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Let Us Consider This From An Islamic Perspective by maclatunji: 4:37pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
Dear Colleagues, Unfortunately, I lost my senior brother (the same mother the same father) three years ago at age of 50, my brother left one wife with five children. My brother's wife still young (thirty years) plus. She so interest on me after the burial/outing service or some months later, she always calling me on the phone that I abandoned her. In fact, I try my best for her by sending money to her through bank account to take herself because I'm leaving at Ajah, My brother did not complete his house project before his untimely death, myself with support of family member complete the building and she is living there at Ogijo Ikorodu. Also her first son (19 years old)stay with me and caring for him. There was a day she told me on the phone that "Did i think she will marry another person after 5 children to my brother" and everything is not money, she want to see me, Infact I feel somehow that day. In conclusion, as a christian I don't want to cheat my own "housewife" or look like I'm commiting adultery or fornication. What Can I do? to marry her, OR to tell her to leave my brother's house to go and marry another person with five children. Please I need your Help. From Safejourney, Ajah, Lagos Originally posted here https://www.nairaland.com/1217895/marry-senior-brothers-wife#14646470 |
Re: Let Us Consider This From An Islamic Perspective by maclatunji: 4:38pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
As a Muslim man, how would you advice a Muslim to react under this scenario? As a Muslim women, would you accept this woman as a co-wife or ask your husband to ignore her and the need for his neices and nephews to have a stable home with his input and the emotional stability of their mother? |
Re: Let Us Consider This From An Islamic Perspective by ghazzal: 10:08am On Mar 08, 2013 |
maclatunji: As a Muslim man, how would you advice a Muslim to react under this scenario? If he likes her and with the consent of his wife, he can marry her. This is the Beauty of Islam - light to the world - the widow will be happy, the 5 children will have a home and be sure of a healthy life(at least) the wife will get her reward ........ and who says the man must have intimate relationship with the widow. HOW ELSE WILL THE WORLD BE A BETTER PLACE? This is different from the case of a young man with a young wife having the urge to marry another wife.... usually i ask, is he really lowering his gaze or does he not fear that he may not be able to deal justly with the two wives?/.... MAy God in his mercy guide us aright. 1 Like |
Re: Let Us Consider This From An Islamic Perspective by maclatunji: 3:15pm On Mar 08, 2013 |
^Thank you for your insight. |
Re: Let Us Consider This From An Islamic Perspective by mohammad11: 10:42am On Mar 28, 2013 |
It will be good if the person can go through (Q4:V19-27) very well. |
Re: Let Us Consider This From An Islamic Perspective by Nobody: 2:57pm On Mar 28, 2013 |
ghazzal: But after marriage, intimate relations becomes the right of the wife over her husband so if he is marrying her he has to ....errmm.... have those relations with her. She is still human. |
Re: Let Us Consider This From An Islamic Perspective by Nobody: 3:03pm On Mar 28, 2013 |
My opinion on the topic is that; since Muslim men are allowed to have more than one wife then I guess he can marry the widow, with or without his wife's approval. Allah has granted the man permission to marry many wives in the Qur'an so the wife really has no right to say 'don't marry someone else'. It would be wrong of her to make haram for him, what Allah made Halaal for him. But it would be traumatic for the wife though. Seeing her husband show affection to another woman in the house, hearing their 'relations' in the room at night, having to reduce her spending because her husband now has another mouth(s) to feed and maybe her husband would end up loving the widow more than he loves her so that is another heartache she has to deal with. But it is the man's right to marry four wives so these things can take back stage. |
Re: Let Us Consider This From An Islamic Perspective by SONKOko(m): 10:30pm On Mar 28, 2013 |
I think this is a perfect situation/reason for him to marry more than one wife. For the woman to voice out shows that she wants more than just money. She's in her thirties for crying out loud! How do you want her to start looking for husband in this our society? Since she's the one showing the green light, I will advice the man to arrange for the wedding asap... body is not firewood |
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