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Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 2:37pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Here is what you need to do ma'am: Here is what i will advise you to do and in the years to come, you will be pleased you did this, but if you dont do it and continue with the statusquo, in the future you will look back and feel ashamed. Pick up the phone and call him. Be strong enough and tell him that the relationship is over (and mean it). After that commit your life to Christ again and leave all this stuff. You will burn your fingers in them. When the time comes, God will send the right/His person to you. I can guarantee you that. If you dont do this, here's what will happen: He will continue to destoy you emotionally and he will eventually boot you out (so better you boot him out now and come out shining) after which it will take you long to recover emotionally (with attendant mistrust for men and potential to miss the right person for you). Here is what he may do if you boot him out first: He may come running after you (and you may fall for him, to your detriment though especially if you do not commit your life to Christ), but ignore him and focus on important things in life: Your relationship with Jesus and His plan for your life. All the best and God will give you the strengt and wisdom to do things that are in your long-term best interest. 3 Likes |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by joe4christ(m): 2:38pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
It's evident that guy's heart is not with you, rather it's with someone else. So pick up your broken pieces and move on - Best advice from a bro who care! |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by derbypiero(m): 2:41pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
baby_123:hope u no d guy is abroad u knw nahh |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nuzo1(m): 3:20pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
keeked: A child can switch to every kind of food edible after every one or two years. From breast milk to infant milk to golden morn to conflakes to rice to garri to fufu. . All these between years and months....why can't you? You must learn to re-adjust and adapt as you keep finding ways to reassuring your partner of your commitment. But if at any point in time you feel its becoming to hard for you to bear....simply walk away. By the way, could you kindly provide answers to the five questions I asked you in a detailed format instead of your usual 'It was all rosy in our first year'. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 3:22pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Ujujoan: Thank you o . . .it's an LDR for crying out loud. What is the point of being in a relationship if we're not communicating? It's gotten to a point that he says if i don't have anything really really important to say i shoudln't call him or text him. If i call him randomly to just tell him how my day is going, he gets angry. and i keep telling him, if there's somehting you're going through lets talk about it, that's why we're in a relationship; his reply is always "even if i tell what solution do you have to give?" . . . or something just very cold. . . i should stop ranting and start acting. . . Thank you guys again. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 3:34pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
1. Does she call him at odd hours knowing that US and UK has about 6-9 hours difference (depending on the city). No. 2. How many times does she call him? When I miss my boo. 3. How long does she force the poor dude to be on the phone with her? as long as he wants to. when he starts getting cranky, most of the time he hangs up. I call and he doesn't pick up till when he feels like. 4. Ultimately, who starts the arguement after 'yoy are choking me' comes up. How does she react? him and I. back and forths. 5. Has she really assessed herself? yes. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Subtext: 3:36pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
EBK2: Here is what you need to do ma'am: Who listens to this kind of advise these days, especially those in diaspora? Thanks for the wisdom there-in, if only people whould listen and understand. 'When you follow Jesus, you are a looser', that's the thinking these days. It is well. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by DaMayor1: 3:44pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Sister, everyone here is advising you to throw in the towel. However, remember when youre crying at night, they will all be cozy with their boo's, and i bet many of them are worse 'mugus'(permit me to use that phrase), yet will come here ranting. Dont compare your relationship to any other. Building is never easy, and the more expensive it is, the better. Im sure that boo loves you. He probably really just needs some space and you have to understand that giving him space doesnt mean he doesnt want to hear from you. Theres just cycles in life and this is just one of them. He'll come around i promise. The key is communication (sometimes people can actually talk but not communicate). However i hope you are not pressurising him to make some kind of commitment. These things come in stages. if hes been with you this long, itll happen at the right time. 1 Like |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 3:48pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
keeked: Hello nairalanders, Sorry dear i have the same story line with yours believe me. The only difference is I'm a young man. She always brings up flimsy excuse cos she fully knows that i can't do without her so most time she takes the advantage of my innocence and do whatever she likes even to the extent of cheating in our relationship. She happens to be my first love and when she gets tired of using me she left me for an oblivion and move on with her life. I just focus on making my life more meaningful and better without her THOUGH ITS NOT EASY I MEAN ITS VERY HARD SEEING SOMEONE THAT ONCE MEANS EVERYTHING TO YOU ONLY TO BECOME A TOTAL STRANGER IN A DAY. My dear move on i know its not easy just get yourself busy with whatever can make u happy u will always think about him but u need to be strong enough to let go Please. Mind u mine is still killing me there are times i just cry myself to bed but I'm still doing everything i can to move. I pray God bless the broken road and heal the broken heart. Take care dearie 1 Like |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 3:59pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Jastombutex11:fam u mean u be crying? Warrafcck? U cried cause ur girl left you? Please tell me you a light skin nigga bro..... I have heard it all 1 Like |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Amhappy(f): 4:08pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Girl you have got a lot of great advices. I was once like you,i cry,i beg,was vulnerable,clingy,needy etc as if i will not survive with this guy but u know what i grew up.The relationship is out of pity. You can do without him. The first maybe be sweet but the last is the sweetest. 1 Like |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by mutter(f): 4:10pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
TELEPHONE TERROR!!! |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Osas001: 4:14pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
keeked: If ur in the UK n he's in America, my advice stay focus on the relationship, 2 break up is easy, but to realize u broke up with no solid reasons or evidence showing u dat he's seeing some1 else will only make u feel badt afterwards.. Funny thing is, am also going thru such in my relationship n av been d one asking for the break up, but then again I ask, am I ready to go 2ru the process of getting 2 knw some1 n starting a relationship wen I knw I shld be planning 2wards the future.. Take ur time wit watever decision u want 2 make, dnt rush anything, if he is urs, u guys will settle it n make it work.. My Uncle got married last year n he was in d states n his fiance in UK.. So urs is not different.. Look for the good part in him, no one is perfect, n if ur thinking of meeting some1 else, first most guys re hooked up, second, not every1 wants 2 settle in a relationship wit some1 u jst met, the devil u knw is better dan an angel u dnt knw, bt an angel will always be an angel and a devil will stay a devil, take ur decision wisely dear.. Cheers! |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by godman01(m): 4:17pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
He's not your true love! 1 Like |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 4:36pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Hmmmm |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by olaolaking: 5:00pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
there are things that he nay not be telling you right now. he is likely to have other issues disturbing him and you may not know. if he is undergoing bad condition it something related , just try to confirm . but if not, it is becoming clearer that he is going away from you |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by baby124: 5:03pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Donlittle: fam u mean u be crying? Warrafcck? U cried cause ur girl left you? Please tell me you a light skin nigga bro..... I have heard it all What What is wrong with him crying after being heartbroken. Real men cry, leave him alone nigga raw. Smh. 3 Likes |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by dayokanu(m): 5:34pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Try other options is what I would say |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by iebanehita(m): 5:44pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
mecussey: Again, its not advisable to date a guy more than a year, Huh?!.. Say What??! U must b kidding me?!? Are you from Mars of where?! Just tell me ds a joke. @OP... M sure you know what to do by now,,with these whole advice. But, if u stil need further advice,, den u need to GET A LIFE..!! |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Remmyy: 6:55pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
LOL. . . .Wow I truly wish the gods can bless me with someone like you. . everything that happened to you happened to me. . i'm a guy i gave her everything for more than 7years. . .EVERYTHING she was my first serious R and i was hers. . .just like yours but i realized after 3yrs ago i was the one who puts more effort in the relationship, i kept trying to keep us together, i make the call. . everything seemed fine. . then i thought, what if i stopped calling. . .will she ever fight for me? what if she caught me cheating? would she just let me go or show some fight at least? that i never got to know until recently she just said the relationship was boring, she wanted to taste what its like to be single, i am the only good guy she had ever known, i am so nice and all, she said she was never gon be happy with any other, that she was not perfect and i never tried to change her instead i accepted her. . and that she hear about bad guys. .she wanna know them,what makes them thick, shes afraid if she doesnt go now, she will when shes married. . i was like ?? dafuq? i started begging. . .begging. . .begging. . then i realized, you cant force someone to love you mehn. ..i am still young . . .let her go. . i have no choice, so my dear. . .you are not alone. what i am doing now is trying to forget her. . not easy but i have no choice. . .and hoping when i am ready to date again. .the gods can smile upon me and send a human of your kind my way. someone that i dont have to keep chasing and try to make happy just to make her be with me. heck!!. . I AM NOT CRIPPLE MEHN!! 'some have food but cannot eat ..some can eat but have no food' Gratitude. 2 Likes |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 7:04pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
obo389: Distance is crap WHEN love is truetell them o, My girlfriend is in Nigeria and i still look forward to calling and texting. its possible he doesn't feel the same for you. sorry dear i think you shud invest your emotions in someone else. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 7:11pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
If u want to do it on your own, you will fail before you even start. If you jump into another relationship to forget him, you will still fail. I dont know if you are a christian butThis is the best time to embrace God. This case is a 'moi-moi' case for God. You will forget that guy at speed of light give you joy and peace of mind that passeth all understanding. This is the best way for you dear. I feel for you but this is your fight. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 7:16pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
If u want to do it on your own, you will fail before you even start. If you jump into another relationship to forget him, you will still fail. I dont know if you are a christian butThis is the best time to embrace God. This case is a 'moi-moi' case for God. You will forget that guy at the speed of light and give you joy and peace of mind that passeth all understanding. This is the best way for you dear. I feel for you but this is your fight. You alone. Godliness is your ticket out of this ordeal. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 7:23pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Remmyy: LOL. . . .Wow Check your mail. Thanks. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Remmyy: 8:11pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
keeked:I just updated the email now to a new one. . .i had to closed the old one. resend exactly what you sent before so i'll get it on the new one. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 8:32pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
men like your Bf will always come back when they see that you don't want them again, I read baby123's post and it made a lot of sense.most men love the chase, they want something they can't have.I was once in your shoes, I noticed the change in his attitude and stuff, what I didn't call for a break up, I just moved on and hid the fact that I was hurting deeply inside from him, he was confused , he started doing the calling again, asking if all was okay, practically begging me every second even though I said we were fine. next thing he heard I was dating someone else and he still disturbs my phone once in a while begging me to come back. so the long and short is hide your emotions and don't show him that you care so much, somepeople are just sadists |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by lockedOut: 9:14pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
keeked:now this is getting interesting! na advice op ask for no be friend na...just joking Anyways its the best way to go @op a friend first and someone to take your mind off him will go a long way in you not choking your bf. Remmy be a good friend o! |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by debwealth: 9:25pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
I have been there so I can feel ur pains.... Sistergirl, I will like u to wake up from ur slumber and talk real sense into ursef just like I did abt a year ago and here I am happily married & I hardly remember I met that guy in my life cos am experiencing bliss to the glory of God. The fact that u lost ur Virginity to man is not enuf a reason to beg him to continually love u and pls take it off ur mind that u can't find a better person...oh pls! I have come to realise u can actually love anybody. Its definitely not easy to let go but u have to. I grew up to know the word Love as a Verb & not a Noun, so it should b expressed if he really still loves u Would u wanna hear the hardest truth, this guy is probably married to a white for papers just like mine was then and I was here waiting for his arrival growing older by the day. DON'T CALL HIM ANYMORE, a man shd do the hunting not the woman ok? He will continue to make u sad and I bet u, usually wish u never called eachtime u did cos of his responses. Try to read in between the line, make urself happy and look good for other and better men around. Distance Relationship is what I won't advice my worst enemy to do cos of the emotional pains that come with it. Free him and give someone else a chance but pls don't start gisting the new guy abt his ways early in the relationship, he might use it against u or probably think u are using him to get rid of him from ur mind! 1 Like |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 9:31pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Saecula: This is a portent. Nice post |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 9:35pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
The thing with advises on NL esp Romance,is that the posters never take them or consider them, emotion always triumphs common sense at the end of the day. what to do, is actually obvious, its the emotional garbage that makes it hard to see through. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by FXKing2012(m): 9:41pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
keeked:And it begins. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by debwealth: 9:54pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
It's gotten to a point that he says if i don't have anything really really important to say i shoudln't call him or text him. If i call him randomly to just tell him how my day is going, he gets angry. He told u all these n yet u are still deceiving urself, I weak for u ooo, must there be an important reason or instance before u call that man u love, babes if u wanna be sincere wt urself 'U are only attached cos u lost ur virginity to him and he is ur first love' U know within urself that he is as bad as gone. Good riddance to bad rubbish that what u must tell ur self right with above words from him |
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