Is it rather advisable to enrol a child of primary school age in boarding school. Is it of help or damaging when the child is just being weaned from the mother?

It is not good. At that age, the child needs love. The child also needs to learn good values firsthand from the parents. From jss 1, a child should be taken to a boarding school so that there wont be distractions from his studies, eg sending him on unnecessary errands, dstv etc

234GT: It is not good. At that age, the child needs love. The child also needs to learn good values firsthand from the parents. From jss 1, a child should be taken to a boarding school so that there wont be distractions from his studies, eg sending him on unnecessary errands, dstv etc

Are you for real? Just cause of tv& video games!!? What happened to discipline and home training? That's not enough reason IMO

If you or your spouse's job is time consuming ( like job taking you out of town) then that justifies putting a child in a boarding school... infact I think it's not a good idea esp if the kid's still very young.

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My Sons school has boarding facilities, I was shocked to see 3 to 4 year olds in boarding houses.
I believe boarding facilities is for secondary school when the child can learn independence and life lessons not when the child is still forming at such a young delicate age.
I am bonding with my son now, and love our time spent, I am busy but not too busy to want my child away for the week.
Anyway I won't judge but every parent knows what works for him or her, if they have no child care, they make their choices and am sure they have counted the costs, whatever works for them, I can only say what works for me, not in a position to judge them.

I have cousins that spent their entire education in boarding schools and they turned out ok. Me I no fit o. My children will always be a priority over any high paying job or business venture.

I went to the boarding school for secondary education BUT I will not put my child in any boarding school. However some people have peculiar situations that MAY make the idea of putting a primary school age child in boarding school (even heard of nursery school boarders).

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I spent my entire education life as a boarder.It has its good and bad effects.I learnt discipline, focus on study and networking from cradle.For me, It went well but it may not be same for others. Some pick all manner of vices from boarding. For busy parents, getting a good boarding school for your kids is advisable. But for parents, I mean both dad and mum, who have the time to train and discipline their kids, boarding life is still advisable perhaps from JS 1 or SS1.It depends.

SEEMS LIKE AM THE ONLY 18 YEAR OLD GUY ON NAIRALAND

Lazy parenting. Some women simply want to live like gals.

No way! My kids won't go to any boarding school. Would rather keep them with me so that they can learn about new things from me not from people they barely know. My mum went to a boarding school but she never took us to one and we all did just fine in fact we went to a mixed day school and it made sense.

Why would I want to send my kids away and see them only during visiting days and holidays I want to see them daily, scold them, hug and kiss them, take them out, and share good and bad times with them cos I believe all these would make the family bond tighter. So for me, the idea of boarding school is a NO NO.

for me sending any kid to a boarding school is like makin dat child develop a haden charecter(bad) wen he is home he hides it nd makes the parents sees him/her as a responsible child....am in d university now most of d studnt here who smoke guff(igboo) 80percnt of them says thy learnt it in boardin sch when thy were in jss classes.....madam oga there are so many things associated in schools....the boarding schools of yestady is defrent frm the ones we have now...d studnt are ntirely dfrnt...thy call dia cult group jvc(junio vesion coult)nd dis cult group has their main branch in d uni wen thy gain admision into uni thy do wht is cald cross over to d main coult group..thy becomes expert here svc(senior cult version)

HELL NOOOOOO!!!! The child is way too young then, I remebber in Living Spring Benin, we had some from KG, just wrong I think.

NO! NO!! NO!!!

They will only travel abroad for their masters degree and others.

Make my thing no turn to another person own.

And you sit down at home after work watching CNN while you child is been taught what you really don't know

ayo ade: I spent my entire education life as a boarder.It has its good and bad effects.I learnt discipline, focus on study and networking from cradle.For me, It went well but it may not be same for others. Some pick all manner of vices from boarding. For busy parents, getting a good boarding school for your kids is advisable. But for parents, I mean both dad and mum, who have the time to train and discipline their kids, boarding life is still advisable perhaps from JS 1 or SS1.It depends.

May be you didn't see the headline..Primary! primari! piramari!

No.

Nope and never

No boarding school for mine, primary and secondary. They can board when they are at uni.

Not at all, will neva allow it in JSS let alone primary sch. Only 4 those in SS Classes...... My opinion

Paulaok4: HELL NOOOOOO!!!! The child is way too young then, I remebber in Living Spring Benin, we had some from KG, just wrong I think.

haba! KG ke? Some people for no born sef.

i will send my kids to boarding school but maybe not from primary school.

it teaches them to be independent and it wld also give me and my husband a lot of alone time.

bonding wit kids cn alwys be done. der r kids dt went to day schools and are not as close with their parents as the ones that went to boarding schools.
its about the times u spend.not how long but how well. i went to a boarding school and am closer 2 my mum than my sis dt went to a day school.

guess i will be the only one around here that attended a boarding school right from my nursery school when i was 5 years old because of the jobs my parent were doing. Though part of me still feel that empty space between me and my parent which is why am always away from home most of the time.
Even now that am meant to be at home with them, i just cant because of the way i was brought.
If you need my advice, Dont take your children to a boarding school in their primary school if you do not want them to be distant from you when they grow up, you will not like the result of your actions

At such tender age? Why would any mother even think of such? My daughter is going to be two and am in full time employment. The child minder makes it as a point of duty to send me pictures,photos and I tell you what,it gets me thinking sometimes!
Some of them are just so funnyyyy,like I even feel jealous someone else is sharing such bonding moments with my child and here's me missing out on some moments that will never come back! First day at work,I cried and cried my boss had to tell me to go home sef! But hey, pickin no go live for busstop naa,mummy and daddy has to work!
Every moment of a child's formative years are priceless and trust me,funnnnnnn! Dont throw it away,boarding is not an alternative o!
The cons far outweigh the pros. Even for secondary education,its not advisable.With the way the world is going? Abeg think twice o!



P.S I was in boarding for my secondary education,apart from being extremely independent and perhaps meeting people from various parts of the country from different family backgrounds cannot think of anything else I gained and yes I did miss my parents and siblings so much.

goofie: i will send my kids to boarding school but maybe not from primary school.

it teaches them to be independent and it wld also give me and my husband a lot of alone time.

bonding wit kids cn alwys be done. der r kids dt went to day schools and are not as close with their parents as the ones that went to boarding schools.
its about the times u spend.not how long but how well. i went to a boarding school and am closer 2 my mum than my sis dt went to a day school.

Permit me to say,but you dont have to send your kids to boarding school before you can have a LOT of time with your hubby. You can plan weekend getaways,long vacations,theres loads of things you can do and trust me kids are understanding,even the very little ones. You dont need to take them to boarding at all because whether you like it or not,those are the people who will spice up your relationship when it looks like things are boring.You will definitely need them around.

I went to a boarding school for my primary school and i can tell u that this really helped me alot during my secondary school and university days.

Ticklishmummy:


Permit me to say,but you dont have to send your kids to boarding school before you can have a LOT of time with your hubby. You can plan weekend getaways,long vacations,theres loads of things you can do and trust me kids are understanding,even the very little ones. You dont need to take them to boarding at all because whether you like it or not,those are the people who will spice up your relationship when it looks like things are boring.You will definitely need them around.

well that wsnt d only reason i mentioned even though its important. i want my kids to be independent. i even considered sending my boys 2 military schools.

besides i dont bliv in vacations and weekend trips for romance or spending time. i bliv in everyday romance.

goofie:

well that wsnt d only reason i mentioned even though its important. i want my kids to be independent. i even considered sending my boys 2 military schools.

besides i dont bliv in vacations and weekend trips for romance or spending time. i bliv in everyday romance.

I understand your point clearly and was trying to make you understand that with or without the kids around, you and your hubby can still enjoy every day romance. There's a million and one things to do you know if you are not someone who really buys the idea of vacations and weekend getaways.
I know its a matter of choice for you but its worth giving the advantages and disadvantages of boarding schools a thought.

Sending a child to board at primary school age, I believe, is the equivalent of donating your child to society.

The primary school years are part of the most impressionable stages of a child's life. Most of the time, at the end of the day, after doing such, the parent will realize that he/she is only the biological parent of the child. The child will have another person (the school master) that is their sociological parent - that molded their way of thinking and character.

rotman91: Is it rather advisable to enrol a child of primary school age in boarding school. Is it of help or damaging when the child is just being weaned from the mother?

I would rather a child be sent to a boarding school where he is more likely to get better training, better education, and better exposure to life itself than to have the same child live at home with unqualified, uncouth, uneducated, and uncivilized parents.

How can a caring parent do that? That is not advisable at all. Boarding should start from secondary school.