learning what's publicly proper. Although I do recommend reading relationship books from people who share your same vision of intimate relationships dating someone is the foundation in an intimate world you are creating and everyone is different in what they can accept or what they prefer. People's preferences in love ranges from the most traditional to the grotesque…

Meditate on what you want. Overall if this is a woman who fits every aspect of your vision of an intimate relationship than her opinion does matter. At the end of a day you and HER will be the main creators of a world between your walls and conforming to her in all aspects that's reasonably possible and vice versa is key in making a lasting relationship (keyword:reasonable).

Overall there are many questions you have to ask before you seek to end your friendship. In my own situation both of these boyfriends much later “confessed” that they deeply knew the female friend liked them since I first mentioned my jealousy but they thought it wasn't a big deal unless they fed into it. Personally I felt these were feeding into it (again men don't tend to know the world of female emotion as well). Can you honestly and I mean SINCERELY look at all the encounters with your female friend say that beyond a shadow of a doubt this friend has absolutely, and I mean absolutely has no crush on you? Honestly not even her having a boyfriend matters. Having a boyfriend doesn't stop one from having basic human desires towards another. In divorce courts we see this clearly, so of course in simply dating we can't deny this simple fact of life.

Anywho, despite my own experiences, at the end of the day I would not say it's the best solution to always cut off the female friend just because your girlfriend is jealous especially without considering these things I mentioned.

Many times we date just to date and practice a long term commitment.

Look at everything mentioned here, reflect, keep intimate problems away from opposite sexed friend, and determine your motivation in dating the woman you're with. Is she practice or is she the one?
Is she seeing something you don't or is it jealous?
Is it every female friend and interaction that makes her jealous or is it just this one friend?
Is not conforming to her in this way worth risking a lifetime of not having her by your side?
Many questions to ask before you take any action.

Habah...! Anti...Amotekun! On top this small and harmless matter na hin you open book of worms to show us you be relationship technocrat. I fear you oooo.

Isn't it a Chinese virus?

The problem is always Trump and not the tweet.

lepasharon:
Japan never accepted your jebus and they're doing just fine.

Were they atheist in Japan?

It's better you think twice before exposing the weaknesses of your atheism.

kingxsamz:
Atheism is not a religion Dimwit!

Where did I suggest atheism to be a religion? oh thou nonentity!

There's nothing like atheism anywhere in the whole word and it can never be.

John 8:32...... Ye shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.

harakiri:
You should start with what happened in the council of nicea before you even talk. You know Nada.

This is not my first time of shutting people like permanently down on a forum like this. Atheism is always bad abinitio..... It always lack superior contestation strength.

kingxsamz:
The only illogical reasoning I can sense here is yours.

No one knows how the universe came to be, therefore there must be a being behind its creation, all because it was written in a book by your fellow human being.
You agree that there's a God who created the universe but at the same time, disagree that this same God was created.
You're delusional my friend.

You made no sense up there oga.

There's a God behind the creation and his name Jehovah..... Atheism has no good historical past anywhere in the universe and can never have in this present world. Shame!

harakiri:
A few hundred years ago, even your ancestors didn't know what a bible was talk less of Christ. Further more, the slave ship to berth in Africa was named JESUS.

Who is the big fool now? Huh?

Fool.

Go and check the history of civilised nations, you'll definitely see God and Jesus as the cornerstone that uphold such lands...... Where's atheism or its contributions to the glory of all this lands?

Note: My problem is atheism and not even the lawsuit.

Satan66:
The universe is the universe.

You just refuse to accept the fact that we came from pre existing cells that took billions of years of evolution and chemical reactions for us to reach this stage.
Either that or you just can't comprehend that, you find it easier to believe that there's an invisible Man in the sky that made everything in just 7 days and that humans came from DUST particles

Illogical reasoning is always the problem. Take it or leave it; there's Almighty creator behind the existence of man and other matter..... He sustains and maintains all things by the word of his power....... Very easy to understand!

It is even ridiculous for this set of ignoramus to seek cheap popularity by attacking Christianity in the name so called public interest. Those baby factory set of homos who lacks ability reason logically but giving everything their own self deluded meaning.

National Association of foolish people tell us the relevance of your association to your community.

Bunch of fools living in fool's paradise.

Location?

backbone503:
Obaseki go lose this fight

Better than not fighting at all.

End time family......


This is a perfect example of household of error.

E ma pariwo


Na just audio...

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[quote author= post=86424036]Awon die hard people!!

Information reaching us @[color=#006600][/color] says that 'A total of 60 Nigerians are living in Wuhan city where the virus broke out from, No Nigerian in China had been infected and we have our brothers and sisters in our prayers everyday not to contact this deadly virus'
Kindly say Amen to this,
if you love your fellow Nigerians pleaseee....


We came across this thread showing us the kinda food they eat in Wuhan, China,
We shock no be small......
These are just 4 of the over 10 pics we saw.
We hope Nigerians living in that part of the world do not eat this?!
*Pukes*


So damn!![/quote]Can you please repackage this comment and make it a new thread with pictures for us to have more insight into the Chinese bizarre menu options.... Thanks in advance

AroleOduduwa2:
I am against the destruction of properties, this is politics of bitterness, Obaseki should remember power is transient.

Oshiomole during his time as governor of Edo forgot that power is elusive.... So unfortunate!

Trump: Discharged and Acquitted!

Pelossy:Disgraced and Dejected!


Shame on DEMONcracts and their hoax impeachment

Stupidity is when your are competing with Buhari on appointment of old and unproductive people into the public offices.


#Nigeria Ambassador to The United States...

valentineuwakwe:
They should show us pictures or videos to see and believe this stories not releasing pressms tatememt as if they are working whereas they are not doing anything. ....enough of these insecurity fights and counterterrorism on papers and media outlets!

Na audio Terrorist dem dey arrest jor!

Ansaru ko Amadiya ni.

They will forgive, empower them with huge sum of money and release them again into the society so that the terrorist will recruit more foot soldiers and more unbudgeted money will be channeled to fighting insecurity in the North.

That business plan highly profitable.

This is a very bad news for my Area oooo. This one affects my area directly.... That area is not far from Akeredolu's house in Ibadan. Haaaaa, heat and mosquitoes for midnight.. Chaiiii

So Northern Coalition now believes that Nigerians are unsecured in their land or a retaliatory move against well information Amotekun of the southwest?

Hurriedly packaged sham security outfit.. Awon wole wole ile Awusa

Sacrifice for inside school may be a high level prank but if you see sacrifice at a junction in Ogbomoso please close your eyes and pick race.... If you think I'm joking, ask any police officer who has at least 6 months working experience in that land.

Hypnotise:
If they arent careful, i will have to interfere in their matter.

Abeg my guy no choook mouth for the matter yet. Your attention and expertise is needed for Aso Rock urgently.

EzeIgbo1:
Which Ezeigbo is a member of BMC? Is it the Ezeigbo in your father's bedroom or which one?

Mind your language whenever you want to address an Eze. The repercussions of your unguarded words may be too heavy on you

Na so dem wicked reach for your family house? No wonder every young men for your village dey run for their lives..... See wetin a talk; she the large amount of threat you issued!

Typical if witches and wizards

Blainz:
Wasn't it also a "New Low" for Trump for snubbing Pelosi's handshake offer?

Snubbing that old haggard mischievous bitch in the public is a new height for President Trump. Do you want that American witch doctor to hypnotise him and score another cheap political score?

EzeIgbo1:
Nancy nwaoma. You did well to rip that rubbish up. That lying orange baby will be removed come November and that is already set in stone.

Ezeigbo cannot and will not support a Bully, a liar and a criminally minded human being like Trump.

Nancy I gaa di. Udo!

But Ezeigbo is a member of BMC crew.

The bible is talking about rebellious people of Jerusalem who went against the will of God despite blessing them..... Jeremiah 5:6 is rather a curse than a blessing, a judgement rather than protection.

This man (Akintola) actually need a brain transplant....