My marriage life became a month old today. I learnt my first lesson yesterday that one should not put his trust in his wife. No matter the level of her knowledge and understanding dont consult her everytime you want to take decision.

I dnt Believe dat. ‎​ ‎​Τ̲̅ђe Couple shd take all decisions togeda. ‎​ Ǧ☺ϑ help us all

harbeordune: I dnt Believe dat. ‎​ ‎​Τ̲̅ђe Couple shd take all decisions togeda. ‎​ Ǧ☺ϑ help us all

that was my lesson. If you dnt have. Just expect...

OP,


What happened? NLders cld help you sort out the issue. It won't help your marriage to just decide to stop trusting your wife

What happened Mr.

kitty kat: OP,


What happened? NLders cld help you sort out the issue. It won't help your marriage to just decide to stop trusting your wife

huh! Amebo! I'm a man enough to handle my family affairs. It was just a lessön not a problem. Thx for ur concern.

To stay for the long run "inu e ma jin" ni. Which means you have to have a forgiving spirit. If it is anything that happened before the marriage address it and truly let it go. You have to let go of the spirit of malice and resentment, otherwise you wouldn't last. Sure there are things that are deal breakers. But don't hold on to little things, or things said in anger. Forgive and forget. But both of you should learn and grow from each disagreement.always speak your mind. My two cowries.

So what exactly do you need ? since you can handle this ? What lesson? That people shouldn't trust their wives?

Don't get me wrong...I'm just being sincere.

baby_123: To stay for the long run "inu e ma jin" ni. Which means you have to have a forgiving spirit. If it is anything that happened before the marriage address it and truly let it go. You have to let go of the spirit of malice and resentment, otherwise you wouldn't last. Sure there are things that are deal breakers. But don't hold on to little things, or things said in anger. Forgive and forget. But both of you should learn and grow from each disagreement.always speak your mind. My two cowries.

thx before now i've learnt how to forgive my partner before she asks for forgivesness.

jidegirl12: So what exactly do you need ? since you can handle this ? What lesson? That people shouldn't trust their wives?

Don't get me wrong...I'm just being sincere.

na wa o! Nlers are very funny. if i need nlers' advice,i will ask. This thread is about lesson learnt in marriage life.

omiobo:
thx before now i've learnt how to forgive my partner before she asks for forgivesness.

You can't last if you can't trust. Chain of events will happen that will destroy the whole thing. Any decision you make right now affects your family. Two heads are better than one and reduces mistakes. I am sure you married the right person who you know will always tell you the truth whether you like it or not. If she betrayed your trust let her know. And let her know how important trust is in a relationship. Don't just start counting and holding things in. If you try counting na hypertension o.

baby_123:

You can't last if you can't trust. Chain of events will happen that will destroy the whole thing. Any decision you make right now affects your family. Two heads are better than one and reduces mistakes. I am sure you married the right person who you know will always tell you the truth whether you like it or not. If she betrayed your trust let her know. And let her know how important trust is in a relationship. Don't just start counting and holding things in. If you try counting na hypertension o.

ok ma! Back to the topic of the thread,what was ur first lession in ur marriage?

omiobo:
ok ma! Back to thread,what was ur first lession in ur marriage?

No malice! I work on any issue affecting me asap. I don't let it even linger for 1min. I don't keep grudges and am one to forget am even fighting with someone. So if I ever get in that situation (malice/ unforgiveness), everyone around me will be miserable. So I don't go there.

I should always talk about my feelings on time, good or bad, cos he listens and hates grudges.

But op, if u don't trust your wife?......Who will u trust, as you are already one with her?... Just asking?....
And taking family decisions alone , without her, that will affect both yur lives?... How do u think she will feel?... If u were in her shoes?

cant help laffing at your user name l ;Dl omiobo

butta: cant help laffing at your user name l ;Dl omiobo

lol! Not what u think

victorian: But op, if u don't trust your wife?......Who will u trust, as you are already one with her?... Just asking?....
And taking family decisions alone , without her, that will affect both yur lives?... How do u think she will feel?... If u were in her shoes?

so far all replies gotten are from women. Anyway i dont expect you all to reason with me but i know i've learnt lesson 1

You have to know each others limitations, strengths and weakness. One good example is in taking risk. Some people are risk averse and others are not. Imagine a couple: One a serious risk taker and the other a risk averse person. Sometimes, the risk taker may have to take some calculated risks before telling. Though he / she has to be careful not to take this to the extreme. On the other hand, it is good to hear the other person's point of view to balance things out. It is usually better to discuss and agree on most things but not every single thing.

Biology!

@ op na u sabi oh.chief lesson learner.can see u have really learnt well.am sure with time all your trust is going to be concubines

@op, firstly, happy married life!


2ndly, as regards this lesson learnt in yur marriage, sorry, she might have really betrayed yur trust indeed, but instead of keeping resentment against her, why dont you call her and tell her what she did wrong, let her know dt dis is marriage and not bf/gf relationship, im just concerned about your marriage, because its just too early to be taking such decision, that is what marriage is all about, no perfect person in life, imagine, two imperfect persons together, therefore, dont expect perfect marriage, its all about TOLERANCE, COMPROMISE and TRUST. May God help us all.

First lesson learnt.............to grow up, i use to behave funny when we first got married, on any little issue, i flare up as if im dealing with a non-human, d day my hubby called me by my first name and said, "i want you to know that this is marriage and marriages are not meant for babies, d4, grow up, if you want us to enjoy this marriage together". That statement was an eye-opener for me, it changed d way i reason and helped my marriage, 8yrs and still counting, its like we just got married yesterday..
Again, may God help us all, especially to make and take d right decision.

omiobo: My marriage life became a month old today. I learnt my first lesson yesterday that one should not put his trust in his wife. No matter the level of her knowledge and understanding dont consult her everytime you want to take decision.

Ol' boy that was quite a bad lesson to learn. Care to share why?

davidylan:

Ol' boy that was quite a bad lesson to learn. Care to share why?

only God know why he doesnt want to share for others in his shoes to learn.

My first lesson ---I learnt to use my mind more than I use my mouth.At the initial stage of the marriage,I wasn't very economical with words,my words can ruin a man.Now,I am very picky with words and have learnt more effective methods to put my stand across without engaging in any battle.

To never put all my men in one basket!!!