afam4eva: When your wife lies to you about her salary it means she's preparing for a future without you. That's the sad truth.

Cuddlemii: If your wife lied about her salary, then, you need to check yourself. That is the sad truth!
I don't blame some women for doing this. Money is the root of all evil and triggers some effects if not properly managed

Some men spend their wife's money on mistresses and night life leaving their wives haggard & dry.
Some kill their wives in order to inherit their wealth & marry younger lovers.
Some men abscond with their wife's money with a younger lover.

It could also be out of humility.
Sometimes you don't want to appear pompous, proud or intimidating, you just want your hubby to love you for you and not feel threatened or obligated.

If a lady keeps her salary away from her man, then, she is playing safe not necessary hoping to spend the man's money.
A lady has to secure her future with the kind two faced men we have all over the place that lack discipline

Cuddlemii: If your wife lied about her salary, then, you need to check yourself. That is the sad truth!
I don't blame some women for doing this. Money is the root of all evil and triggers some effects if not properly managed

Some men spend their wife's money on mistresses and night life leaving their wives haggard & dry.
Some kill their wives in order to inherit their wealth & marry younger lovers.
Some men abscond with their wife's money with a younger lover.

It could also be out of humility.
Sometimes you don't want to appear pompous, proud or intimidating, you just want your hubby to love you for you and not feel threatened or obligated.

If a lady keeps her salary away from her man, then, she is playing safe not necessary hoping to spend the man's money.
A lady has to secure her future with the kind two faced men we have all over the place that lack discipline

RudySmith:

What you wrote only concerns wives who earn a lot and pretend they dont, while the poster's issue could be that the wife pretended she earned a lot while she didnt. The fact that you only focussed on ONE side of the issue, without any confirmation of the lie, shows your biased frame of mind.
There are many women out there who pretend they are rich and earning tons, while in fact they are living off handouts and peanuts.

Why do you think many women want to rock BB, Guci bags and louboutin shoes etc when they can't even feed their poor hungry self?

arapoa: poster, send her away. i hate it when wives lied to their husband. they could do anything.

Cuddlemii:

Biased frame of mind?
I don't see how my comment warranted this. I only expressed my views which wasn't too bad (.i.e likely causes).

Thats what discussions are about, right?
Learning and pitching in the side(s) you are aware of or have experienced.

What if, I am just learning for the first time that women lie about earning more?
What you could have done was to disregard my comment and stuck to the BOTH sides you are knowledgeable about.
This also shows your know-all frame of mind

RudySmith:

Are you saying that you do not know about any woman who lied simply because she was a deceitful person? are you saying that all women lie to prevent themselves from the evils of men? Are you saying that all women who lie about money do so because they have some and lie that they have none?

the fact that you automatically assumed that the wife may have done that because of how bad men supposedly are, shows your biased frame of mind. Nothing in your post pointed towards the fact that some women are lying deceitful beings out to con men in some way or the other...... which could be the case here? is that so far fetched, or it must *always* be that women do this because men are evil being, like you wrote?

Anyone *not bias* who just learn about a subject would use the whole issue to argue a point, and not just focus on *one side* like you did.

Cuddlemii: If your wife lied about her salary, then, you need to check yourself. That is the sad truth!
I don't blame some women for doing this. Money is the root of all evil and triggers some effects if not properly managed

Some men spend their wife's money on mistresses and night life leaving their wives haggard & dry.
Some kill their wives in order to inherit their wealth & marry younger lovers.
Some men abscond with their wife's money with a younger lover.

It could also be out of humility.
Sometimes you don't want to appear pompous, proud or intimidating, you just want your hubby to love you for you and not feel threatened or obligated.

If a lady keeps her salary away from her man, then, she is playing safe not necessary hoping to spend the man's money.
A lady has to secure her future with the kind two faced men we have all over the place that lack discipline

Area-Fada:
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Look at them playing pocket lawyer all over the place. You think the poster didn't sit down to work out what the cause of it might be before coming here?

@cuddlemi: If she so distrusts her husband to suspect of poosibility of eloping with another woman, what is the point of the marriage? She's not married to " some men" but her husband who she should know well enough before marrying him.

I know many of those commenting here have very few years of marriage experience if at all. In these day and age all incomes should be family income no matter who brings it in.

My lady was not working for years (bringing up kids) and as a single earner, we both sat down to decide on spending.
Now that she works, we both still sit down to discuss expenses and what projects to do.

How can a man or woman be insincere about income? I think it's a very bad thing, if a man or woman does it.
My lady keeps all the payslips because she's better organised.

At least here in diaspora that's just common sense.
@ Poster: Does your wife know how much you earn?

kilimanjaro:
This one harsh O!

kilimanjaro: @all,
Thanks for the inputs. The point is - the husband is comfortable, he never depends on his wife, this man has built his own house and has two cars.
Why then would she lie?

Area-Fada:
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Look at them playing pocket lawyer all over the place. You think the poster didn't sit down to work out what the cause of it might be before coming here?

@cuddlemi: If she so distrusts her husband to suspect of poosibility of eloping with another woman, what is the point of the marriage? She's not married to " some men" but her husband who she should know well enough before marrying him.

I know many of those commenting here have very few years of marriage experience if at all. In these day and age all incomes should be family income no matter who brings it in.

My lady was not working for years (bringing up kids) and as a single earner, we both sat down to decide on spending.
Now that she works, we both still sit down to discuss expenses and what projects to do.

How can a man or woman be insincere about income? I think it's a very bad thing, if a man or woman does it.
My lady keeps all the payslips because she's better organised.

At least here in diaspora that's just common sense.
@ Poster: Does your wife know how much you earn?

kilimanjaro: @all,
Thanks for the inputs. The point is - the husband is comfortable, he never depends on his wife, this man has built his own house and has two cars.
Why then would she lie?

ßløøð:

No comfortable, respectable and responsible husband cares about his wife's salary, so the question above does not arise, IMO! And, why wife Why not partner If he's that comfortable, what's his business with his wife's earnings In fact, why ask Why make her lie Will he also tell her his exact salary A wife is just a helper, it's a husband's duty to pay the bills, so he should deal with it and stop being petty!

bakila:
In Naijaspora a woman will build a house and rent it out without her husband knowing about it. Facts remains marriage is a business that is not determined by any manual.

Blazay: Get real!
You are ALREADY MARRIED. . . It is your responsibility to build YOUR MARRIAGE THE WAY YOU WANT IT. . .even if she has erred!
Perhaps it is your 'high-handedness' that makes her to TELL LIES!
If the husband has not been STEALING her money for some booze or
things' like ashawos and IGBO. . .she would not be forced to tell lies!
If you set a good example. . . she would learn to trust you!
Period!

Marriage is not a bed of roses. . . sometimes you win and sometimes you lose!
No successful marriage comes with a manual of operation. . .UNLESS YOU ARE NOT MARRIED. . . Then wait till you get in to see how difficult for 2 people to agree AT ANY GIVEN TIME!

Thank you!

Afam4eva: When your wife lies to you about her salary it means she's preparing for a future without you. That's the sad truth.

Afam4eva: When your wife lies to you about her salary it means she's preparing for a future without you. That's the sad truth.

sentix: Most people here dont understand married women at all!

All Good Women always keep some extra cash from their husband!
Provided the woman is doing somethings in the home with her money I dont think you should be worried about how much she earns. It is your duty to provide for for her!

Make your own money!