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HOW TO CONTROL FEAR

Your life is seriously controlled by fear...fear of failure, fear of death, fear of losing a loved one, fear of rejection...just about every manner of fear torments you. What is the right thing to do? Sit back and allow the fear to eat you up or eat it up first? What would your life be if it was devoid of fear? Let's roll. The steps are:

1. Identify the source of your fear
2. Look for the reason behind the source
3. Tackle the 'fountain'
4. Forge ahead
5. Understand that you have nothing to lose.


IDENTIFYING THE SOURCE OF YOUR FEAR

Nobody was born a coward and no one was programmed to be a fearful person. However, at a critical point in time, one is programmed to be afraid. It may happen when he/she had an accident that was nearly fatal or a relationship that went sour. In the former, the fear of automobiles and general driving and in the latter, the fear of the opposite sex would begin. Years later, such a person in the former scenario may dread any long distance journey or even city driving. The latter person may dread marriage and be very uncomfortable whenever the topic is mentioned.

Clue: Sit down and reflect back to the point when you started harbouring that fear. That should place the source.

LOOK FOR THE REASON BEHIND THE SOURCE OF YOUR FEAR
The fact the car you traveled in years ago had an accident does not necessarily mean the one you are supposed to travel in would have an accident. But to come to this conclusion, you must understand why the first one had an accident. This is not an easy task as you may most likely be emotional. However, if the reason behind the source is known, you would be in a better position to avoid the mistake that led you to that problem and thus eliminate fear.

Clue: [/b]Divorce yourself from that particular source of fear and look at the scenario with the eyes of a third party: what went wrong? How can you fix it?

[b]TACKLE THE 'FOUNTAIN'
You've known the cause of your fear and the reason behind the source now. The next step? You must do what you dread and continue doing it indefinitely! If you are afraid of approaching women, consciously do so every day. If you are afraid of driving, force yourself to drive everyday - you would get used to the process and fear would square out!

Clue: The hardest part is starting. In as much as you dread starting, follow the advice of Nick: 'Just do it!'

FORGE AHEAD

You've gone thus far. What should you do at this point? Relax? Celebrate? No! Continue the process indefinitely! Practice, they say, makes perfect!

Clue: Simply repeat the processes!

UNDERSTAND THAT YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE!

That simple understanding can change lives for the better. When you understand that you have nothing to lose, you come up with new levels of energy hitherto unknown even to you. This strategy was used to great effects by Alexander the great who never lost a single battle during his entire lifetime. If that girl or boy refuses you, what then? You've got nothing to lose but experience to gain!

Clue: Constant introspection and self reaffirmation is all that is needed here!

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Excellnt post, at least for those of us who have phobia for sme things............i have phobia for swimming, how can i conquer the fear?
May God help us all.
Thanks.

Greatgod2012, identify the source of that fear and follow the procedure outlined! You'd be amazed how fast it'll vanish!