If we have a smart and responsive government, they will do something about this

Which one is Tecno and Infinix using on their latest phones?

xavuv:
@op don't think about divorcing her.

Your case is simpler in that your family and the wife's family know from the start, and will probably support if eventually u have an ss child.

Hear this other case:

i know a guy like that. He and his fiancee are both AS, they know from the start. The guys parent (educated) were in the know of their son's and fiancee's genotype,AS, and they suported them ( spiritual reasons, one pastor/alfa told them genotype doesnt matter etc)

However, the guy's parent, intending couples, delibrately kept such vital info from the girl's parent ( because wedding wld probably be halted by girl's parents). How deceptive and gullible!

They (Intending couples) had to get a fake gentotype result for that my guy to show the girls parents cuz they too are very educated. Imagine such deception. Their marriage held in march.

What do u make of that?

Just the way mine also happened, because it got to a point when I was asked to shut up by both her sisters and my sisters. Don't tell anybody about your genotype again, that's what they told me. That, they have gone to check it somewhere, they have prayed about it, we won't have SS children, things like that.
My own sisters even blame me more, me that I'm a graduate, I didn't check genotype before date is choosen. They just console me that, they are women too, and they know how my wife and her family will feel if wedding is cancelled.
Yes, I reluctantly agreed with them, but my heart is always heavy with regrets sometimes. That's why I'm saying it out. Thank you all.

Fundamentalist:
A man should be able to stand by his words. 3 years ago I rejected a lady i wanted to marry. I discovered if I went ahead with it, I won't be be happy at all. She wanted me badly but I knew I might enter one chance. I took only a day to make a decision that it had to be called off. please note that both families knew about the relationship and were looking forward to end of 2017 for the marriage. There was pressure from my family to continue but I stood by my decision. This continued for 6 months. With my total silence on the issue everyone just left me alone. Please let's know what we want when entering a marriage. No one would bare your cross when problems start. Since you have put a lady in a family way, you have to bare the cross. If she's my sister i wont let you off. Rather call off a wedding that people would attend and even forget when it happened than live a marriage full of sadness and regret. Please take of your pregnant wife. She's your responsibility. Despite my cancelled relationship everyone is looking towards my marriage till today.

I wish you are in my shoes to have a first hand experience of everything like I do.
You called off a relationship, bro it's not an upcoming wedding which date have been fixed. You discontinued a relationship without giving reason, We are talking about genotype here my brother.
I'm only worried deep inside me as well as my wife.
We are both nice persons, We treat each other well even when it seems there is No love between us again. I am only expecting more than what we are doing presently, that's why I'm bothered and feeling sad. If I'm thinking of divorce, definitely it's not yet time, we are still together for now to take care of the baby.

Saintmary:

Plot hole number one: You cannot complete your fresher registration in any higher institution without doing blood group and genotype tests. (Or did you buy your certificate?)
I'm coming.

some of you, when you come online, you only end up demonstrating how deluded you are.
I deliberately put up the story in thousands of words to keep people like you away from the comments. You can see I didn't apologize for writing so long as it also help me to give enough details about the matter. I'm also using my real account to avoid people tagging the story fake because I sincerely need the advice and words of encouragement. I'm doing this also to reach out to those who don't know their genotype to get tested before before getting married.
What about if there was a mix-up from the school genotype result? Do you think it's advisable to rely on such genotype result which is conducted massively? Even if you have it done in school, please go and double check for marriage purpose. Go through my write up again, I didn't deny doing it in school but I never take cognisance of the out come. Maybe I misplaced the result since I don't have any reason to be in the hospital.
And to that your mumu question, about buying result... I'm coming.

KanwuliaExtra:


Oh hell! You are already IN IT!
Deal with it and stop whining.
What implications with a child on the way?



And who says an AA like me would wanno deal with you? You are extremely IGNORANT, immature and annoying.

The only lesson you can teach anyone with half a brain is to get a PROPER EDUCATION before discussing common sense issues on or offline.

I will not respond to you more than I have, since it would really be a waste of my precious time.

All the best!

Who is this person na? You just reminds me of the reactions one my wife's sister gave then. Abeg, take things easy with your self, I'm not fighting you please. Even my wife now realized how risky it is for us having more children together and if we resolve to divorce, I think she is wouldn't mind. Will you help us with hospital bills when it happens? will you give us the moral and emotional support of seeing a child sick every time? Please spare me some space to allow for people who have good things to say. Thank you.

Fountainofyouth:
In all your write up, I was looking for where she forced you at gun point to marry her, but its not there, so why are you making it seem like it's her fault? You walked to the Nikkah, you were not dragged, so own it and stop the blame game,

Anyway, the deed has been done, stay with her till she gives birth, then talk to her to make her understand that the more you both stay together, there is a chance of birthing SS, I'll never advice adults to stay together knowing they are both AS to marry or whatever, so pls divorce her, you're saving multiple lifes if you do that.

P.S nobody should come here and say there are solutions to it, not everyone can afford $10,000 to $1,000,000 for a bone marrow or whatever they call it.

Thank you, I admit, I'm responsible for part of the blame, because I couldn't stand my ground during those period. I was timid and confused at the same time.
Even though I tried my best but my wife made it seem like, I'm the bad person then. If I have her support on my view point then, things would have been different. A friend I invited to talk to my wife and her sisters, was unable to convince them. He later asked me to do it, just for the sake of my personality as they think it was a kind of betrayal on my side.
My elder sister was afraid of my wife's sister and her family, base on fetish reason and name calling, because I'm the only one trying to back off, my wife is not ready to stop. So, she encouraged me to go ahead that we can later find solution to the matter.
There are different lies we can cook up together to stop the wedding but when my wife wasn't in support, I was left me with no choice.

Petyprincess:
You have 95 percent of the blame!! Stop blaming your wife!

I didn't blame her but I have to tell everything as it happens. Her own reasons was she thinks she was pregnant before the marriage, she was in love and ready for marriage, and She can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage. Plus encouragement from her sisters.
I am taking good care of her as expected, but the flow is no longer there. She even frown at sex for some time, and I was not bothered also about sex, until recently when the doctor told her she will need it at this stage of her condition.

KanwuliaExtra:
Please, there is nothing to be unhappy about. When you choose to be with someone, there are no inconveniences. You work through your problems together and build a formidable network of coping mechanisms.

Life always throws curve balls. I always welcome the challenges and try to deal with them as positively as possible. Yeah, it will be tough, but I don’t think I would want to be with anybody else, because I CHOSE to be WITH YOU.

You are frankly not ready for a relationship, not to mention marriage. The only reason you feel unhappy is that you are SELFISH and you lack INTEGRITY!

You are doomed to be unhappy in any relationship or marriage you get into anyhooooo. People like you always see the imperfections in others, while turning a blind eye to their own MEGA-FAULTS.

You lack resolve and will quit when the going gets tough. Are you the “GOD” that created people?

If you can’t accept your situation, please man up and leave the relationship. Hopefully, the next marriage won’t have BARRENNESS, HIV or CORONA as your excuse to be unhappy.

Shior!

Without checking your profile, I know this a female voice.
This is how majority of you always sound.
If I come come over here to seek for an advise during those period, people like you will ask me to go ahead without thinking of the implications.
Did you see me mention that I'm perfect? I'm a career also, AS. If I have known this earlier, I will insist on a relationship with only AA. Please, I can't stand any negative comments this moment as I'm a kind of guy that will never give a damn about your derailing opinion. I believe so much in God's will as well human personal endeavor to achieve whatever you desire. Gbogbo epe to ba she, o ma pada so ri e ni.
I bring out my story for others to learn ni. Only God knows what will happen later as I'm only contemplating divorce which I have not done yet. How many SS children have you helped to survive if you want people to continue breeding sickler?

CANDYDADDY:
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baby girl,welcome to Nigeria

Dullard and a Nepa bill holder is our president,where brainless yoruba Muslim is his sole supporter

please baby girl dont expect much!

This is madly funny but too mean. I don't know maybe to laugh at it

I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

It's highly commendable.

Atiku:
If at any point the victim has made it clear that you don’t have their consent but you proceed, you are a rapist

This consent we are talking about... Does a lady need to make it known verbally or her body language is enough as consent?

On the trending topic of rape, me and my friends couldn't agree on a generally acceptable definition of rape because of the divergence opinions and circumstances that can be observed on the event.

It's so obvious that the recent case of Uniben student is a violent attack and the perpetrator could be stranger and a criminal to the lady, that is wrong and we condemn it totally.

But when you are not a stranger and you are in the best position to do it together and of course you expect your partner to consent to the act, maybe a girlfriend or wife or friends with benefits. How do we explain rape is such scenario? because some men are saying girls are framing up lies to accuse them wrongly or the ladies are trying to get back at their exes on a past relationships that went wrong.

Someone also try to explain rape as "it doesn't have to be forceful or violent attack, Just a mere 'NO' from the lady Even if she's naked, spreads her legs and looks at you with sultry eyes in your room, if you approach her and she says NO only once or twice, and even without her struggling or protesting, she didn't cry nor scream, if you go ahead, it's a rape".

I wish to get a perfect definition of rape if that is not acceptable.

He is actually refer to healthy children.. He is trying to say, one the reasons we married is children, so why can't the children be healthy?

DisGuy:
This is a good opportunity for julius berger, they can speed up the reconstruction and maintenance

Are you sure they are not affected by this lock down?, what about the employee? Aren't they at home too?

Lagos is their now new overseas and abroad.

Nigeria is still intact, the people are still reasonable, we are only having problem with the current administration.

The situation in which the newly employed teachers of KW SUBEB find theirselves is alarming, The teachers are not sure of their fate in terms payments of their May salary arrears neither of the immediate past month of June 2019. They find theirselves in a dilemma condition, the screening promised by Governor AbdulRahaman AbdulRasak is yet to take place. The teachers were only ask to continue working, as the new governor has already debunk the rumors of sacking any workers, but no action is taken to restore hope on the workers' predicament.
It's no longer news that majority of our schools are short fall of teachers in classroom especially in the remote areas of Kwara State, hence their employment is inevitable. The new intake of teachers are doing their best to cover up the loop holes by discharging their duties accordingly, even without payment. They are committed to showing their competency and willingness to serve the state by saving the deteriorating condition of our education sector. Many of them have families to carter for, some are now in debt as a result of borrowing transport fair and money for feeding so as to meet up with their classroom duty.
We are pleading to the new governor of Kwara State to respond to the condition of these new KW SUBEB teachers.

If I see a surest and easy means of getting low interest capital without ambiguous collateral, I can do some business, but no one yet.
Please, don't tell me to learn a handwork, because I'm a very good barber with no means to have a shop of my own in a good location. Applying to work for shop owners but no vacancy.
Also, don't tell me to do anything I see, because I'm doing one already. I'm a teacher in a school with very low salary, not even up to NYSC allowance, and the salary is just for 9 months in a year. I have tried to manage this for 3 years now.
I'm a graduate with degree in economics, done with NYSC. I'm ready to do any kind of job in Ilorin that will increase my income and improve my standard of living.
Pls ask for my email, if you have something for me.

Generally, cost of living is on the high side, over two years ago I have tried to avoid costly accommodation in Ilorin here. Costly as in room and parlour self contained for the price of 70-90k. My budget for it has always been 50k, but I couldn't get for such amount.
Now I have to settle for same type of apartment for 100k, and 30k for agent, Well serviced with all facilities. Varies from environment, my side is ogidi, it's a cool environment with steady power supply because of some federal government establishment around the area. Someone already talked about feeding, transportation and school fees above.

I also agree with that post mentioned by the OP as one of the best

Simi's stylist are always getting it wrong. U don't wear a laced shoes on native attire or gown. They can find flat sole shoes just like this without lace and it will look more smarter

Oladipupo33:
Only a thief wil be saying that

if any one try to criticize the obviously failed government programs, the person is a thief now, abi?

I want to pay my debt now, cuz I don't like gbese, how do I pay

See list, Yam lagged ladies full that state you put for number one

noziz:



listen there is no looted fund anywhere and for your information I do know how to barb just Dat I won't have that time to manage it myself because of other things I want to dive in... so get Dat straight...

See your self talking like...If you are very good in Barbing and you take it as a job like a pro, you won't come and ask dumb questions. And beside, no expert barber can leave the job for other job because your outstanding craft will fetch you enough to live a good life.

Realestatepro:



Can u take out time to read what u scribbled all over again?
Read it slowly this time and see if it makes sense.
Some people just take out time to write trash from their imagination and post it without thinking properly.

It seems you have some bomb in skull, I won't be the one to detonate it. Its you that should read my message all over again, dumb mugu. I hate all these people these days, any small change they have, its barbers shop, why can't you go invest in other professions like that. This work has its own nature and rudiments which novice like you can't understand, all you care about is...i have money for shop rent and clippers. Dubious greedy, myopic minded fellows.

Anybody hit one looted fund, the next thing they think of is barbers shop without even knowing how to hold clipper. Before you know it, they will be looking for a professional stylist who they will use any how. Dumb people lacking good business idea, allow the best stylist and professional alone in the business, We have the basic skills and fund to start and manage the work. Don't just say because you have money, you want to eat the fruit of labour of a devoted personnel. You too go and learn and do the work, see how tidious and time consuming it is. Lazy people.

this is not just a wedding, money was involved

Used car by Obama