What should you do when your spouse is behaving in a harsh and insensitive manner toward you and does not respond to
your requests for change? How should you respond when your mate daily demonstrates little or no respect for you or is
verbally abusive? What should you do when your spouse is using drugs, alcohol, viewing pornography, or when an adulterous
relationship is revealed? Should you do nothing and act like it’s not happening? Should you simply try to forgive and sweep it
under the rug or should you respond by taking some action? Is there an effective way of responding to these kinds of
circumstances? Yes! You should respond with tough love.
Many of you have probably heard the term tough love used in conversation. But, what does it mean to demonstrate

love? What does tough love do? What will u term as tough love? Because what works for me might not work for you.

In my own experience, when my 'important half' is getting extravagant with aso ebi here and there, sometimes i refuse to go on social events with her. Of course it gives her a bit of foul mood. But eventually she adjusts.

jeffizy: In my own experience, when my 'important half' is getting extravagant with aso ebi here and there, sometimes i refuse to go on social events with her. Of course it gives her a bit of foul mood. But eventually she adjusts.

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Invite him/her for a serious discussion........"perfect love cast out fear".
If you truly love your spouse and it seems he/she is misbehaving in one way or the other, the best thing the other party can do is to tell the person, let the person know that you know what he/she is doing and that you dont like it, say it in a loving way and the likely reppercussions of such behaviours and the negative effect such behaviours will have on your marriage and family at large.
May God help us all.

Madam ....."onikaluku pelu iwa ti e".
Do you know there are some spouses who are so arllegic to corrections?
They misinterpret correction as criticism.

jeffizy: Madam ....."onikaluku pelu iwa ti e".
Do you know there are some spouses who are so arllegic to corrections?
They misinterpret correction as criticism.

isu atenumo, kii jona


you keep on telling them until they themselves will know the likely reaction.

Does anyone really want to hurt his/her spouse in order to correct them?
Ive seen a family where the kids will dare you to beat them, simply because the best their mum will do is scream at them when they go wrong.

i think u should not relent your effort in letting him/her to really know that one is not getting it right. if it means crossing the line go ahead if u really LOVE dt person because d price will be quite too hard to bear if it turns out negative. Believe me they will be grateful to you atlast.

jeffizy: Madam ....."onikaluku pelu iwa ti e".
Do you know there are some spouses who are so arllegic to corrections?
They misinterpret correction as criticism.

Where communication becomes impossible,tough love comes handy but this depends on your partner's emotional bearing.If he is a meanie,tough love is a very bad idea,it works better with a spouse who is still very much into you or very sensitive.The extent one can go with tough love depends on the circumstAnces At hand .

After the subtle methods fails,I resort to tough love and get my results.Mosttimes after war comes peace,this war, I rather fight than quench in management.Like I said before,the situation is what determines how far I ll go with it.In most situations,not flirting with him via pinging when he is at worK,no calls,when he comes home no chit chats,looking hot as hell with the face of a bronze Goddess(not smilling and vaque)always get me a change on whatever issue at hand.

All these is usually after a' ping' fight,then tough love follows when he is home.This makes communication yelling free when we are finally communicAting.The romance alwAys intensifies afterwards as there is this wave of appreciation(for your spouse)thAt ll sweep through you after tough love is utilized and have served its purpose.

yeah.
i am an advocate for tough love.

4sure.
and if my act of tough love isn't enough to change him,
then it's #deuces!!

that's one good thing i've inherited from my mom..
i won't accept disrespect.

jeffizy: What will u term as tough love?

locking off contact or depriving him of things i have that he wants.

byvan: Where communication becomes impossible,tough love comes handy but this depends on your partner's emotional bearing.If he is a meanie,tough love is a very bad idea,it works better with a spouse who is still very much into you or very sensitive.The extent one can go with tough love depends on the circumstAnces At hand .

After the subtle methods fails,I resort to tough love and get my results.Mosttimes after war comes peace,this war, I rather fight than quench in management.Like I said before,the situation is what determines how far I ll go with it.In most situations,not flirting with him via pinging when he is at worK,no calls,when he comes home no chit chats,looking hot as hell with the face of a bronze Goddess(not smilling and vaque)always get me a change on whatever issue at hand.

All these is usually after a' ping' fight,then tough love follows when he is home.This makes communication yelling free when we are finally communicAting.The romance alwAys intensifies afterwards as there is this wave of appreciation(for your spouse)thAt ll sweep through you after tough love is utilized and have served its purpose.

you are my wife in another body. lol.
even looking at her straight face go make you think about even the bad things you did in your drimz.lol!

MsDarkSkin: yeah.
i am an advocate for tough love.

4sure.
and if my act of tough love isn't enough to change him,
then it's #deuces!!

that's one good thing i've inherited from my mom..
i won't accept disrespect.

i wont call it disrespect ma'm. i think it is more of over-familliarity.

MsDarkSkin:

locking off contact or depriving him of things i have that he wants.

Sister...Sister!. hmm.

Royal Roy:
i wont call it disrespect ma'm. i think it is more of over-familliarity.

lol...ehen.
or passing one's place right?

tomato...tomaaato.

Royal Roy:
Sister...Sister!. hmm.

Oga royal roy, tell us sumtin o. Dont be the referee.

Royal Roy:
you are my wife in another body. lol.
even looking at her straight face go make you think about even the bad things you did in your drimz.lol!

Lol!!

jeffizy: Does anyone really want to hurt his/her spouse in order to correct them?
Ive seen a family where the kids will dare you to beat them, simply because the best their mum will do is scream at them when they go wrong.

It seems as if we share the discipline streak. Balance is key- you want your spouse to be sure of your love, admiration and respect but at the same time you don't want to allow her or him run rings around you or act without consideration for you. It is not easy, it takes the grace of God to navigate the land mines but it can and should be done.

^^^ very accurate mac.
In reality, it goes both ways, relationship needs occasional checks and balances to keep it going.

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MsDarkSkin: yeah.
i am an advocate for tough love.

4sure.
and if my act of tough love isn't enough to change him,
then it's #deuces!! .

Please, can you elaborate? Deuces?

There is a couple i know who always have run-ins with each other in the morning.
I later heard from the hussy that the wife hates him getting out of bed and leaving it untidy!
The wife used mzdarkskin's method above and the house became a cinema.
The husband pleading in his briefs.
Now that's a funny one.

jeffizy: There is a couple i know who always have run-ins with each other in the morning.
I later heard from the hussy that the wife hates him getting out of bed and leaving it untidy!
The wife used mzdarkskin's method above and the house became a cinema.
The husband pleading in his briefs.
Now that's a funny one.

hahaha. . . orisirisi......yeye dey smell. .....me i no fit beg for that thing o .. . lailai .. . . "kaka ko re mi, ma ya mu'we r'odo."
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@topic. .... tough love comes in different ways so long as it will yield results. me for one have a spouse who can't spend 3hours straight without hearing my voice. ...... yes yes.....i know. ..... i have some good old baba oyo loving .......but the moment she starts messing up, i simply keep my credit on my phone for other tinz and if she calls its a one word answer. hahaha. .....before you know it its darling, joor ki ni mo se fun e? wetin i do biko?
then i give her the load down. now that's using her weakness against her to make her a better person ......fair enough right?
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omo o je iya, o lo n gbon......
spare the rod and spoil the child.

^^^That can get my spouse up on the wall. Lol.

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