For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (Ephesians 5:31, KJV)
The “cause” in the above scripture means reason. People get married for many different reasons. I just listened to an inspirational message by Pastor Ezekiel Atang(http://www.godshouseofrefugeng.org/potrait_of_the_refuge.htm) and here are 26 wrong motives for marriage.
1. Sexual pressure: marrying because you don’t what to fornicate. So what happens after 3 months of constant sex? Sex dey tire person o!
2. Because you are of age: Age is not a qualifier for marriage, but maturity.
3. Because your mates are getting married: We don’t all have the same timing and destiny.
4. To feel among: To belong to a class:
5. To make your parents happy: “Hmmn Bayo, I need grand-children o”
6. To get back at an EX or someone: Someone dumped or insulted you, so you marry to revenge. I.e So you can send your EX your wedding Invite.
7. To make your friends happy: Your friend’s opinion
8. To prove a point: Someone said you can’t marry, so you marry to prove them wrong.
9. To earn respect: If you aren’t respected while single, marriage won’t’ change it. i.e matting to be called madam
10. As part of preparation to travel abroad: You are relocating or got a job abroad and you want to quickly marry before going abroad.
11. Marrying for green card: Visa marriages.
12. To bear children: This shouldn’t be a reason to marry. If you want children, go and adopt.
13. To position yourself economically, politically or ministerially: Marrying because of what you can gain through the marriage. E.g contract from political in-laws.
14. To improve financial standing: So your spouse can take care of you.
15. For membership of a cub or association: “You can’t join our club unless you are married”. So you got married just to join.
16. To compensate someone for a king gesture/ you hurt them: Because he helped your family during a challenging period doesn’t mean you must marry him. Or because she is pregnant for you.
17. Marrying out of sympathy: She is disadvantaged or challenged, so you took pity on her and married her? One day you might regret and will tell her… “I pitied you that is why I married you o”
18. Marrying simply because you both have a favourable genotype: You ended your engagement because of Genotype issues, so you jump into marriage with the next available person with AA.
19. Because he/she is nice: niceness shouldn’t be a paramount reason. “Prov 31:30; Favour is deceitful”. (KJV)
20. Because of beauty/handsomeness: Beautiful will fade, 6- pack will change to 1-pack.lol “Prov 31:30;and beauty is vain”.(KJV)
21. To be complete: Backstreet boys sang “incomplete”, but TRUE fulfilment and completeness comes from God not marriage “Col 2:10;And ye are complete in him” (KJV)
22. The person’s intelligence: Because she is a doctor or he is smart. These can be one of many reasons, but not the main.
23. Because he/she is from you tribe: Because he/she is Hausa, Ibo, Yoruba etc
24. Because she is a virgin: Because she isn’t a virgin doesn’t make her promiscuious.
25. Because he/she is spiritual or active in church: Church activity doesn’t guarantee marital bliss.
26. Because you don’t want to be alone: You can be alone, but not lonely.
May God help us not marry for the wrong motives in Jesus name!
Coming soon….Right reasons to get married!!!!!!!!!!!

Some marry and start suffering thier children because they dont have enough money to provide for them:why marry if you cant provide for your family