I love this section cos of the many experienced, intelligent helpful people here. Please peep this scenario and tell me what you think...possible ways this could pan out

-Girl's a virgin and religious
-Boy is not a virgin and is not religious
-Despite differences they both love each other deeply, have dated for a year and hope to tie the knot in another year's time
-Girl is keeping herself for wedding night, while boys respects girl's decision and if he does his thing at all does it on the low low

What do you think, can this relationship between the chaste and the unchaste work? Dating a sexually active guy for 2 years before giving it up...e get as e be right? Have you experienced such before or known people who have? Did it work out for them? What are the danger signs and what are the things to be mindful of so despite the differences the relationship can work?

nothing wrong in their union , so long as they BOTH know what time it is.....obviously the lady doesnt know about the underground se.xual activities of this guy (warning bells #1)

also, the often sad part of this kind of union is that, even when the gal finally gives up her virginity to this guy, chances are that the bobo will still want to have underground se.xual activities with others, simply because he has been used to being with other women while dating his soon to be wife. you cant change such behavior THAT EASILY (warning bells #2)

finally, a man that respects A) his union and B) his woman would be fully honest to her about who he is and what he requires from that union AND that lady. the minute there is fakeness, dishonesty and/or lack of respect then this r/ship is built on the wrong principles and certainly bound for failure. so, this man certainly does NOT love this woman if he thinks that what he does is RIGHT by her...... which is warning bells #3.

Ok suppose she has the hunch.. Feeling.. And guy has opened up once on straying.

Guy wants to do this but you just can't tell a smoker to quit and expect results immediately.

What do you think now?

^^^^ forget hunches and feelings, if the man says he LOVES her then he should be fully honest about his person.

and how do you want to compare smoking with cheating? yes, you are right you cant "tell" a smoker to quit, HE NEEDS TO DO IT ON HIS OWN, and therefore if a man doesnt think he shouldnt cheat on his GF, then chances are, he has no respect for either her or their r/ship.

Gbam!