₦airaland Forum

Rubyjade:
Obinna, Sit your brother and clear him everything so that you can make the money.

dem no go gree until the money clear commot for their eye

Corea4king:
We have three major reasons while siblings fall apart

1: getting a wife
2: bringing wives into the family
3:refer to number 1& 2

so true

Rubyjade:

na true talk you dey talk o

Mindlog:
I strongly believe some Nigerian/African men are your low hanging fruits because you can't repeat this crap before a Caucasian audience and you wouldn't end up looking so f.o.o.l.i.s.h!

Does the present Nigeria have an institutionalized health and social support system that would guarantee a lady of 25 years and below who is yet to gain financial stability that if she has children there are sure health care services, if the husband "throws her out of his house" or walks away from the marriage, leaving her and the children behind, what happens to her and the children?

You are too one directional and I will not to associate with your "professionalism" and your health issues communication, you certainly skipped some lectures in school!

bros, forget all dis ur engrish. better suffer neva nack you. I know wetin my family suffer for d hand of one sista like dat wey no fit born pikin for my bros come dey insult us say she no dey our level. all because say she dey lecture for poly.

any man wey want pikin no suppose marry all dis evening newspaper wey full town. If u no wetin women dey use their body do, u no go marry anyone wey don old....

Dimaya:
I am not talking to women. I am talking to young men who want to have children and want to avoid reproductive issues and expensive fertility treatments.

If you had a brother who had to choose between an older woman with IVF treatment and a 23 year old with natural conception, which would you advise?

Women are free to choose what to do with their bodies. But young men need to be made aware of the reality of the female reproductive window, so they can factor that information into decision-making when selecting a wife, particularly if they want children.

I am not speaking in hypothetical situations. Right now, I have four male friends in their
Forties who have spent a combined 100milliom on fertility treatments. It's all they lament about when we talk. They all bought into the social media bs on age gaps and married women in their mid-thirties. Now, after almost 8 years of marriage and millions in healthcare bills, one of them impregnated a 24 year old without his wife's knowledge. He wishes he had just married a much younger woman instead of marrying his wife in her mid-thirties. And he was advised then, but felt it wasn't so much of a big deal.

So armed with that information, why would anyone advise any man to get with a woman whose fertility window is almost over? Why?

Men don't talk about this issues because it's frowned upon and they are shamed if they complain.

This is what my bros is suffering. He married one 34 year old girl like that wey dey do phd and for almost 4 years, no child. Last year, when he got tired for the waiting, na so e quick give one corper belle. Their traditional marriage is next week. The old wife is complaining but the whole family is behind the new girl.

if you tell them, if dem no hear... na their palaver be that....