Hi all! my husband has hit me a few times before for petty matters and I have indeed addressed the issue. Tonight, I was very tired. as usual he puts porn fiilms on and we watch them together. I have no problem with that and he is well aware of this. However, just before the film started I asked him if his wife was Ngerian (lets say from enugu) would she be willing to take part in porn films wiht him (ie copy their movements) I clearly was aksing a quesiton, not malisiously though. Then, he jumped off the sofa and pushed me very hard ot the extent that I fell off the sofa and swore at me etc tec. i then appologised continuosly by explaining that I was curious as to what naija ladies woudl feel about this. He told me I was a sick individual and rna off to bed, I folloed him and asked him to enjoy himself that I was sorry I didnt mean it in a bad way but h e called me an animal. can i have your opinions please. Thanks.

LEAVE THIS MAN!!

^{untill somebody gets killed she won't learn}

My oppinion?
Pls by all means stay with this man . . . he is right . . . only an animal will stay with an animal. I dont know any other sane woman who will sit down and watch porn movies with her husband. Nigerian women would have broken that TV screen and banished the man to the guest room long ago.
By all means remain with him and let him continue treating you no better than his christmas goat.

He beat you and pushed u off the floor? Pls stay until the day he actually breaks your head.

Still need my oppinion?

i might not be married yet, but the day my husband lays his hands on me, that's the day he finds his way to hell. why are you taking this from him? babe, this is not true love, this is not even love at all.
you guys are not partner in this relationship since you can't voice your opinion or ask a simple question and worst of all, he's raising his hands on you.
are you staying with him because you have no other optioned?
abeg, leave him. it's better to be single than to live such a life. no offense, but i will not be so creul enough as to wish your marriage on my worst enemy.


LEAVE HIM FOR YOUR SAFETY. . . A MAN THAT VERBALLY ABUSE A WOMAN IS NOT A MAN AT ALL, TALKLESS OF A MAN THAT PHYSICALLY AND VERBALLY ABUSE HIS OWN WIFE.

@ Toyin

don't waste your breath. . .this same man forces her to have anal sex and she screams till the baby wakes up!

There is no more advice that can be given to her, 1,000 words are enough for the simple

Leilah:

Hi all! my husband has hit me a few times before for petty matters and I have indeed addressed the issue. Tonight, I was very tired. as usual he puts porn fiilms on and we watch them together. I have no problem with that and he is well aware of this. However, just before the film started I asked him if his wife was Ngerian (lets say from enugu) would she be willing to take part in porn films wiht him (ie copy their movements) I clearly was aksing a quesiton, not malisiously though. Then, he jumped off the sofa and pushed me very hard ot the extent that I fell off the sofa and swore at me etc tec. i then appologised continuosly by explaining that I was curious as to what naija ladies woudl feel about this. He told me I was a sick individual and rna off to bed, I folloed him and asked him to enjoy himself that I was sorry I didnt mean it in a bad way but h e called me an animal. can i have your opinions please. Thanks.

I seriously don't know why you always trying to portray Nigerian men as animals on here, if you not happy being married to your Nigerian man pls leave him and marry your own kind so we can hear what. na wa oh!! everyday Nigerian man this Nigerian man that

Ijiji1:

I seriously don't know why you always trying to portray Nigerian men as animals on here, if you not happy being married to your Nigerian man please leave him and marry your own kind so we can hear what. na wa oh!! everyday Nigerian man this Nigerian man that

you can't talk for all naija men, talk for yourself. if you think you're perfect, then plz let me congratulate you. this is a serious matter, if you have no MATURE response, step off the court.

debosky:

@ Toyin

don't waste your breath. . .this same man forces her to have anal sex and she screams till the baby wakes up!

There is no more advice that can be given to her, 1,000 words are enough for the simple

ok oh


@post


plz, you're in Ireland, the police can actually help. talk to them or call abuse hotline before he hurts anyone. and if that baby gets hurt, I'll never forgive you. if you can't think str8, think abt the baby

I don't think my comments were directed to you miss lady, so if you don't mind pls mind your own business, it's friday and I sure don't feel like getting into a fight with you. I never said I was perfect. I have my faults too dear but laying my fingers on someone I care about it's just out of the question for me.

Ijiji1:

I don't think my comments were directed to you miss lady, so if you don't mind please mind your own business, it's friday and I sure don't feel like getting into a fight with you. I never said I was perfect. I have my faults too dear but laying my fingers on someone I care about it's just out of the question for me.

Naa, you made it my business when you post something so foolish as that.
and if you don't quote her where she's "trying to portray Nigerian men as animals on here" or that she does not want to
"marry your [b]own [/b]kind", it'll be me and you tonight if you don't apologize. if you were in her shoe, you'll not be typing all this B.S. c'mon man, show her that some "Nigerian" actually have respect for women.

toyinrayo:

Naa, you made it my business when you post something so foolish as that.
and if you don't quote her where she's "trying to portray Nigerian men as animals on here" or that she does not want to
"marry your own [/b]kind",[b] it'll be me and you tonight if you don't apologize. if you were in her shoe, you'll not be typing all this B.S. c'mon man, show her that some "Nigerian" actually have respect for women.

hehehehe

lets get rrrready to rrrrrumblllllleee!!

Seriously  I don't know if you understood what I was trying to say, but I'm not even going to waste my time with you dear. You have a good night. Go and find you someone to argue with tonight cause it's not me honey.


*ignore*

debosky:

hehehehe

lets get rrrready to rrrrrumblllllleee!!

Instigator, thought you signed off, the land was at peace for 2 mins. . . go to sleep na

Ijiji1:


*ignore*

you should have done that in the first place, then i would not be trying to teach you a lesson

well I'm still awake, will you sing me a lullaby?

debosky:

well I'm still awake, will you sing me a lullaby?

ewwwwww. . . . naa. listen to CYCLONE- Baby Bash Ft. T-Pain. your kind od song

naaah, I like slows more at this time of the evening

pweety please?

naa. where is David sef, haven't seen him online for a while.

debosky:

@ Toyin

don't waste your breath. . .this same man forces her to have anal sex and she screams till the baby wakes up!

There is no more advice that can be given to her, 1,000 words are enough for the simple

[size=30pt]TOUCH DOWN!!!!![/size]

@Debosky,
Do you care to go for the extra 2 points-------------------RUN IT IN--DON'T KICK IT IN I SAY--RUN IT IN!!!

Abeg, Leilah carry your stories dey go.  We don tire to hear them.  If he beats you, beat him back.  If he anals you, find the longest wooden amala spoon in your kitchen and anal him back.

Leilah, are you trying to portray your nigerian husband as a brute or is he really that way?
I read of anal sex last week now this.

You are here in the UK you may want to alert the cops if you are telling the truth. Nairaland cannot do that for you.

Pls,leave this guy if you cannot put up with him.I'm pretty sure you know what to do.I think people are tired of hearing colourful details of your ''Nigerian husband''s artrocities. Please keep them to yourself.
cheers.

thank you my sister. i did understanding modern societies some years ago. i can remember reading somewhere that the irish women suffer more domestic violent relationships in europe because of their love for guiness & whiskey.

okay this woman marry mr okafor or whatever his name is but don't they have a number for him in the prison?  if he is all that bad give him to the police let them tell him he owes the society a duty so he doesn't go do his evil deed to some other man's daughter.

i don't know why women put up with jerks like this guy.

leilah my dear do nigeria a fovour  get rid of him so you and your girl have peace and in the process we too.  next time try welsh boys they are more likely not to go anal and violent.

goodluck

If what you're saying is true what has gone wrong with my brother?
              Does he loose his job?
              Develop mental problem?
              Or he's trying a way to get you off hook, that shouldn't be a better way to do it,  he better call you  maturely and tell things out to you rather than subjecting you into all these mental torturing just to break up with you.

Igboman is a respected man in Nigeria and still be a dream husband to all nigerian ladies despite our bad name.
    seeing one of them acting strangely will call for an immediate attention.

 Leilah call your so called DOGGY HUSBAND to tell you his stand toward your marriage to him.(maybe his mother has found a wife in ala owerri for him)

      I hate being partial in case like this.

O NOT AGAIN!!!!!!!! What really is the problem in this marriage please.Why don't you you report to the police. These 'nairalanders' will not help you. A short while ago it was anal sex and now he's abusing you!!!!!!!!! Sometime last year,it was another story.

Please it's high time you took a critical look at this marriage.From what you tell us,this guy is a savage man in a birthday suit. YOu know what to do.The cops paid a visit to a couple living downstairs(oyibos) because the man told his wife he'll slap her if she goes to the pub without their baby.So in your case,he has as much as pushed you,so please go and call MI5 to deal with him.

please leave this guy if you can't endure it anymore.He is more or less an animal,as you have presented him. Take care of your baby,and please whatever you do,she MUST NOT watch those silly movies or watch her dad beat you up.
I'll assume you are a smart woman and can make an informed decision.

Leilah the more you tell about your marriage the more you give the impression of trying to give a negative image of Nigerian men in general. I know this doesn't correspond to the truth but I think at this point, some members might think this way.

Sit down and create an imaginary scale. On a side put all the advantages and on the other the disadvantages of this marriage. Don't judge only by quantity but also look at the quality of the effects, both negative and positive. With this you should be able to decide on what to do.

This guy must be a "KURA". What kind of guy practise anal sex on his wife?

toyinrayo:

naa. where is David sef, haven't seen him online for a while.

I was wondering the same thing maself.  I think he is under some kind of new name without the "david's blog" logo.  So he is not easy to spot.  But not to worry "e go soon cuss pesin grandpapa and grandmama"!!!!!

You can easily spot him that way!


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Go Giants!!!!!


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Abi no Old English una prefer?


_{Belches!!!****BURPS****HICCUPS*****HIC***HIC***HIC***farts****}

@leilah

This man will break your fingers one day you would not be able to type and report to nairaland. What are you still doing with him? What are you still doing with him? What are you still doing with him? People have advised you times without number, do you have a death wish?

Leilah

We are bored.

We've ALL made it clear that you are married to a brute. As for your question, you're right it IS a simple question but it's obvious that your barbarian husband respects the image of Nigerian women than he does you which is why he freaked out like that. You had better tell him, he's be amazed at the number of Nigerian women that watch porn with or without their significant others.

Either you find a way OUT of this marriage where your husband has absolutely NO respect for you, so much for his Catholic upbringing then again that could explain the anal obsession but that aside either get out of the marriage ESPECIALLY since you have a child or shut the hell up cos no one gives a shit anymore. You've been married to this monkey for over 3 years now, so obviously you must be enjoying the torture, so continue to enjoy it and leave us the hell alone with your pitiful stories

What the hell do you want us to say that you havent heard from us already

Go AWAY

almondjoy:

[size=30pt]TOUCH DOWN!!!!![/size]

@Debosky,
Do you care to go for the extra 2 points-------------------RUN IT IN--DON'T KICK IT IN I SAY--RUN IT IN!!!

Abeg, Leilah carry your stories dey go. We don tire to hear them. If he beats you, beat him back. If he anals you, find the longest wooden amala spoon in your kitchen and anal him back.

ROTFLMAO

@LEILAH ?Dear carry your cross bravely and squarely.

Leilah's issue makes me Did somebody borrow ur legs or conscience and never brought them back if so, then come borrow my own!! Or are u owing ur husband in anyway and u're paying? i don't get it o! Leave the goat or whoever he is b4 u break down!

When i saw another Leliah topic, I wanted to walka pass jeje, but i have to say this, Leliah we don tire. Haba

@ leilah, I am truly sorry about all you are going through. i understand that it must be hard , after a failed marriage, to have to exit another in such a short time.you must feel that you are completely responsible . I'm also sure that there was a lot of opposition from your family and siblings, which is why you come to nairaland, rather than confer with them.


that said, i will say this; - YOUR HUSBAND DOES NOT LOVE YOU. some nigerian males have a fascination with white/western women. there is a general perception that western women are shall we say - 'bad'. a lot of men want to hump a 'bad' woman, but marry a 'good, take home to mama ' one. you can be sure that your husband's family opposed the marriage - you're arab irish and a muslim (surely you see the religion threads?).Like so many of us men , he probably does not quite have the guts to call it quits, and wants to force your hand. in my limited experience, very few males of eastern persuasion will marry outside their tribe. they may hump outside. a friend of mine has a brother in US . the brother married this white chick. from all accounts the gal was in love with him, but my friend(ibo) made it clear - his brother married the girl for green card (while she believed he married her for love. you can imagine - he brought her home to nnigeria, and all the while he was telling his family ' i married her for green card' , and nothing else. the guy has since divorced the girl. I don't know why your husband married you. . .maybe it was to fulfil all his porn based fantasies- the things that nigerain males would like to believe that 'good, take home to mama ' nigerian girls do not do( or 'form 'that they do not do). for all you know, his friends may be egging him on - (how far, you done dey doggy am yet?)

i'm not sure if you are in nigeria, or in ireland. for the sake of your child, if nothing else, i will reiterate what everyone else has said - it is time to call it quits. i want to believe that you are educated , holding down a job and not in need of financial support from the man you married( note that i don't call him your husband). it will obviously be a hard choice, but everyday you spend with him will make it harder.

@oyb

Awwwwwwwwwwwwww! How sweet!

_{Make she siddon for inside there!}

oyb, I'd be sincerely surprised if the "husband" even allows her to leave the house not to talk of hold down a job


she's merely an mail order bride aka sex slave.