I am so disappointed in my wife. we have been married for 2 months now. i always thought i was about 2 years older than her only to find out that she is actually 3 years older after a year of marriage. I am very disgusted because under no circumstances did i think i will marry a lady that much older than me. I told her that age was a big criteria before we got married. Its not fair that she should do this to me. We dated for 3 years before we tied the knot . I am already 33 and she is actually about 36 by her confession. We are having problems conceiving that's why she confessed. Doctors say female fertility drops with age. Fertility even drops further after 35. I am really disgusted with her. I feel all the love I had evaporating. I really don't think I can continue with the marriage. Its just too early for a separation. I hate any thing based on lies. Please folks advise me cos i am currently looking a younger girls still in the university.

ouch. lies and deciet can cause irreparable damage to any marriage. she should have opened up to you when the relationship was getting serious. i suppose she was scared of losing you. from what you've posted, i don't see much of a future in the marriage. poor her.

Mu he he he he


@OP

God is in control.

Let us pray please. . .

Hes in kontro
Hes in kontro
Master jisus. . . Hes in kontro. . .

Amen.

I am so disappointed in my wife. we have been married for 2 months now.
i always thought i was about 2 years older than her only to find out that she is actually 3 years older after a year of marriage.

Looks like you are a liar yourself.

Please folks advise me cos i am currently looking a younger girls still in the university.

 

You do not need advice really.

I despise liars especially those that lie about age.
Geez what's the big deal about letting someone love you for who you are.

Question is how many other things has she lied about?
As for me, that will be enough for me to dump her sorry as.

I am so disappointed in my wife. we have been married for 2 months now. i always thought i was about 2 years older than her  only to find out that she is actually 3 years older after a year  of marriage.

I dont seems to understand this you have been married for two months now only to find out that she was 3 years older than you after a year of marriage.

pls make it clear ok

Based on ma point of view i fnk women lie prolly because dey dont wanna loose sumtn dat is worth it and frm uve jus said am also fnkn she lied to u cos she truly loves u, in marriages dere r ups n down dnt let dis chatter u bsds ur lookin for anoda gal inwic u dont no her own syd of d stori, see pple will say d devil uve known is far betr dan d angel u r abt to no, fnk twice mr

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  My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age
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I am so disappointed in my wife. we have been married for 2 months now. i always thought i was about 2 years older than her  only to find out that she is actually 3 years older[b] after a year  of marriage.[/b] I am very disgusted because under no circumstances did i think i will marry a lady that much older than me. I told her that age was a big criteria before we got married. Its not fair that she should do this to me. We dated for 3 years before we tied the knot . I am already 33 and she is actually about 36 by her confession. We are having problems conceiving that's why she confessed. Doctors say female fertility drops with age. Fertility even drops further after 35. I am really disgusted with her. I feel all the love I had evaporating. I really don't think I can continue with the marriage. Its just too early for a separation. I hate any thing based on lies. Please folks advise me cos i am currently looking a younger girls still in the university. 

 

The dude is lying.
NL and fake tories eh?


Mu he he he he

OP don quench light runaway!
I just love to have fun with all these NL "yahoo" posters.

Don't change your story o!
Laya jam laya. . . serves you right!

Look at this  'Chief 'fagade' of 'jebako village' or is it 'michael faraday'?



You tink se we nor fit read?

ANother man conned into marriage.

I trust some people would tell him to endure it

Blazay:

 


I just love to have fun with all these NL "yahoo" posters.

dayokanu:

ANother man conned into marriage.

I trust some people would tell him to endure it

You need to go back and re-read the Ops story.
Hes been married[b] for 3 months[/b] and found out the wife lied after a year of marriage . . . .Ojigbijigbi

Nairaland-ers! Na una biko. . .another episode of 'Super story'.

We have been married for a year. What I really meant by the 2 months is , we have been trying to conceive all the while and really started getting worried 2 months ago about why we have not been able to conceive. That was a mistake, my mind has really been trailing away because i am really sad about the development. i don't have any need to lie about this. I need help not condemnation. Thanks. if you had not pointed out the mistake I wouldn't have noticed

there is nothing u can do, u guys are already married. Accept it as ur fate

Omolola1:

there is nothing u can do, u guys are already married. Accept it as your fate

Lol. What do you mean by that?

So if you discover that your husband is a member of a deadly cult after marriage which he didnt tell you about while courting, you just accept it like that since you are married

His wife hid sth that big from him for that long. . .

@Faraday, hw do u feel abt her right NOW

Omolola1:

there is nothing u can do, u guys are already married. Accept it as your fate

Not all things can be accepted as fate my dear. Especially if smthn can be done abt it. A marriage based on lies? I cant o! The truth is he will always see her as being 3 years older (which is smthn he never wanted). So how long will he keep doing this?
@ poster Im sure u are to discover so many other things abt her. So what reason did she give u 4 lying abt her age?

Omolola1:

there is nothing u can do, u guys are already married. Accept it as your fate

There's a lotta things he can do. One of which is SEPARATION and ultimately, DIVORCE.

It is that BAD

o boi,ur own good ohhhh.

Go fix ur broken marriage, dnt let d devil take control of wat god has joined together,

Accept her back lovingly so when you impregnate a young girl outside she will accept you back happily. No complain

'/'/

chaircover:

I think the poster is within his right to feel dissapointed especially as he made it clear that age was a major issue BEFORE he married her.

Having said that poster you do have some blame here, bearing in mind that age was such a big deal to you, in the three years that you courted her, then[b] you should have done more [/b]to make sure that you were being fed the correct number.

You are right, fertility does decrease with age but I wouldnt say that 35 is too old to conceive & there is still plenty of time to fill your house with kids if there are no undelying medical issues with either of you. My mum had her last at 44.

However, for this to work you both have to get over this and put your minds in one place, regarding trying for a baby. E pa okan po si ibikan.

In the mean time take a few days off and think deeply about how you wish to proceed. Dont just look at the current situation, but look at the relationship in its totality.

Can you find it in your heart to severly reprimand her and completely forgive her or you are just unble to live with the deception. It is your descision at the end of the day as you will be the one waking up everymorning beside her. Good Luck.

@ chaircover
pls  explain more on the above bolded for the sake of us single men that wish to avoid this trap in prospective partners seeing as MOST ladies can be very convincing liars when they CHOOSE to be?

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i don't usualy encourage seperation ones u are married u are married i will advise u to forgive ur wife and move on cos the devil u know is still beta dan the angel  u do not no cos wat is the asurance that u will meet an angel acept it as ur faith and forgive ur wife God will give u children

Age aint nothing but numbers, an 18 year old virgin may find it difficult to concieve while a 40 year old may concieve after one 'quickie' at the back seat of a car, and may even shell out triplets!
Its the posters fault for not digging deeper since age was so important to him. Just keep trying, btw, what did the doctors say? Did they say its her fault or yours?

filani:

@ chaircover
pls  explain more on the above bolded for the sake of us single men that wish to avoid this trap in prospective partners seeing as MOST ladies can be very convincing liars when they CHOOSE to be?

^{Taking notes behind the scene} I am still only 14years old but I thank God I come from Naija where I can buy a genje birth certificate and passport stating I am 21 years old so i can sneak into the club when asked for proof of age, and thank God I look like my Dad and I am tall too, that if I claim to be 23 years old people would believe this too, infact some of them who grow pass me dey call me Aunty sef God bless Nigeria, a Country where because people wan chop eran nomo dey have no compulsion in calling malu brother
God don catch men

bengreat:

o boi,your own good ohhhh. I found that my wife is 13 yrs older than me after 4 yrs of marraige.

This one na serious laughing matter oh, chei na real ogbonge cradle snatcher be this one oh, haba, see desperation Sorry, I shouldn't be laughing 

You have heard it all faraday62 from chaircover, soft girl, & others. The devil you know is better than the one you dont know. Your wife may have lied because she did not want to loose you. Dont rush. Still watch the situation before you take any decision so you dont regret letting her go. We all make mistakes. Do not dwell too much on her own mistakes, & end up making a mistake you will regret. Good luck.

You are lucky she even confessed. Some are die-hard criminals and dont have any guilty.
If she is a good wife and the only problem is the age and infertility issue, keep praying and have FAITH.
Nothing is above God.

@ Chaircover, 're u a philosopher or a legal practitioner?, what an outstanding IQ!, keep it up ma'am.

@ OP,,, Remember that marriage is d only institution u get d certificate b4 attending its classes/courses.

Ride on for luv bears many things, and this happened to be one of such.

The fact dat u couldn't discover dis earlier means she's younger than her age which is cool either way,

Meanwhile, many other factors can as well contribute to her inability to take-in on time. Hus and wife can't do it all alone without d help of God, Kindly accept her apology, embrace her and move on with prayer.

A wife who lied about her age.

Removed 6yrs could actually be hiding more things, I see this as a case of being conned into marriage. The final decision lies with you. Anything you do, I support

I wonder if it was the other way round whether I would have been seen as a lie. Just wondering.