tasandra: Op na hunger go kill am nw

Ujujoan: I remember a story I heard sometime ago (or was it a movie? ) . . . . The man went to work without leaving a kobo for food. When he came home, he screamed at his wife to serve him dinner, as usual.

The wife calmly brought out a well laid out tray with covered dishes, a bowl of water for washing hands, and a class of chilled drinking water.

The man happily washed his hands and reached for the meal only to discover an EMPTY bowl!

Good food doesnt fall from the sky . . simple!

kulyie: Lol,its part of irresponsibility especially when he can afford it.but if he cant afford it,o well,i can excuse dat

ifyalways: If he has been dropping before then then why not? The wife should understand and help out.
If he's suddenly jobless but physically fit but decides on staying idle at home, then I fit pity am give am without meat.
If he has the money but just wouldn't drop for food then it'll be fair to have the wife cut and fry his blokos for him.

Ujujoan: I remember a story I heard sometime ago (or was it a movie? ) . . . . The man went to work without leaving a kobo for food. When he came home, he screamed at his wife to serve him dinner, as usual.

The wife calmly brought out a well laid out tray with covered dishes, a bowl of water for washing hands, and a class of chilled drinking water.

The man happily washed his hands and reached for the meal only to discover an EMPTY bowl!

Good food doesnt fall from the sky . . simple!

kulyie: @ tgirl theres always a trying tym in everymans life (financially) and d woman has to b supportive and understandin,dis is where d man nids d woman to b supportive yet humble and respectful,howeva wen tables turn around and things r rosy with d man and he starts givin me stories instead of money,ehen,we can stat dragin our shirts

kulyie: @ tgirl theres always a trying tym in everymans life (financially) and d woman has to b supportive and understandin,dis is where d man nids d woman to b supportive yet humble and respectful,howeva wen tables turn around and things r rosy with d man and he starts givin me stories instead of money,ehen,we can stat dragin our shirts

ronkebp: I think it depends on how the home had been run from the beginning...

- are there shared responsiblities? is the woman taking care of the kitchen while the man pays other bills in the home?

- is the man jobless ( has never worked, 'full house husband" or he just lost his job and the woman stepped into the situation to help out)?

- Is the woman a full house wife and has no income and solely depends on the husband?

- Is the man just not interested in footing the bill when he knows that his wife is N0 3 above?

dayokanu: See women.

Now tell me why a housewife deserves to eat when she doesnt contribute anything to the family.

Tgirl you story isnt complete, Does the guy have a job, Does he have money? is he using his money to do something greater for the family like building a house or paying school fees?

Even if he doesnt drop maybe because he doesnt have the means that makes you to starve him and he is no longer the head of the family?

na wa oo. You now see why most Nigerian men think little of the women because they know they are only there when things are rosy and they can drop money for food, the moment they cant drop money, they are no longer worthy to be called husbands

That woman you are talking about is a shame to women. What happened to for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness in health

I really cant understand how most women reason

Efemena_xy:

And what if the guy has got a job and the means to provide the basic needs for the family, but chooses to spend it outside / on girlfriends?

How d'you know he isn't saving up to get a second wife so he can ditch the first one, because suddenly, she looks "old" to him?

What if the wife's decided not to "drag" trousers with him, so he should fulfil his role as the Alpha and Omega, the sole provider and head of the home?

Honestly, sometimes you guys are hard to fathom. If a woman works her fingers to the bone, pregnancy or not, serves the man his dinner whilst kneeling on the floor, he won't be satisfied. He'll find faults because she placed the knife/fork/spoon/cup in the wrong geographical position.

If she chooses to let him run the ship i.e be the sole provider, he'll complain that she's lazy, non supportive, etc.

If he goes to the toilet and she wipes his a$$ for him, he'll still complain that she used toilet rolls instead of baby soft wipes!

Honestly, WHAT DO YOU GUYS WANT SEF??

Efemena_xy: ^^ Exactly.

And make sure when he serves the food, he MUST use the right tone to address you, and ensure that the cup doesn't block your view of that Nollywood movie on TV.

oh gosh, if my hubby reads that just kidding, baby

Efemena_xy: ^^ Okay!

I guess the question then is: WHAT DOES EVERYBODY WANT SEF??

And no, I don't support starving your fellow human being, be it man, woman or child.

But for those pig-headed twerps that demand absolute submissiveness from their wives, total control of her thoughts and actions, and dominance over everything she does, then surely a simple basic task of providing food for his family should not be an issue?

After all, if the average Nigerian guy wishes to act the part of a caveman, going by the threads opened up here of recent, then he should go out and hunt and gather like they did! Abi??

Sisi_Kill: I swear I am fearing this marriage thingy oh!! I've not put much thought into so many thing, okay scratch that, it is not like I haven't given much thought to them, I've always had the impression that there are some things that are a given.

You go to the grocery store today and buy whatever is needed and if he goes tomorrow and brings something home. . .fine. No fuss, no muss!!

Even with Bills, whoever gets there first pays it off. It's not my turn, your turn or you did this and I will do that in the matter

Of course, all of that depends on the kinda relationship you have to begin with. Be rest assured, we won't be going to far if the guy stingy with his money. Look, I am not saying spend on me like there is no tomorrow, just don't make a big deal. . .franking your face all over the place because you think somebody wants your money.

Am I being Naive?

dayokanu:

And if the man is the sole provider and the woman is just sitting like a piece of furniture, then shouldnt the man have the right to clear her out together with other pieces of furniture occupying the space at home?


So the bottom line on this thread is that once a man cant provide money for his house regardless of the circumstance he is not worthy to be a husband

Honestly with the attitude of most naija women, I see no reason to blame the men who treat them like trash.

They both deserve each other

dayokanu:

And if the man is the sole provider and the woman is just sitting like a piece of furniture, then shouldnt the man have the right to clear her out together with other pieces of furniture occupying the space at home?


So the bottom line on this thread is that once a man cant provide money for his house regardless of the circumstance he is not worthy to be a husband

Honestly with the attitude of most naija women, I see no reason to blame the men who treat them like trash.

They both deserve each other

Miss_Ife: @sisi kill : you don't seem naive to me. Money is something very easy in my own marriage, and I think it is not a problem in many marriages, where both partners behave like responsible adults. It's just that all those happy people usually don't come and open thread on NL for us to read

Efemena_xy:

My sister, no need to fear.

As long as you don't rush into it blindly, spend however long it takes to get to know your intended spouse whilst dating, understand yourselves properly and marry for the right reasons, then you should be fine.

Sisi_Kill: I swear I am fearing this marriage thingy oh!! I've not put much thought into so many thing, okay scratch that, it is not like I haven't given much thought to them, I've always had the impression that there are some things that are a given.

You go to the grocery store today and buy whatever is needed and if he goes tomorrow and brings something home. . .fine. No fuss, no muss!!

Even with Bills, whoever gets there first pays it off. It's not my turn, your turn or you did this and I will do that in the matter

Of course, all of that depends on the kinda relationship you have to begin with. Be rest assured, we won't be going to far if the guy is stingy with his money. Look, I am not saying spend on me like there is no tomorrow, just don't make a big deal. . .franking your face all over the place because you think somebody wants your money.

Am I being Naive?