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Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by soldierAnt(m): 12:10am On Apr 23, 2013 |
@OP: Distance is a bitch. That's what I blame. That said, your guy is also being a dick about it which I can totally identify with hehe. The distance has really limited you guys as to what you can do to keep the flame burning. Relationships, in my modest opinion, need to be nursed like babies to keep them alive. From the guy's perspective, maybe everything has gotten boring and repetitive, because it's very difficult to freshen things up when you are so far apart. Add to that, the absence of physical intimacy. In such a situation, a guy who really loves you and wants to be with you, would rise to the challenge and be inventive to keep things fresh. He would find ways to make those prosaic phone conversations more interesting, etc. So if he isn't doing that, if he's not fighting hard for you, it means he had never really embraced the possibility that you were the one for him, or he has lost sight of those things that made him love you, and maybe he's had his head turned by someone or something else. But I dont think hes necessarily cheating on you though, I just think his feelings were never really strong enough to withstand the test of distance. I also think he either knows what he wants and youre not it, in which case hes holding out for something better, or he doesnt know what he wants, and is just stringing you along while he figures it all out. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by gajike: 12:35am On Apr 23, 2013 |
This guy did not love u anymore as I may think. But don't give up yet. Am suprise that u started mailing someone else on nairaland. The guy remmy might want to take advantage of ur situation to cook up his owm cork and bull story. Don't fall for it. And what if ur guy is reading this story. Don't allow ur emotion to complicate issue. As a mother my advise is to face ur career and move more closer to GOD. If the guy is for u he will fall back to track. If he is not GOD will send u better person. But firstly u have to rededicate ur life to christ because u hav go agaist HIS commandment. Don't allow the guy issue to derail u from ur career. Remember if anything happens u alone will bear the consequence. From my experience if u force urself into this relationship ur marriage will never last and this is not good. Don't allow any guy to marry u out of pity if u want evalasting joy. 1 Like |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by brilapluz(m): 1:18am On Apr 23, 2013 |
keeked:my dear,d bolded is d very reason y sum men neva take any relationship seriously after s*xual intercourse(and contiuously)..u gave him ur 'most treasured asset' and now he is no longer commited sayn he is gettin 'choked'(choked indeed)..dis sud b a lesson 2 our ladies..u sud stick 2 ur' values' and 'beliefs' 2 d very end.sum manipulative dudes may cal u names but wil always respect U or even propose 2 u..@op,4rm all appearance,he wants 2 leave d relationship..u just have 2 count ur losses and save urself 4rm an impendin emotional breakdown..U have 2 more on.. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by brilapluz(m): 1:18am On Apr 23, 2013 |
keeked: |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by brilapluz(m): 1:31am On Apr 23, 2013 |
butta: I will suggest you move on with your life he is not into you anymore..it is normal for ladies to be emotional attached to guys espcially their first love and him being the one that dis...virgined you.. The honest truth is he has found someone new that interest him and you have to let go sooner the better for you and deal with it. Women should realise that when a man has gotten all he wants from a woman especially that thingy underneath. He has seen all there is to see about you after this nothing excites him anymore about you some tend to start to withdraw like what your guy is doing to you now the only reason for this is he has found somone new pls move on its game over |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 1:32am On Apr 23, 2013 |
FXKing2012: What the hell? What are you exactly? |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by brilapluz(m): 1:39am On Apr 23, 2013 |
keeked:dats a very gud question! |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by PrettySpicey(f): 10:01am On Apr 23, 2013 |
Keeked, I never like it when I hear a lady is forever crying and begging a man to stay with her, it's never a good sign. Does he even love you and respect you? Girl, if he's lost interest in you, there's nothing you can do other than to LET GO. Think of yourself and honour yourself, value yourself. If you don't, he won't either. Chin up, you can actually live without him. 1 Like |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by FXKing2012(m): 10:09am On Apr 23, 2013 |
Tashamania:Truthfully, I'm not sure. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 10:58am On Apr 23, 2013 |
08029958006; letz start off wer u guys left...or add me wid cookingvirus in 2go letz repair ur heart. No time 4 long story |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by moffat(m): 11:05am On Apr 23, 2013 |
if u love ur man stay with him and stop sharing your relationship life with someone who will badly advise you, i'm into a distance relationship with someone too but it work well you don't expect everyday to be sweet always encourage conflict in other to know how strong u can address matters that relate to heart/emotions because d devil u know is better than the angel u don't know. No one is perfect wen it comes to this kind matter. no long thing ---------- ASK ANYONY IN DIZ HOUSE WU AMONG THEM HAS A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP? |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by addyade: 12:30pm On Apr 23, 2013 |
Everybody knows the truth deep within them, usually we just need someone to validate it. u know whether this is good for you or not,so follow your heart love and do your best. visit for more info http://mytcube./2013/04/22/reading-the-other-persons-manual/ |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by jasperkin(m): 12:57pm On Apr 23, 2013 |
if real on true love it wil leave u,bt if it not bye |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Ogunsam(f): 3:45pm On Apr 23, 2013 |
keeked: |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Ogunsam(f): 3:49pm On Apr 23, 2013 |
from all indications, it seems this guy doesnt want you again, so why wasting ur time? its better u move on with ur life and trust me better person is coming ur way, No man worth dying for. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Ogunsam(f): 3:59pm On Apr 23, 2013 |
gajike: This guy did not love u anymore as I may think. But don't give up yet. Am suprise that u started mailing someone else on nairaland. The guy remmy might want to take advantage of ur situation to cook up his owm cork and bull story. Don't fall for it. And what if ur guy is reading this story. Don't allow ur emotion to complicate issue. As a mother my advise is to face ur career and move more closer to GOD. If the guy is for u he will fall back to track. If he is not GOD will send u better person. But firstly u have to rededicate ur life to christ because u hav go agaist HIS commandment. Don't allow the guy issue to derail u from ur career. Remember if anything happens u alone will bear the consequence.MAY GOD BLESS YOU REAL GOOD MA 4 DIS ADVICE.OOP U BETTER WISE UP!!!! |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 4:54pm On Apr 23, 2013 |
FXKing2012: Then get a grip and run a check on yourself. You work with the spirits? |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by joe4christ(m): 7:33am On Apr 24, 2013 |
Da Mayor: Sister, everyone here is advising you to throw in the towel. However, remember when youre crying at night, they will all be cozy with their boo's, and i bet many of them are worse 'mugus'(permit me to use that phrase), yet will come here ranting. Shattap there, are u a learner? |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by umohmfonobong: 3:56pm On Apr 24, 2013 |
girl this thing that is happening to you has happen to me but the other way round, my girl just left me for no good reason, and this is a girl i brought from calabar to warri when i was doing NYSC that is when i was surviving on my allowee, her both parent is let,and her educational background is very very low, but because of love i dated her for 10 years but now she pack out of my house rented and apartment, this is woman i brought from calabar to warri. and we were staying together, untill this happen, so what will people say, i am a graduate and she has not even finish secondary school, but she has a handwork which was why i never complain. but she ran away from my house, right now she is leaving along |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by debwealth: 4:50pm On Apr 24, 2013 |
Da Mayor: Sister, everyone here is advising you to throw in the towel. However, remember when youre crying at night, they will all be cozy with their boo's, and i bet many of them are worse 'mugus'(permit me to use that phrase), yet will come here ranting. Abeg!! For so if she was ur sister, this is the kind of advice u will give en, how sad, there are no 2 ways to it, this are clear signs, how busy can a guy b that he wnt even find out time to call and moreover do u ever use the word 'busy' for ur love, oh! He is occupied yet he keeps hurting her wt words....if u know wat is good for u @OP, move ahead wt ur life, don't b too hasty to start anoda relationship n if he comes bk let him work for u so see if he is for real. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by andyanders: 9:29am On Apr 25, 2013 |
Lady, I think you are giving too much for this relationship and in fact, it shouldn't be this way no matter what, unless you are not sure of yourself. Be confident and ask God for your love and man to spend your life with. You cannot force a relationship and from your explanation, I cannot see any good thing coming out of this as the man in question is using the word " You are choking me" as an excuse? Too bad. Let him be and move n with your life and note that the taste of friendship is not the taste of marriage and looking for someone to be with for the rest of your life should come when you allow God choose for you. A man for you will only stand to correct your weakness and not to take advantage of your weakness to castigate you. How dear a man say " you are choking me"? To me,give him a break and occupy your mind with something meaningful. You are a beauty of God's creation and if he doesn't love or like you, someone is out there to love you for who you are. |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by timothy44(m): 5:08pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Saecula: This is a portent. debwealth:you are very very right brooo |
Re: My True-Love Is Planning To Leave Me: Please Advise by Nobody: 2:09pm On Oct 08, 2013 |
Dear poster, i hope you have started dating other men. Enjoy life just keep an open heart go out, converse with other men that come your way you don't need to break up with him just enjoy your life who knows while conversing,going to places with friends and other men, you may meet a better man. Just give yourself a chance. I don't see him as a bad guy or something, he is just living his life and being human its you that is keeping your life on hold for him. He has told you the truth you are choking him so give him space and stop hurting yourself. I know you miss him a lot hey just keep dating and doing whatever you love doing. |
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