ifyalways: Choi, odunnu! You came here to open my dry nyash? Come carry your okirika laptop.

We're leaving first thing @ dawn.lekwa nkpari.

jennykadry: Mschewwww @Topic if you weren't one of my favourites on here, I would have said things that will make you hate me.

They tied the mouth of you and your husband abi? I dislike pretenders and some Nigerians are talented in that area. You are dying instead of you to speak up, you are busy pretending all is well and carrying a grudge. This thread should be deleted Abeg. What a Waste of time and space.

Shollypopz:
Nigerians could be pretenders in that area, especially my ppl - Yoruba

But with maturity, comes some level of politics. You hv to be diplomatic especially when it's family

jennykadry:

Odunnu Is Igbo. I don't like it when people pretend like everything is okay but it isn't. I had to read the topic well to be sure it was odunnu that opened the thread and not one yeye attention seeking woman, imagine the shock when I realised it was really her.

In real life I don't make friends with people that cannot speak up, neither do I keep pretenders as friends. Maybe it is the way I was brought up but even my brothers were advised by our father to marry a woman that is very open, someone that speaks Her mind when she wants to because that kind of woman will hardly ever keep a grudge and they would know where they stand with her when she is pissed off because she will tell ten fair and square. Not a woman that will tell them everything is okay even when she is dying inside, he(my father) said that such a woman can pour hot oil on the man in the middle of the night.


...and lastly, they are not even family so which diplomacy should she apply here?

jennykadry:

Odunnu Is Igbo. I don't like it when people pretend like everything is okay but it isn't. I had to read the topic well to be sure it was odunnu that opened the thread and not one yeye attention seeking woman, imagine the shock when I realised it was really her.

In real life I don't make friends with people that cannot speak up, neither do I keep pretenders as friends. Maybe it is the way I was brought up but even my brothers were advised by our father to marry a woman that is very open, someone that speaks Her mind when she wants to because that kind of woman will hardly ever keep a grudge and they would know where they stand with her when she is pissed off because she will tell ten fair and square. Not a woman that will tell them everything is okay even when she is dying inside, he(my father) said that such a woman can pour hot oil on the man in the middle of the night.


...and lastly, they are not even family so which diplomacy should she apply here?

Shollypopz:
I never said Odunnu is Yoruba Nobody likes pretenders, but there are situations whereby d truth has to be stylishly conveyed. I see it as a good thing that they find her house that comfortable. Me sef I grew up screaming I'm real, I say it as it is!! In real life though, as u grow up u find out that this does not always work. U'll just keep gathering enemies. U hv to learn to tolerate ppl.
We can clearly see dat the ppl involved here lack the sense of boundary or just common sense in total.

Wasn't it her family member that introduced her to the pastor's wife?? Don't u think it's d family member that said she could go ahead and ask Odunnu for shelter?? If I were Odunnu, I'll simply tell the woman playfully to tell me days earlier anytime she wants to come, so I can prepare for her properly. Tell her u like making them comfortable. Next time when they come, stylishly make some areas in ur house inaccessible to them. Odunnu can hv her quiet time and still provide help to them.

jennykadry:

Odunnu Is Igbo. I don't like it when people pretend like everything is okay but it isn't. I had to read the topic well to be sure it was odunnu that opened the thread and not one yeye attention seeking woman, imagine the shock when I realised it was really her.

In real life I don't make friends with people that cannot speak up, neither do I keep pretenders as friends. Maybe it is the way I was brought up but even my brothers were advised by our father to marry a woman that is very open, someone that speaks Her mind when she wants to because that kind of woman will hardly ever keep a grudge and they would know where they stand with her when she is pissed off because she will tell ten fair and square. Not a woman that will tell them everything is okay even when she is dying inside, he(my father) said that such a woman can pour hot oil on the man in the middle of the night.

The world hates real ppl but loves and praises pretenders. I can tell you,OP is in their good book because she pretended to them as if everything was ok.

...and lastly, they are not even family so which diplomacy should she apply here?

Odunnu:
This about summarises my position in all this.
@JK, so if a newbie asks you in confidence to say what you know about Odunnu online, that i'm a pretender would be listed. Now, thats not fair. In life we have to bend so many times just to make room for some.
Not everybody we relate with make use of their common sense using her as an example.
They will come again I am so sure of that but I promise, they wont spend the night in my home. I agree I allowed them task my patience, thats the most they will ever be able to do ever again.

Shollypopz:
I never said Odunnu is Yoruba Nobody likes pretenders, but there are situations whereby d truth has to be stylishly conveyed. I see it as a good thing that they find her house that comfortable. Me sef I grew up screaming I'm real, I say it as it is!! In real life though, as u grow up u find out that this does not always work. U'll just keep gathering enemies. U hv to learn to tolerate ppl.
We can clearly see dat the ppl involved here lack the sense of boundary or just common sense in total.

Wasn't it her family member that introduced her to the pastor's wife?? Don't u think it's d family member that said she could go ahead and ask Odunnu for shelter?? If I were Odunnu, I'll simply tell the woman playfully to tell me days earlier anytime she wants to come, so I can prepare for her properly. Tell her u like making them comfortable. Next time when they come, stylishly make some areas in ur house inaccessible to them. Odunnu can hv her quiet time and still provide help to them.

Odunnu:
This about summarises my position in all this.
@JK, so if a newbie asks you in confidence to say what you know about Odunnu online, that i'm a pretender would be listed. Now, thats not fair. In life we have to bend so many times just to make room for some.
Not everybody we relate with make use of their common sense using her as an example.
They will come again I am so sure of that but I promise, they wont spend the night in my home. I agree I allowed them task my patience, thats the most they will ever be able to do ever again.

jennykadry:

The world is as it is right now because we are trying to please everybody. The only mortal people I am answerable to are: my parents, my husband, my clients and my children. Why are we so scared of our fellow human being? tell her playfully? Wich part of, this is my house and my rule must be abided to? Tis is the way women invite witches and wizards into their homes and then go on their knees to ask God silly questions. Even my own father informs us when he is visiting how much more, a non relative?

The way you are telling her to go is the way of a coward and please I do not mean this as an insult. It is only a coward that will keep quiet whilst they are burning and dying inside and instead of telling people how we feel, we are busy dying inside and at the same time massaging their bald heads. Tell me if this is the life a Christian should live? A life of pretense all in the name of offering help even when you are dying inside and hate every single bit of it? That kind of help is not recorded by God.


Why do you think I was in so much shock when I knew you started this thread?

Debrief asked a solid question there just exactly what I wanted to ask. Odunnu, your marriage is still young, you have a home to build and many years to enjoy that home. Concentrate on laying the foundation of your home and finding pillars to support it

jennykadry:

The world is as it is right now because we are trying to please everybody. The only mortal people I am answerable to are: my parents, my husband, my Sagamite, my clients and my children. Why are we so scared of our fellow human being? tell her playfully? Wich part of, this is my house and my rule must be abided to? Tis is the way women invite witches and wizards into their homes and then go on their knees to ask God silly questions. Even my own father informs us when he is visiting how much more, a non relative?

Sagamite:

GBAM!

No relative of mine will just show up at the door, talkless of a stranger.

If it was a relative or friend, I am quite lad-dy (Omoboy international), I can deal with it.

A stranger, hell no.

A stranger with her husband and kid, dem curse am?

I take it you were busy when you composed it, so I have made amendments sha.

debosky: Hotel L'Odunnu - laptop, movie pass and camisoles included!

Odunnu:
@Coogar: dont let me catch you

debrief08: Odunnu My Love, you know say na too much Love dey make us hala you liken this abi? It is good to be nice but firm and not a door mat.
If you wan do that one, you go get BP and old before time. Be yourself, if something is wrong, say it,n work on it and not keep it in

coogar:

odunnu has to worry about catching eczema from her camisole!

debrief08: Odunnu My Love, you know say na too much Love dey make us hala you liken this abi? It is good to be nice but firm and not a door mat.
If you wan do that one, you go get BP and old before time. Be yourself, if something is wrong, say it,n work on it and not keep it in

Odunnu:
@Coogar: If I get eczema, be sure i'll pass it on to you. But seriously, I dont think she has skin disease even though I will never those clothes again.