Na question dey ask now,.dey dint abuse him.........are u crazy? Init?
Cos wen I was small if dey ask mi dat question I ll comport myself straight away.
I don't see anything wrong in dat my dear.

ayobase:

How r u gonna react if called f00l...must u pple always?

And how you gonna react if i called you arrogant simpleton.

It's sad really.

People dont realize that weight of negative criticism on adults, talkless of on children.

Negative criticism has about thrice as much effect, if not more, than positive criticism.

me and my girl,, felt in love and the parents dont want her to marry me being a catholic,, they insult her at every slightest opportunity, telling her that their blood preesure is now high,, they wont come to the wedding,, if she insist on marrying me and we she gives birth her childern should not come to their house and even when they die she should not come to their grave!!!! And even more,, cos she found love but the church is their problem!!!

hassymo5: me and my girl,, felt in love and the parents dont want her to marry me being a catholic,, they insult her at every slightest opportunity, telling her that their blood preesure is now high,, they wont come to the wedding,, if she insist on marrying me and we she gives birth her childern should not come to their house and even when they die she should not come to their grave!!!! And even more,, cos she found love but the church is their problem!!!

Let them continue, eventually they'll get over it when you start showing them how displease you are with their attitude.

Some parents are really distasteful.

What's that got to do with this thread tho?

Rukemi291: It baffles me that a parent can actually stoop so low as to curse his/her children, no matter the level of anger.

I was in my neighbour's house some weeks back and d teenage son did something so flimsy (to me), to my greatest surprise, the father from his end shouted 'oriedaru ni? (are u crazy?)' and the mum from her own end said 'orien fa eponi? (is your head siphoning petrol?)'.

I was shocked but couldn't mutter a word.

A lot of parents do this and i think it's so wrong. Don't these kind of things affect children psychologically?

The parents did nothing wrong.

Knowing thats its wrong and not doing that thing that you called wrong are two different things..... BTW, those words are really mild compared to some I have heard.

nekaa: Knowing thats its wrong and not doing that thing that you called wrong are two different things..... BTW, those words are really mild compared to some I have heard.

i can imagine some other words u have heard. Hope you don't mind sharing them?

My parent are perfect example to what this thread is all about and to be honest, the act is freaking me out. my dad is the worst, sometimes i wonder if he is really my father

guttentag: My parent are perfect example to what this thread is all about and to be honest, the act is freaking me out. my dad is the worst, sometimes i wonder if he is really my father

Don't let your parents' negative words get to you, don't get depressed. Maybe they think it's the best way to correct you, i wish they know how you feel and read these...

Bambela: This reminded me of the cause of low self-esteem which many of us have argued today. It is never good to use abusive word of any kind as a corrective measure as they tend to affect the child negatively.

*Ileke-IdI:
It's sad really.

People dont realize that weight of negative criticism on adults, talkless of on children.

Negative criticism has about thrice as much effect, if not more, than positive criticism.

picture this...

I think some parents don't know the impact of WORdS they speak, whether you are religious or not the words you speak has POWER. Using my parents as an example I honestly can't remember a single time they've used abusive words on us. When you greet my father in the morning, the first word that comes out his mouth his "May GoD bless you and keep you, may he make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you" even now that we are all grown and not living together when you call him, those words come first. Not trying to portray them perfect buh those words/prayers goes a loooong way.

seedord247:

And how you gonna react if i called you arrogant simpleton.

And whats the correlation bro!

a1solution: nothing wrong in using those words to correct a child. The bad one is when you lay curse on a child.

nothing wrong in abusing is dat wat u said? I disagree with u because there is an implication to it. All words we speak are spiritually said unknownly

Iyaqueen: Na question dey ask now,.dey dint abuse him.........are u crazy? Init?
Cos wen I was small if dey ask mi dat question I ll comport myself straight away.
I don't see anything wrong in dat my dear.

a lot is wrong with it... dont use any negative word on ur children it doesn't help them psychologically! I never like it whenever my parent use such words... it makes me cry and got me thinking

My dad is never satisfied wit anytin I do...he's always shouting at me.

It is understandable that a Nigerian parent insult their child. When they were small they were abused and insulted at by their own parents, they ought to admit that the insults did not make them better but a prototype of their parents and then when they marry and get children they think tend to do the same thing on their children. They tend to think that they are "disciplining their children" when they are ruining them mentally, the cycle never breaks.

It baffles me that a parent can actually stoop so low as to curse his/her children, no matter the level of anger.

I was in my neighbour's house some weeks back and d teenage son did something so flimsy (to me), to my greatest surprise, the father from his end shouted 'oriedaru ni? (are u crazy?)' and the mum from her own end said 'orien fa eponi? (is your head siphoning petrol?)'.

I was shocked but couldn't mutter a word.

A lot of parents do this and i think it's so wrong. Don't these kind of things affect children psychologically?

It's so true Sha
Looks like na our neighborhood you dey describe so?
Anyway,the best thing to do is to leave them.