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OyinO:
Take DNA tests serious at your own peril. That stuff is 50/50. In case you don't understand what I mean by 50/50, I mean 50% accuracy and 50% error prone (inaccuracy). I have watched a foreign movie where DNA TEST RESULT created very devastating irreparable damage to a lovely family but at the end, it was an error. The woman was devastated. So many Melanite American Negros were said to originate from various parts of Africa following DNA testing but they are finding evidence to the contrary in recent times. There are better ways to find out true paternity.

madam rest mbok.... your comment no follow. comparing movie with real life. better advice your papa to go run DNA test for you.

debbydams:

na smiley you dey chop

debbydams:
God for bid

what soy yo eat

debbydams:
How can we convert this to pepper soup

is that what you eat in ilorin

pocohantas:
Safe journey sweetie.

Tell your gender to stop cheating. For every paternity fraud- there is a cheating man.

see a white wey we dey jam for osho thread dey talk... wey many mainlanders don yansh... abeg go sit-down evening news paper

CalliDora1:
Don't mind them. They know themselves. After messing about during relationship, they now expect to become saints in marriage overnight.

after u av done the do, and did all bad thing you will now come and be using as the only sin in the world, and low key. it's peeps like you that do. worse bed undefiled kee you, no be same church pastors dey knack sisters, youth leader dey knack sister coordinator, choir master dey knack choristers. just don't let some one offend God. latter u will be saying my daddy,bro in the lord. make Una fear God.

doggedfighter:
Share catfish. Let's use it and celebrate it

tomorrow is my bday if you day Abuja we can hook up

Happy Christmas and a prosperous new year

Zzor:
shame shame shame,you can as well watch him kill her because she's in her husband's house.

you for once get brain na, why is your head so full with cums of your customers.

Zzor:
Nothing special, just there.

with all your olosho work you don buy one block, not to talk of cement before we go say you go buy land. appreciate Gods work in people life even if you are a pussy don't be. sadist

zzor sef they talk Christ embassy olosho, sef dey talk. you better just keep quiet. you think say we no Sabi your story shame no gree you remain as rozz, change your moniker any day we know you we know your story. hide your shame

BigSarah hello angel can I get to know you moe

2dice01:
You are far ..it doesn't worth it

we both attend bthe same church am also a celestian, if go Lagos on leave I can meet her one day. so distance is not a barrier but if u feel say e no worth am no iss. I understand bruv

2dice01 that babe I don't know her but I will like to be friends with her, we attend the same church, and the way you guys talked about her I see she is a nice lady just that Nairaland fools don scatter the thing. help a bro to link me up with her. I honestly wanna be friends with her.

athaboi:
Yola south and north are safe! She can serve in any of these places peacefully but outside these places, is not save. And it's freaking far coupled with the unsecured roads so she should use flight if she's going. Yola town! Both jimeta and Yola south are cool

I stay and work in Air force base YOLA

ogumarcus:
Nairalanders please i need your help. My younger sister just graduated from UNIBEN and has been posted to ADAMAWA STATE, to resume this Sunday, 7th December. I am confused beacuse of the security situation vis-a-vis BOKO HARAM INSURGENCY in the North. Please i need your advice. What can be done to defer it? Please HELP!

No insurgency in Adamawa let's be guided

Englov:
I will WhatsApp you

Roger boss

Englov:
28.11.2020 marked it 5yrs marriage anniversary for me and my spouse.

The experiences are as follows:

1. Do not marry because of beauty:

Beauty they say is to the eyes of the beholder. My wife was and is still beautiful in my eyes but that was not only the reason I married her.
I took my time and visited her place one time they had burial ceremony in her village. This was even before I proposed to her for marriage. I wanted to see her Mum and I did. I wanted to see how my wife will look like when she start aging. I equally wanted to know how peaceful her mum lives with the Dad because she won't tell me all this things.


2. In marriage it might not work always with your plan:

I remember a friend of mine told me that once he gets married, he will relocate from Nigeria to USA with the help of the wife's family staying in USA. I can remember I asked him; what if it didn't work as you have planned it? His answer was: I have never taught of it that way.
My man is marriage now with that lady. They have gotten 2 kids but they have not moved out till now. He no longer talk about moving to USA anymore though he could even afford it.
This doesn't mean you will not plan for yourself and your family. However, as you make your plans always have a plan B in case it didn't work out the same way you had planned it.
I have learned to always have plan B even as I work so had to make plan A possible.

3. When Your wife says Yes, she might mean No most of the times and vice versa:

Most of the times when you are doing the great job on the other room, if she is saying no,stop,etc pls don't stop oh. If you do she will turn back and say to you. Why did you stop? You will answer but you asked me to stop. She will ask you are you not man enough to know that I didn't mean stop? Immerging that someone asked you to stop something and she said she didn't mean it.
You must be man enough to know when she means what she is saying. You as a man must figure somethings out by yourself.


4. Child birth:
This in most cases does not go as planned. You might say you want boys as a man and she said she want girls or boys as the case maybe. It is only God that has ultimate say on this.
It took us 3 years to get our first baby and we are expecting another soon. In that first 3 years, we went to different hospitals me and my spouse was certified ok. She use to take in but after 2-3 months miscarriage will be experienced. In this experience months became years.
We spent a lot of money looking for solution and she was restless because of that until God gave us one.
Child birth during marriage is a different ball game all together to compare when you are in a friendly relationship. When you are in a relationship, you see pregnancy come and stay but after marriage the real business starts.


5. Never marry a lady because of what she told you:
When you finally decide to marry as a man, marry because of your own reasons. Never marry because the lady told you that anyone who married her will be entitled to this or that. Pls never fall for that cheap scam. Any lady above 30yrs wants to marry by all means. You don't know the pressure she is passing through so she will do anything possible to bring you in.
Lady's knows men wick point most of the times than we know their own. Remember they can talk to each other and share their experiences with men in their discussion than men do.


6. Women are strong than men but don't know:

Believe or not women are very strong being. Brother, one weekend try and stay at home and tell her to leave all her work for you. Try and do it, guy I bet you 90% of the men will not do 60% off the work women do at home.
They will do all this things go to work and come back, carry their baby, etc.


7. She Doesn't want competition:

No woman wants to see her man with another woman. She doesn't like competition oh! A woman would do anything possible to protect her home. Women are more spiritually inclined than men. If you really want to know a visit to spiritual homes will convince you. They believe that most of the things happening around us is more spiritual than physical.

8. Shape and Size:
Before our wedding I was 66kg in weight while she was 64kg that was 2015. But now in 2020, 5years after am 64kg and she is 76kg. She has gained 12kg and I have lost 2kg such is life. That slim fight girl you see today once you marry her she will gain weight this is natural to them.
If you must marry bear it in mind that she must gain weight and as she gains weight she might start losing shape.
I have bought so many weight loss medications and even waist trainer belt but it's still there.
I have learned to live with it.


9. Buying things:
Impulse buying is their hubby. Women can buy things that they will never use. Most of the times my wife bought she doesn't even know what they are used for. Most a times they buy because it looks good not even because they want to use it.


10. Gift:
Though everyone likes gift but women cherish gift so much. You want to get something from her buy her a gift more especially that thing she likes.


11. Love life:
Once you have a baby a portion of your love will be taking away from you and given to your babe. As you number of babies increased so as the love life shift hands to the babies. The more babies you have the less attention you get from your wife.

Modified:


12. Decision Making:
Never put your wife on autopilot decision Making. Never allow your spouse to always take decision without consulting you. If you allow this from the beginning changing it will be very difficult.
Say you are working in an offshore and you have to hand over your salary ATM card to your wife to spend on without a proper spending plan, then sorry is your nike name.
Even when you are not available, you can have a lay down plan for her. In case of eventuality do this or that.


13. Third party interference:

Never allow the interference of family members into your family affairs. This is dangerous to your family life. From the first day of my marriage, I told my wife that not my mum ,Dad or her parents must hear about our quarrel as I know is inevitable. This can only be possible if you know how to settle quarrels so I advise you learn this as it will help you. No quarrel should be allowed to stay too long without settling it.


14. Work/Job:
Your wife must know what you do for a living and she must be proud of it if not there is problem. I own a phone repair and parts sales center in PH and I am in this business with my wife. Am a graduate, she is as well and both of us are happy doing this business. She helps me a lot in the business. You must not force your wife to do what she didn't like doing, if you do you will not get a good result. You as a man must be proactive in your decision Making concerning work/job selection.


15. Financial status:

Your wife must know your financial status though not in details. This will help the family to stay in peace. Though you should be in charge of the spendings so as to work within your plans. Make provision for her pocket money because whether you like it or not she must get it from you more especially if she is not a working class.



It is really a wonderful experience. I love my wife and we are happy with each other.


Disclaimer:
The experiences learned and knowledge acquired are mostly personal to me and my spouse. This experiences may or may not be applicable to you and your spouse.



I would like you to add your own experience or knowledge acquired in your marriage life to guide those that wants to go into this.

bros, oGa guy, I owe you two bottles please if you stay in Abuja let's hang out someday. infact I will be having a Christmas get together in my house. everything you said is 100% correct and this is exactly the same thing am facing in my home In and my wife by the grace of God are enjoying this marriage it has been the best decision ever. I am 25 now we have a son and we expecting another baby soon. got married to her when I was 23 and ever since then have never been this happier tho it's not me but I belief it's God and to him shall he be praise. I don't stay at home due to the kinda work I do. atimes am always 6 month away and so on but the gap is not showiing. but guy you are absolutely correct who say marraige no sweet when you are with the right person and doing the right thing. Kai you burst my head this morning. God go bless you for me and your home.