₦airaland Forum

2dugged:
they are both unacceptable, but considering the Nigerian factor, what else can a woman do than to keep forgiving, or you think the 95% of the cheating husbands don't know about their husband's exploits?, maybe an introduction of condoms on the part of the wife for her own protection will be better but watch it as the Nigerian man will call family meeting on your head and turn it around in his favor, and trust Nigerian culture to favor him too

I feel terribly pained. What else can a woman do? Quit the relationship!!. I have been married for about a year, I haven't cheated on my wife I feel a type of bonding between me and my wife, she doesn't need to be with me to do the right thing. I see beautiful girls everyday but wht they think they have my wife has it , what has helped is basically the fear of God, and self control. I can cheat and she won't know but my conscience won't even allow me to because we pray togeher so how will I b e able to call on the name of God when we are together knowing God saw the evil I did. I can not stand a cheating partner so I expect same. Please my dear ladies marriage isn't by force. Our ladies are too weak, how can you be permissive to cheating?

With the comments I see here its obvious we can not live together peacefully. We are in a failed relatonshp. Forcing ourselves to stay under the same roof because we have signed a marriage register meanwhile the hubby can't sleep with his wife and she is bleeping someone else. Absolute rubbish. We have totally lost it in this country. Even if president obama becomes nigerias president I can bet you he will resign in 2 weeks. Only a lion can rule this country. I want the military back ASAP.

Please can someone define what islamisation of a country means? Because it seems most people don't understand. That ben of a man must have been to dubai before right?

wrongnumber:
Every lady wailing over that point 1 are either foolish, myopic or outrightly dumb.

If I were the op I Will not even respond to any comment from any mumu lady wey never marry because nah teenagers and naive ladies full naira land.

I Don read the article twice and I still don't understand why many ladies are castigating except the fact that most of them have low iq to comprehend.

If you like die and come back to life, a guy wey go cheat go cheat so why the wailing?

Op is saying "expect him to cheat" but if he does not fine so why is this hard for ladies to comprehend?

Last Wednesday I witness where a man almost broke the head of his wife because the wife dey accuse am of cheating and my mum who is over 60 was just shaking her head that young ladies of nowadays are ignorant.

The one that shocked me the most was wen my younger sis told me that 95% of ladies in psycathry are there because of man issue which boils down to the same cheating palava. I read where an American lady died while chasing her husband who she suspects of cheating on her so abeg is it not better to live long as a woman rather than die over a worthless matter you have little or no power to stop?

Op I may not agree with some of your threads but any woman that has a little iq should follow your advice in this masterpiece and she will never have marital issues but let the imature ones who still believe elephants can fly continue in their folishness.

The craziest part is that 8 out of 10 women who leave a cheating husband ends up committing adultery with another woman husband or start sleeping around like slugs so why leave your marriage in the first place?

would you also expect your wife to cheat? i never said she will but just have it in mind so if it happens you will take it in good strides? at least if you wont take it you can leave.

Toks2008:
I have seen many marriages break up and it seems there is a common ground for disintegration.Today I will be as real as usual and it will be in the best interest of any married lady or intending wife to take this piece seriously.

If you are a married lady reading this I want you to understand that these 3 facts are essential for you to experience a happy union.

1. Expect your hubby to cheat on you: I have heard many times that not all men cheat and I sincerely believe but nevertheless, to be on the safer side, expect that man to cheat on you.

By having this expectation, you will not be caught unaware and you would have developed a psychological shock absorber in the advent that he does but if he remains faithful to you then good for you. It is totally foolish for a lady to hinge her marital happiness on her husband's fidelity.

And the moment you start seeing those cheating signs in him,rather that start threatening fire and brimstone which may worsen the situation, i will advice that you simply warn him to do it as far can from you because what you don't know can't hurt you and warn him to use a protection to avoid bringing home STDs.

Once you tell him this, just switch to indifferent mode as regards his sexual faithfulness to you and choose to be happy regardless. Hard I know but this is just how the cookie crumbles and this is one secret to having marital bliss even with a hopeless philanderer.

[b]This is one big secret i want every married lady reading this to know; Yes cheating must be discouraged and guys involved must understand that it is a sure way to hell but no matter how long you preach against it,men who want to cheat will still cheat on their wives but here is the secret...98% of men who cheat on their wives still love their wives so dearly but only want to take advantage of ladies who have willingly offered their-selves as side dishes...NEVER EVER GIVE UP YOUR MARRIAGE FOR A SIDE DISH TO TAKE OVER because that is what she wants you to do and even if you leave your marriage, there is no guaranty that your next man won't do worse. Believe it or not, most men always come back to their wives no matter how many side dishes they take advantage of and many men suffer from mid-life delusion crises where they believe it is their right to be with as any ladies as possible but relax, that euphoria and delusion will soon wear off and you will have your man 100% to yourself...This is one big secret i just revealed to you.[/b]

2. Make your own money: Do you know that if you are really busy with your life and very financially independent, you will care less about who your husband sees, where he goes and what he does outside the home or even what he has in his will? Do you know that men respect financially independent ladies?

What I want many married ladies to know is that once they are married and start having children, the most important thing in their life at that point is self development and that of the child(ren). When you spend time developing yourself, even your hubby will give you great respect. Please don't ever settle to be a full housewife..at worst get a shop around where you stay and do something.

3.Perform your marital duties: Men do not joke with bedroom and kitchen matters. Do you know how to cook your husband's favourite meals? do you know how to make him go crazy in the room?

Most men who cheat are lured by either good food or bed-magics of another lady. While you refuse to go down on him and give him those crazy moves, one lady out there is ready to do stuffs that will make him have an attention at work just by thinking about her.

Many married ladies keep nagging about their husband's infidelity while neglecting those virtues that will endear their husbands more to them..most times when a man is drawn away by another lady, there is usually something that lady is doing that you are lacking so focus first on becoming a great wife before you complain of your husband's infidelity.

And for the man, be communicative and let your wife knows what you want so that she can do her best to make the union a better one.
And if you are so hell bent on cheating on your wife please do it as far away as you can because one of the biggest ridicule and disrespect you can bring on your marriage is to cheat on her to her face.

I believe that if married ladies understand these three points, they will always remain happy in their marriages and infact grow old with their partners till death do them apart. You just understand that no one holds the key to your marital happiness except you.


I hope this makes sense

i was almost going to say that the expectation of your point 1 will make any rational woman not to perform on duty number 3. i understand we are living in the last days where bad is seen as good, but should we men then also expect our wives to cheat? looking at the points you have listed i would rather call it a recipe for a broken marriage, and my reason is after looking at your point number 2, no rational woman who makes her own money will stay under the same roof with a cheating spouse, how can you be self sustaining and still stay with something that causes you pain and you expect to perform in the kitchen and in the bedroom. thank God am not a woman. the day i notice my husband cheating, i don't need to be making my money, i will walk away. marriage is not a do or die thing. if coupling will cause pain, then why not try being single again. its the hard truth and we have to deal with it. the only reason the scriptures gives for a divorce is infidelity, that's to tell us how serious it is. i feel really ashamed for so many ladies. some ladies even give excuse for their husband's infidelity. my rule is simple: what is good for A is good for B period!!!

Jirate:
Buhari is after the NDA while BH demons are regrouping and getting ready to come for Him, very Interesting.

no doubt you are an NDA sympathiser. who told you they are regrouping. wasn't that how your brothers said they will launch missile? if they are regrouping then what happened under the last dispensation? that means nigeria was captured!!!! please before you type, take a minute or two to think, rather than typing crap because airtel gave you free MB.

@ op, APCharam or whatever your name is: kindly tell me the reason your brought up this thread?? Is it to prove that one region feeds the entire nation? If it is then I have a message for you;



If you are married and you the man gets a job that pays you 200million annually, do you come home to brag to your wife that you re earning so much and that YOUR family is poor without you? Same applies to the woman. So I don't understand all this rant about region. When nigerian won bronze in the just concluded olympics may be kelechi iheanacho should have said the money from the japanese mogul should come to him alone since he scored the goal.

The earlier every region recognises that we are alll irrespective of tribe married and remain a family called NIGERIA, the better for us.

We will remain one.

rubbish. cheap publicity. why not show us pics of your unclothedness, that will sell faster!!!!

unfortunately you dont need any of these parties or men to live a meaningful life. by this time in 2019 people will still be frustrated with the government regardless of who wins. will PDP winning put food on anyones table? so the cry will continue. if there is no money, then there isnt money period

andyboi4real:
I Don't Blame Nigerians That Voted For Change,i Only Wished They Asked Which "Change"(positive Or Negative) Before Voting.

the problem is your people oga. jonathan was there for 6 years what did you guys achieve in your region? a few were exploiting the majority. that must end even if we must all collective suffer as it now.

i sorry for her hubby. he obviously doesnt know he should tame her. totally unnecessary!!!

i cant even imagine that a military equipment will go missing and nothing to locate it , its really shameful. if a car that's worth about N3 million can have a tracker, then i don't know what these guys are doing.

my only contribution is : SPEAK NO EVIL TO THE DEAD. DEATH CAN CALL ON ANYONE WITHOUT NOTICE, YOU DON'T KNOW WHERE, WHEN AND HOW. BUT FOR A CERTAINTY, WE SHALL ALL DIE.

freemanbubble:
sometimes i do not understand life. may be we were born to die. or death is life in disguise.
for everyday we live we are subjected to more than one thousand way to die.
mama jude give me some bottles of satzenbrau, let me use this little money in my pocket now make i nor go die leave am
infact let me die as a satzenbrau because ojukwu died as a hero, michael jackson died as a star and nelson mandela died as a legend

drink with caution. this life isn't all there is!!!!!!! the true God will hold you to account regarding your actions both those in public and those hidden as to whether it is good or bad. so be careful. how you die isn't what matters, but your deeds before you died. a criminal died beside the messiah, he had been a criminal all his life, but simply because he did put faith in the messiah less than 24hours before he died he was reassured to be in paradise.

HarkymTheOracle:
I thought as much as well...cos dat position wasnt high enough to suffocate him..Person wey im knee dey touch ground.

i concur. the only time a hung body may come that low is when the body is decaying. even after one week it wont come that low. i have seen a 10 days old suicide victim.

which kind shoe dem wear? akpolla?

Youngetskilz23:
e no go pass G boys (yahoo). make una flex jor. maga don pay . benin G boys....... while your snoring, they are awake.

very silly comment and someone is clicking like? Very shameless set of people. Such attitude can not grow any economy. People like this will definitely say stealing isn't corruption. Useless folks.

unfortunately everyone will still get disappointed regardless of who wins. quote me by this time in 2019, there will still be complaints, and more if care isn't taken, then the supposed man of God will become a demon, that's the reason why true men of God should have nothing to do with politics except those whose reward lies here.

sanandreas:
No battalion sharing crocodile smile. Alot of illegal mining is going on in the North. It is their resource but if it oil, everybody would be shouting one Nigeria. So many times I ask myself question why.

your blood too dey hot. When good money starts coming from it naturally any government will take it over. You think anyone would come to niger delta if no oil? Or it oil becomes worthless nobody will go for it. Everyone is looking for value

illiterates!!!!!!!!

TheFreeOne:
Sinators and Representathieves are always united in looting but divided when their selfish agendas are threatened.

So Jibrin how much have you also made since becoming a representathief

big kudos to jibrin for having the courage to say this. He hasn't said he is innocent. But if he is guilty let the others speak. He really needs to be careful. These guys can go and length. But I know he has plans to spill everything even if they bring him down. sometimes our associates make us do what our inner persons don't really like. He didn't have a choice than to follow. Proverbs 13:20 is right. Walk with a thief you will become one

This babe always posing for one thing or the other!!!!! I don't get it.

then ladies don't have problem na. this is simple objective , the answers are there already, just choose the one you are comfortable with . no long thing or better still create another option simple

truth is economically this administration haven't lived up to expectation but the chibok community should be quite. under the previous administration am sure they wont have the mouth to utter this because its either they would have been dead or hiding somewhere. sanity has greatly been restored to the northeast, that hasn't prevented pockets of attacks once in a while , bringing back the girls is like trying to take your child from the grasp of a lion, you have to be extremely careful otherwise you will kill the lion and lose the child. but if you decide at any point that the child is gone the lion is never a problem to kill. i still dont believe anyone would have done better. people will make promises when they dont understand the enormity of the task ahead, just like this administration didnt know how far economically. besides 2019 isnt far off, they will have a choice to make, if they make another mistake then we will know they are a mistake in the making.

lielbree:

What a stupid write up. Was the man not sleeping with her while paying her bills?

she was also sleeping with him while he was paying the bills.

Serves her right. You cannot eat your cake and have it. Where was the boyfriend when the man was investing. ? She didn't play her card well. Even if she was dating the boyfriend she ought to lovingly tell the man that she needs to also settle down. Am sure she must have been very rude and called the bluff. She isn't smart. A man will hardly kill what he loves if she lovingly fooled him. She must have done so arrogantly thinking she will never need him.

cktheluckyman:
Why will the army kill innocents for attacks by militants? How come they have not been killing innocent civilians in bornu state for attacks by boko Haram's

I will answer you as much as I can. In the north east boko haram unleashes terror on both civilians and military. So people run away from their homes making it easy for the military to confront the enemies. In this case the residents aren't attacked. They are like a shield for the militants, trust me the military MUST do its job. The best thing nembe residents should do now is leave the area, let the miltary comb the enter area, if they experience any resistance at any point, simply call for aerial support before the ground or naval forces move in. If innocent persons are caught in between, they will pay the ultimate price.

ideology:
Those who think fighting rebels is beans should think well, those asking buhari to use military might also have a rethink.

I keep hearing people saying, "you can not fight government " i laugh


Even boko that was tagged as rag tagged have not yet been defeated

you are talking crap!!! Bokoharam are fundamental extremist, militants are agitators, there is a very big difference, your asari dokubo is on exile living life, you can never be like boko haram!!!!!! Niger deltans love life!!!! Am sure you will not blow yourself up. Dialogue remains the best option.

Unfortunately non of these policies will work. The fundamental problem hasn't yet been addressed. The demand for this comodity far exceeds its supply so please what do you expect? A hike in price. No matter how you regulate it, it will still find its way to the market at an above average price because fact is there is no dollar.

sapiosexual1:
Wickedness is our birthright, it's inherent in us as Nigerians. I tell you.
When bible says : "the heart of man is desperately wicked...... " I believe it was referring to the Nigerian man

not necessarily a nigerian bro. Most poor people who desperately want to be rich develop a wicked heart because of their heart desires. Typical example yahoo boys!!! Economic hardship has made the average nigerian to embrace deception and sees it as a way to live. Mind you some could have money and still be poor mentally so they will still be wicked at heart.

iyke484real:
Mumu Armys, Those Who Refused To Pay You Your Allowance Are Still Sending You To Go And Die, Dont Forget You Guys Where Not Trained In The Water, Water Belongs To The Avengers And There Is No Way You Guys Can Defeat Them There. Use Your Brains, Nigeria Govt Is Not Worth Dyin 4.

they signed for death so you won't be the one to advice them.. Or are you scared already.