I just read a disturbing thread on Nairaland (https://www.nairaland.com/160981/nigerian-nurses-beware) of unprecedented woes befalling marriages involving Nigerian nurses in USA, including divorces, legal separations, relationship dramas, and outright murder by their spouses. I searched further on Google and found even scarier stories, one citing almost a 50% divorce rate among Nigerian nurses in USA especially Licensed Practical nurses (LPNs) compared to Nigerian women in other professions. What could be the reason for this? Is it the stress of the job, upbringing back home or influence by peers?

Since I mentioned my intention to switch to nursing profession in order to get a more stable job in USA, my fiancé have developed a cold feet on moving forward while he is working through friends to talk me out of it. Any advice on how one can be a successful nurse in USA and still avoid these marital pitfalls?

Because WE ARE EXPENSIVE HOES that make more money AND CAN DELIVER IN CASH AND IN KIND, beautifully CONFIDENT, in demamd by MANY OF THE OPPOSITE SE-X, command respect from the community and are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too intelligent for MOST Nigerian 'country-niggazzz'!
Instead of 'em broke azzes to keep up with our paces, they be trying to pull us daaaaaan!
But H-Amerikah na woman KAUNTRI. . .say who die?
Na im go quench fOrst!
Jigabooz. . . try ya luck!

The only well adjusted Nigerian Men who have the GUSTO to deal with highly beautiful and assertive NURSES are MALE NURSES THEMSELVES who have come to understand what the 'shakara' is all about.

Simply put. . . WE ROCK. . .[size=20pt]because our 'swagger' dey 'dagger' PEEPS![/size]

Looking for advice?
Sorry. . . I ain't gat none!
You are an adult. . .it is your life!

Woged2005: I just read a disturbing thread on Nairaland (https://www.nairaland.com/160981/nigerian-nurses-beware) of unprecedented woes befalling marriages involving Nigerian nurses in USA, including divorces, legal separations, relationship dramas, and outright murder by their spouses. I searched further on Google and found even scarier stories, one citing almost a 50% divorce rate among Nigerian nurses in USA especially Licensed Practical nurses (LPNs) compared to Nigerian women in other professions. What could be the reason for this? Is it the stress of the job, upbringing back home or influence by peers?

Since I mentioned my intention to switch to nursing profession in order to get a more stable job in USA, my fiancé have developed a cold feet on moving forward while he is working through friends to talk me out of it. Any advice on how one can be a successful nurse in USA and still avoid these marital pitfalls?

@OP: I may not have all the data, but your findings may be true anyway, because I got people in USA in nursing profession now living as a single parent. Reason I don't know too.

Relationship problem maybe from either of spouses due to the job demand. Likewise, it can never be that, everyone would have same problem.
So, since you're having awareness now, it is an opportunity to make sure yours won't head toward that direction.

Callotti: Because WE ARE EXPENSIVE HOES that make more money AND CAN DELIVER IN CASH AND IN KIND, beautifully CONFIDENT, in demamd by MANY OF THE OPPOSITE SE-X, command respect from the community and are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too intelligent for MOST Nigerian 'country-niggazzz'!
Instead of 'em broke azzes to keep up with our paces, they be trying to pull us daaaaaan!
But H-Amerikah na woman KAUNTRI. . .say who die?
Na im go quench fOrst!
Jigabooz. . . try ya luck!

The only well adjusted Nigerian Men who have the GUSTO to deal with highly beautiful and assertive NURSES are MALE NURSES THEMSELVES who have come to understand what the 'shakara' is all about.

Simply put. . . WE ROCK. . .[size=20pt]because our 'swagger' dey 'dagger' PEEPS![/size]

Sister you sound like our nurses got it all in cash and all that (swagger). However reports show that nurses (CNA/ LPNs) are only in the low - median salary ($30k - $65 a yr, same as Taxi drivers and armed security guards) in the USA according to tax information. There are several Nigerians in USA making six figures especially those in IT (average $90k a yr) and financial industries (about $110k a yr) but not having same issues. My friends at UN, IMF/World Bank make almost $120k a year and work only 8hours a day.....

^^ CNA and LPN are the taxi drivers in nursing. Do your research on the burgatti, lamborghini et al drivers. I think they got the swagger. My 2 cents.

Callotti: Because WE ARE EXPENSIVE HOES that make more money AND CAN DELIVER IN CASH AND IN KIND, beautifully CONFIDENT, in demamd by MANY OF THE OPPOSITE SE-X, command respect from the community and are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too intelligent for MOST Nigerian 'country-niggazzz'!
Instead of 'em broke azzes to keep up with our paces, they be trying to pull us daaaaaan!
But H-Amerikah na woman KAUNTRI. . .say who die?
Na im go quench fOrst!
Jigabooz. . . try ya luck!

The only well adjusted Nigerian Men who have the GUSTO to deal with highly beautiful and assertive NURSES are MALE NURSES THEMSELVES who have come to understand what the 'shakara' is all about.

Simply put. . . WE ROCK. . .[size=20pt]because our 'swagger' dey 'dagger' PEEPS![/size]

thanks sistah! U just spoke my mind.you are 1oo% correct

Dr young: ^^ CNA and LPN are the taxi drivers in nursing. Do your research on the burgatti, lamborghini et al drivers. I think they got the swagger. My 2 cents.

But the, divorces, breakups and marital woes are not happening much for the high income nurses (BSNs and Masters Degree holders) and medical practitioners but mostly for the LPNs, and small people like me. What are we doing wrong then? That's my question. Swagger or not there's no happy divorced woman with kids..please let's not pretend. Why are nurses in Nigeria not divorcing then? They are married to the same insecured, chavanistic Nigerian males.

Its just empty pride.....I know women who earn triple of their salary and yet very humble...Ladies like Ngozi Okonjo Iweala is my ideal woman...anytime....anyday...why hasn't she divorced the husband as a world bank vice-president.....Its just pride....pride...pride

this poster is not a well person.

better ignored but then she might assume no one sees her [or him]

Woged2005:


Sister you sound like our nurses got it all in cash and all that (swagger). However reports show that nurses (CNA/ LPNs) are only in the low - median salary ($30k - $65 a yr, same as Taxi drivers and armed security guards) in the USA according to tax information. There are several Nigerians in USA making six figures especially those in IT (average $90k a yr) and financial industries (about $110k a yr) but not having same issues. My friends at UN, IMF/World Bank make almost $120k a year and work only 8hours a day.....

Woged2005:

Since I mentioned my intention to switch to nursing profession in order to get a more stable job in USA, my fiancé have developed a cold feet on moving forward while he is working through friends to talk me out of it. Any advice on how one can be a successful nurse in USA and still avoid these marital pitfalls?

you have issues and need help.

I forgot to add...The American Laws as it relates to marital relationship places more rights on women....thank God for Nigeria.....If u enter naija marry correct guy...the day u mess up ....u go get technical separation...it means u won't see your husband in months another woman is giving him TLC ...NO TIME....

Woged2005:


Sister you sound like our nurses got it all in cash and all that (swagger). However reports show that nurses (CNA/ LPNs) are only in the low - median salary ($30k - $65 a yr, same as Taxi drivers and armed security guards) in the USA according to tax information. There are several Nigerians in USA making six figures especially those in IT (average $90k a yr) and financial industries (about $110k a yr) but not having same issues. My friends at UN, IMF/World Bank make almost $120k a year and work only 8hours a day.....

So your level na the bottom of the drum aka CNA and LVN huh?
Nor be ya fault.
No wonder.
Only nurses married to LIMO drivers aka glorified MOLUE drivers are at such high risk for divorce dear. If you don't want DIVORCE PLUS UNTIMELY DEATH. . . aim higher!
MARRY A PROFESSIONAL LIKE YOURSELF!

No guarantees of course. Push come to shove, you live as flatmates! No need for divorce.
Abi Dr. Ngozi of the World Bank nor marry dokita wey get 'nurse-concubine'?
Nor be marriage be dat?

Woged2005:

But the, divorces, breakups and marital woes are not happening much for the high income nurses (BSNs and Masters Degree holders) and medical practitioners but mostly for the LPNs, and small people like me. What are we doing wrong then? That's my question. Swagger or not there's no happy divorced woman with kids..please let's not pretend. Why are nurses in Nigeria not divorcing then? They are married to the same insecured, chavanistic Nigerian males.

It is quite unfortunate that you really think there are 'marriages' in places like Nigeria where women have ABSOLUTE ZERO VALUE.

Callotti:

It is quite unfortunate that you really think there are 'marriages' in places like Nigeria where women have ABSOLUTE ZERO VALUE.

There are just a lot of angry people pretending to be happy!!! I don't judge anyone and my prayers for all those going through problems is that their hearts be healed. Life is all about fulfillment. Bob Marley sang "..are you satisfied... with the life you are living..?" Doesn't matter if you are either in Nigeria, USA, China, Jamaica or Babados. I've lived in US for the past 5yrs. I don't think people living in USA are more fulfilled than people in Nigeria and vice versa, and I don't think mariages in USA are sweeter than those in Nigeria.. It's all case by case basis. My pastor once said "you have a hand in whatever you are going through in life..the sooner you face it the better"

Woged2005:

There are just a lot of angry people pretending to be happy!!! I don't judge anyone and my prayers for all those going through problems is that their hearts be healed. Life is all about fulfillment. Bob Marley sang "..are you satisfied... with the life you are living..?" Doesn't matter if you are either in Nigeria, USA, China, Jamaica or Babados. I've lived in US for the past 5yrs. I don't think people living in USA are more fulfilled than people in Nigeria and vice versa, and I don't think mariages in USA are sweeter than those in Nigeria.. It's all case by case basis. My pastor once said "you have a hand in whatever you are going through in life..the sooner you face it the better"

Your opinion. I beg to differ. How can ANYONE live aI fulfilled life amidst the level of poverty in a place like Nigeria? Lest you derail your own thread, back to topic.
I repeat:If you are successful avoid miserable and wretched mentalities. 90% of Nigerian nurses are CONTENT and happy as single or married.

Your choice abeg. Nor be by force to be NURSE! You can be anything you wanno be. . . NO BARRY CARES!

Next thread please!

Woged2005:

There are just a lot of angry people pretending to be happy!!! I don't judge anyone and my prayers for all those going through problems is that their hearts be healed. Life is all about fulfillment. Bob Marley sang "..are you satisfied... with the life you are living..?" Doesn't matter if you are either in Nigeria, USA, China, Jamaica or Babados. I've lived in US for the past 5yrs. I don't think people living in USA are more fulfilled than people in Nigeria and vice versa, and I don't think mariages in USA are sweeter than those in Nigeria.. It's all case by case basis. My pastor once said "you have a hand in whatever you are going through in life..the sooner you face it the better"

Your opinion. I beg to differ. How can ANYONE live a fulfilled life amidst the level of poverty in a place like Nigeria? Lest you derail your own thread, back to topic.
I repeat:If you are successful avoid miserable and wretched mentalities. 90% of Nigerian nurses I KNOW, are CONTENT and happy as single or married. Unless you are dealing with those "mgbeke-wife-killers" we read about.

Your choice abeg. Nor be by force to be NURSE! You can be a doctor or pharmacist. No time to waste. This na 2013.

Happy NY!

Back to my sweeeeeet nursing job jare. Triple HOLIDAY-PAY. Less than 3 hours to close!

Callotti:

Your opinion. I beg to differ. How can ANYONE live a fulfilled life amidst the level of poverty in a place like Nigeria? Lest you derail your own thread, back to topic.
I repeat:If you are successful avoid miserable and wretched mentalities. 90% of Nigerian nurses I KNOW, are CONTENT and happy as single or married. Unless you are dealing with those "mgbeke-wife-killers" we read about.

Your choice abeg. Nor be by force to be NURSE! You can be a doctor or pharmacist. No time to waste. This na 2013.

Happy NY!

Back to my sweeeeeet nursing job jare. Triple HOLIDAY-PAY. Less than 3 hours to close!

Ok. Happy New year! Life is not about money though, and money doesn't buy happiness. Even Americans call it 'petty' when a life is dependent on hourly 'dollars' and 'cents'. I know many students in USA whose school fees & accomodation are being paid in full by their parents from Nigeria in hard dollars. We can't call such people poor. Here in US I know several nurse friends from Nigeria who dress, look exuberant and portray affluence outside but within they share they are not happy in anyaway. They want a happy family for their kids like others. That's the point of this thread...how one can avoid that. It's not really about how much people earn or have. The best paid and the wealthiest people hardly talk about it...

Simply summarized:Some are good, make good wives at homes while some are best described as petty 'drama queens' who started making money they never expected in their lives. it got into their head. Other causes and solutions as you requested are:

Cause 1: Influence from older divorced nurses. Solution: Work with them, respect them but never have close association with them especially long empty, fable, phone conversations (gossips). They'll polute your mind.

Cause 2: Long working hours. many nurses work overtime, double jobs to make the so-called money. They come home, tired, stressed and apprehensive. Solution: Balance career with family. Raising a happy family is a full-time job also. Work your 8hrs, go home spend time wit your hubby. get rest, eatout together, be romantic! make sweet love rather than working long hours.

Cause 3: Lack of family values/good upbringing back home. some parents in Naija raise kids to believe money is everything; going to America is a gateway to dat money. Truth: The longer you live in America the more indebted you're, poorer you're because your liability (worth you owe) is higher than your assets (what you have) called Networth, d unhappier you are. Live within ur means.

Cause 4: Ungodliness! The so-called freedom/ enjoyment is usally fornication, partying, clubbing, drinking, ungodliness. Solution: Follow bible "Wives obey (respect) your husbands, be submissive to them...husbands love your wives as Christ loved his church..". You are partners for progress; not competitors/ business associates. Enjoyment is when a family spends time together, husband and wife hold hands in love, cuddle each other while watching their children play, laugh and be happy.

Charliemorgano: Its just empty pride.....I know women who earn triple of their salary and yet very humble...Ladies like Ngozi Okonjo Iweala is my ideal woman...anytime....anyday...why hasn't she divorced the husband as a world bank vice-president.....Its just pride....pride...pride

NOI's husband is an accomplished neurosurgeon, maybe that has something to do with it.

I can advise young men going back to Nigeria to marry to stay away from potential 'Drama Queens'...nothing good ever comes from them except troubles an divorce...usually empty drums make the loudest noise. There are beautiful Nigerian ladies already adjusted to US culture/system you can marry..why travel home?

Because the nurses are the breadwinners and the husbands do not make good house-keepers and baby-sitters like mine!

Callotti: Because WE ARE EXPENSIVE HOES that make more money AND CAN DELIVER IN CASH AND IN KIND, beautifully CONFIDENT, in demamd by MANY OF THE OPPOSITE SE-X, command respect from the community and are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too intelligent for MOST Nigerian 'country-niggazzz'!
Instead of 'em broke azzes to keep up with our paces, they be trying to pull us daaaaaan!
But H-Amerikah na woman KAUNTRI. . .say who die?
Na im go quench fOrst!
Jigabooz. . . try ya luck!

The only well adjusted Nigerian Men who have the GUSTO to deal with highly beautiful and assertive NURSES are MALE NURSES THEMSELVES who have come to understand what the 'shakara' is all about.

Simply put. . . WE ROCK. . .[size=20pt]because our 'swagger' dey 'dagger' PEEPS![/size]

who is this n wat is she saying??

drnoel:
who is this n wat is she saying??

*shouting at the top of my lungs*

[size=20pt]NA H-ONLE MY POST YOU SEE FOR THIS THREAD? [/size]

Hey!
This is LASINNOH. . . Get ya fingers off my post!
If you don't h-understand. . . .GET AN H-INTERPRETER FROM 'THE MIDDLE BELT' OF NIGERIA!
Thank you!

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