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When A Loved One Dies by bigangel4u(m): 8:17pm On Aug 22, 2012 |
When our friends lose their loved ones, what should we do to console them? |
Re: When A Loved One Dies by Caracta(f): 9:13pm On Aug 22, 2012 |
There are no specific rules. My best friend died few days ago, and i was consoled by people's presence, jokes, calls and text messages. With time, healing comes. You can console your friend by being real, and showing you care. You can even take him/her out. |
Re: When A Loved One Dies by bigangel4u(m): 8:01pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
Caracta: There are no specific rules. My best friend died few days ago, and i was consoled by people's presence, jokes, calls and text messages. With time, healing comes. Do you think it's proper to tell jokes to someone who's bereaved? |
Re: When A Loved One Dies by Caracta(f): 8:42pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
bigangel4u:Not in a direct way. That was why i said there are no rules to it. I have a particular friend (a sanguine) that loves teasing me whenever i'm in tears. Words like 'common girl, ur face looks scary' etc.make me want to smash his head into pieces but i smile instead. Listen, what worked for me might not work for your friend. All the best. |
Re: When A Loved One Dies by bigangel4u(m): 9:09pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
Caracta:Thanks! |
Re: When A Loved One Dies by Caracta(f): 9:22pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
In addition, some situations demand for just our presence. Say few words, pray with them, listen to them, help them with chores, be readily available at any time. Don't bore them with epistles and stories, they wouldn't listen. Let them heal. |
Re: When A Loved One Dies by bigangel4u(m): 9:29pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
That's a great idea. I think prayer's very important. |
Re: When A Loved One Dies by Callotti: 12:07pm On Aug 25, 2012 |
Until you lose a loved one yourself, you can understand only time MAY heal. Nothing else. I don't even bother anymore but send a card with MONEY in it to help for funeral arrangements! No need making things worse. The grieving process is an individual experience. Unless you are dealing with a professional 'mourner'! Aka 'my fellow widows'! I LOVE TO BE LEFT ALONE!!!! No phone calls, NO VISITORS!!! I don't do crowds in life or in death! Period! Just my family only. No friends! I don't keep any! Only males of course. |
Re: When A Loved One Dies by ifyalways(f): 1:06pm On Aug 26, 2012 |
I personally give them space to grief. No visiting and poke nosing. Occasional phone calls and assistance using my discretion and that's just about that. I'm highly emotionally and therefore not a good physical company for anyone in grief. Besides, I've lost a loved one, I healed with time, all alone. |
Re: When A Loved One Dies by bigangel4u(m): 4:19pm On Aug 26, 2012 |
@ Calloti. But I think it's during our troubled hours we know who really care for us. |
Re: When A Loved One Dies by Nobody: 12:34am On Aug 27, 2012 |
bigangel4u: When our friends lose their loved ones, what should we do to console them? First, pray for them. Just be there and lend them a shoulder to cry on. Give them space if they need it and don't force them to "get over it". When my father died, it was the hardest thing for me. Luckily I had friends and family who knew what to do. 1 Like |
Re: When A Loved One Dies by Nobody: 12:35am On Aug 27, 2012 |
bigangel4u: @ Calloti. But I think it's during our troubled hours we know who really care for us. ^la verdad! |
Re: When A Loved One Dies by Callotti: 2:15pm On Aug 27, 2012 |
bigangel4u: @ Calloti. But I think it's during our troubled hours we know who really care for us. True. But even those can change when 'times are no longer troubled'! They may become even worse than death! LOL!!! I will be in no position to know who cares or not in times of grief. I love to be left alone. Being around people will not help. Just me. |
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