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honey86: Condom is not100% reliable. Also there are other things that can be contracted, such as hepatitis B through saliva and Hpv, just by rubbing the groins. Hpv leads to cervical cancer in women. So who now us on the losing end?, getting punished for a sin they did not commit.
You say she should buikd her home on Christ, what about the husband. Is he not supposed to be the spiritual head of the home as well?.

I repeat two wrongs can't make any right. Since the man is weak in prayers, the woman has to be covering the family in prayers.

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dayokanu: She told you like the OP that its in your own interest she uses condom and its the safest thing she can do for now.

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Ya, it hurts. Everybody has his or her way of handling issues, I believe she didn't say it in an aggressive way.

Because if done in a quiet manner, then stories have to be told and I place a listening ear.

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honey86: And in the process if she contracts HIV its also ok?. Most women with the virus contract it from their cheating husbands. Atleast I know a family friend who contracted it from his numerous girlfriends and passed it to his wife. Guess what, this man died, then 2 years later the woman died and left 3 kids to suffer. If she had left when she had the chance, wouldnt she be alive today?.

Point to Ponder: she says she saw condom. Also, that's why am emphasizing on her building the home on Christ. Remember, wife is the owner of the house, but husband is the owner if the home.

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alutacontinua: For starters, if the roles were to be reversed and it's the guy that came to say he saw condoms in his wife's car, would you still endorse that ifeojoba's post?

Wisdom supersedes all . I believe seeing condom in my wives car is not the major thing. Is what she told me that matters.

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alutacontinua: I must be sincere, coming to this family section is starting to get scary for we singles. Abi na only me dey feel lyk dis
Funny enough, it's not even the stories that scare me, it's some people's comments.
Can you imagine what @zhukafa is saying

Nothing should scare you, where have I gone wrong, point it out.

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byvan: As for the fellow suggesting that she should respect him because he is a man,A man ceases to command respect in his home the day he decides to fool himself by being unfaithful,he deserves worst than insults.


Wth are you saying To be respectful why talking to a cheating bastardGod have mercy on women that married men with this daft mentality. You are stripped off every shred of respect the day your wife catches you cheating,that day a kitchen rat will be entitled to more respect than you do.


Op,please don't listen to anybody that is telling you to just fold your hands and keep praying,You ll only add to the statistics of women that spent their entire lives scraping the floors of churches with their knees.Pray from a distanceoooooo,the woman that was roasted to death by her hubby in Aba came back from the church the day she was roasted. God has given us brains to think,please put yours into effective use.i hope you have no kids for this man.

Point of correction, not just a man rather "The MAN" . He is the head of the family, so you accord him that respect.

I still repeat myself, what the woman needs is prayers. She should tighten up her prayer buckles , nothing is impossible for God to do. God is the initiator of marriages , so she needs to ask God for strength .

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ifeojobas: @op please pay attention to the previous post especially points 2, 3 and 6. Additionally, I think that the last thing you should do is call a family meeting...he will see that as an attack. This thing has 2 solutions that will be used together and I know that in no distant time, you will see the visible results. First, if you don't pray, there is no better time than now to start. Pray and don't stop praying. Commit him into God's hands. As you are praying for him to change, pray that God will help you through the process and also help you become a better person. Secondly, operation finish him with kindness. This man knows who his wife is....he just needs a little help. Even if you see him on top of another woman, don't talk. Whether you see him with a pack of condoms, keep quiet. Wake up early, make breakfast for him, keep the house clean, keep the food coming, keep the sex too coming. Just leave him with the condoms... at least in this phase, that'll protect you against any probable stds. Infact when he is leaving the house in the morning, say a word of prayer or just a word..."may you find favour today", "it is well with you today", "have a lovely day, dear", "drive safe". Even during the day, send him a message or two... Try to remember why you fell in love in the first place... Send something like "hey dear, just checking on you. Remember that I love you. Have a nice day/ take care dear. " If it's in the afternoon or early evening you can add a subtle "see you soon". Then one day wear sexy lingerie with all the romantic atmosphere ish, give him the sex of his life. Trust me when I say that things will change for the better. It may hurt, to be so calm and prayerful especially to someone that seemingly does not deserve it; that's why I said that in your prayers, ask God for strength. He seems to get violent only when you've found him out not all the time. So just turn a blind eye to all his vices. All I have said may seem funny but try God and see. Take on a cooler and quieter character. Just be patient. Add a lot of love to the mix. And always speak quietly to him, remember, no fights or arguments. Your life is extremely important. I trust God that at the end, very soon your husband will be the one to come back and apologise to you. P.s. Just send a message or two a day... He'll start looking forward to them. Those girls are just distractions, they are just for sex. Soon and very soon, he'll be back home to you his wife; where he belongs.

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Come check it. You would even give me more than my offer.

honey86: By their speech you shall know them. Any man that says 'woman' obviously has issues and won't hesitate to 'teach her a lesson'. thank God @steph7 is not there with you. Lord knows what you would have done to her.

Yes , she is a woman, so I don't see any thing wrong in it. My dear, I don't get hurt easily okay. I only told her to apply respect.

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bellong: ^^^ Bro, this your last post is very funny.

I agree that she can make the atmosphere less provocative next time but telling her to only pray does not work.


Prayer is good but God expects us to do our part too. The husband needs help urgently on controlling his anger before the wife becomes another Arowolo.

That's why I said she should talk to the husband when in a more better mode. Also I repeat she should always put it in prayers. Most marriages fail because It wasn't built on Gods foundation.

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honey86: Chat it over ke, so if you see your wife with condoms, you would leave her because she's angry and chat it over later?.

Always remember that he is the MAN. Anyway am not in advice to that, but two wrongs don't make any right. She has to be the one enduring and praying to God for a change.

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steph7: @zhukafa, seriously I need to know what your smoking? i am a 100% sure you're the type that would let all hell break lose if you find your partner cheating, but here u are saying the woman should do siddon look

Woman, please don't insult me , ok. If you want to talk to me , talk straight to me. Why asking what am smoking. Please apply respect.

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dayokanu: You mean if the man is cheating on her she shouldnt be stressing the issue? So what should she do instead? I am really curious.

And she asked that is she free to carry condoms around and use it also which resulted in her beating. So once again what should she have done instead?

maybe when she sees her husband banging a babe on their bed he should bring fan for them or what exactly




Beating is not a new thing thats interesting, Smashing head on stabilizer is also not a new thing. have you heard of women who died or became disabled as a result of incessant abuse?

May God really help us

I repeat my self, she shouldn't stress the issue when he is angry, not to tempt the man. Maybe when the man is a better mode, she can chat it over with me. I believe the man would not beat her.

For smashing her head over a stabilizer, it's anger. That's why I adviced her to learn how to put her family in prayers. She should pray to God to wipe off the spirit of anger from her husband.

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dayokanu: So what should she do about the cheating husband who has condoms in his pocket? Buy him more condoms or organize babes for him?

And About the beating what should she do? Should she keep on taking the punches, head smashing on stabilizer and soon concrete

I just want to understand what you would tell your sister is she comes to tell you she found condom in her husbands pocket and when she asked questions she got beaten up badly

Nice questions, and these are the answers to it.

I never said that its a wrong step she took by asking her husband. Since she knows that the man is the anger type, she should not stressing the issue. I believe, she did not just asked the man and the man started beating her immediately.

In the area of beating, it isn't a new thing , they have a way to sort it out. She should go on her kneels in prayers and believing God to change him. No marriage is bed of roses.

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You can, depending on the city you leave. The important thing is just being hardworking .

So there is no opportunity for 2nd choice candidates.

peggykorol: Ok I don't even know where to start.last nite when I was about putting on my gen set it didn't come on.so I noticed their was a problem.I called my hubby by 6pm cos he was hanging out with his friends.I told him to come assist us since we were in darkness(was I wrong)he said ok but didn't return till 11pm.and when he returned he fixed it but I was already asleep and very upset with him because where he was wasn't far from the house.this morning I saw a condomn in hiS jean pocket he wore out last night.I asked him abt it and he said it has been in his car.I have been d one using d car since he wasn't in Nigeria for a short time and am very sure their was no condom in d car.we started arguing and he said I was interrogating him.he said going out with a condom is ths safest thing he can do for himself and then I said that means its ok for your wife to move out with it too abi.he got upset and started hitting me,flogging me with his belt and his shoe.now my point is since we got married this is the 4th time he has slapped me and the first he is beating me like this.he beat me up like a child even locking our room door .finally he hit my head on the stabilizer in our room.where did I go wrong.how can a man who claims he loves me so much beat me up such way.he said I talk to him like he is my houseboy.I don't see myself forgiving him and don't see myself having any intimacy with him either.the feelings I have for him keeps reducing.I really don't know what to do

Just finished reading the thread, and this is my advice to you.

1) Don't walk out of the marriage as some has adviced, note that , No two marriages are the same . Marriages are mearnt for the two partners to work out there modalities.

2) Allow him , don't question him any longer. I believe everyone has a heart. He married you, there is something that he saw in you that made him leave his house and seek for your consent in marriage.

3) Always learn how to put your marriage in prayers, any time you are praying. Some woman out there want him, so you should use your spiritual warfare which is prayers, to fight back.

4) Any one here that is married that can own up and say that him or her partner hasn't quarrelled or attempted or fought before should say it here.

5) Try to know when he is upset, when he is, leave him and when he is in a more better mode, tell him what he is doing or what he has done which is wrong.

6) Don't involve friends to settle your marriage dispute, because your marriage would thrown out to people outside and they would use it to talk over.

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vivianc: Nwanne kpesiere anyi ekpere ike o, egwu dikwa! Ihe nke a bu gini biko nu? Everyday ona afiotu, ndi luru di n'ebe, ndi na alubeghi ana ebe.

I don use akpuru achia wash my eyes o, make e clear well well.

May God help us!


@poster: I'm not qualified to advise you but I pray you get the best advice here. I also pray God grants you the courage to implement whatever decision you take no matter how drastic. All I can say is please take care of yourself, go see a doc and get some drugs, maybe pain relieve drugs. Ndo biko inugo?

Hahahaha, even when am here. Hmmmm

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bblacky: pls i need urgent help. am in the cyber filling the NOUN form for new students am on page 2 but its not progressing anymore to the page 3 after i v accurately filled in my educational qualifications. is there anythin i can do

Suppose to be network error, did you attach any document ? . What is it saying?.

talk2james: Check out the details for the Post-Utme out here. Goodluck

http://fuoye.edu.ng/site-news/248-20132014-post-utme-screening-exercise

Nice information. I appreciate . Can I get the pin from the banks here in port harcourt?

Yungzed: false??how??i dont understand

They haven't started selling the form.

vivianc: awwwwwwww, all these pregnancy stories thaT I hear make me wanna go get knocked up.

If the man runs, who says I can't follow him? All I need do is call a friend who mighT know where he is hanging out after work instead of coming home, the next minute I appear there with my big belle; "Oya, oga let's go home."

When he was doing "the do" iT was sweeTening him, now "the do" is doing me he wants To run away? Abeggy come back here and enjoy The fruiT of your labour; boTh the good and the bad.

My e- wife, we says that I would run away from you. Meanwhile , "the do" was sweetening both of us not only me. So both of us would not run away from each other.

The information is false, we hope to keep you updated on any current information. Thanks

Yungzed: tnks for de info

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OkwaIfugo: For now they do not.
if they will , i will update here.

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ok, thanks.

........ update, there is a rumour that the form is out today and would be sold tommorow,please lets keep our fingers crossed. when its out, i will update the thread properly.

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Destilo: Nothing...it will ask me to wait...then it will suddenly returns.

its a network failure, maybe the site is busy. just try in the night, maybe by 11pm or 12am.

Destilo: Please someone should help cus am in the cafe...trying to submit it for the past 30 minutes.....

what does it say, when you tried submitting?

Do they accept 2nd choice ?

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Please friends, is the form out?