I've been married for a while, and Open communication is a rule in my house. it creates the following scenarios

- I cannot have a girlfriend that will cost me more than 5000 per month
- I cannot go anywhere without my wife ending up knowing about it.
- My wife knows all my past relationships (she once joked to my sister that she knows who to suspect can bring a love child)
- All intimate topics are open for discussion.

It looks good to me because we end up getting closer and she feels safer to take risks with me even when she is not sure about the outcome (from experience)

What is your experience? Is this a safe strategy in this culture?

Olasaint: I've been married for a while, and Open communication is a rule in my house. it creates the following scenarios

- I cannot have a girlfriend that will cost me more than 5000 per month
- I cannot go anywhere without my wife ending up knowing about it.
- My wife knows all my past relationships (she once joked to my sister that she knows who to suspect can bring a love child)
- All intimate topics are open for discussion.

It looks good to me because we end up getting closer and she feels safer to take risks with me even when she is not sure about the outcome (from experience)

What is your experience? Is this a safe strategy in this culture?

Same here and it's all good

Olasaint: I've been married for a while, and Open communication is a rule in my house. it creates the following scenarios

- I cannot have a girlfriend that will cost me more than 5000 per month

Can your wife have a boy toy that will cost her only 5k or less a month too?

@op,I don't get u.u can't hv a galfriend..... What is d meaning of that pls.I think it kept pple from contributin to ur thread.

@Op

Pls what is the meaning of not having a girlfriend that will cost more than 5k/month. Kindly xplain. Thanks

ileobatojo:

Can your wife have a boy toy that will cost her only 5k or less a month too?

I was about to ask the same thing

Open communication is important in all marriages and relationships.

Yeah explain that clause please

yellowpawpaw: @op,I don't get u.u can't hv a galfriend..... What is d meaning of that pls.I think it kept pple from contributin to ur thread.

My wife know my full income, receives sms alert and can tell when d last withdrawn cash should be finished

We discuss all movement or eventualities so if I have girlfriend she will likely sniff her out from the cashflow alone except it's 4 free

ileobatojo:

Can your wife have a boy toy that will cost her only 5k or less a month too?

The need 4 d boy toy will have been discussed since all s3x matters are up 4 discussion, so if I ain't good enough its open fact between us

Olasaint:

My wife know my full income, receives sms alert and can tell when d last withdrawn cash should be finished

We discuss all movement or eventualities so if I have girlfriend she will likely sniff her out from the cashflow alone except it's 4 free

Maybe u got dat statement wrong.u can modify it.I gat what u were sayin very well.
Communication means a lot.there is nothin I dont tell my hubby and viseversa.even things dat made no sense.its very vital in relationship.

My challenge is measuring the impact. Can u rate your marriage successful and what has the communication contributed?

I tend look out for the impact since it was my idea. Naija people no dey design relationship with feedback in mind

Open communication in favour of the man alone is no open communication

Open communication is vital to a successful marriage

hw much does your wife cost if yoụr galfriend cost 5k and whats your profit?

According to Nairaland 1st Class Celebrity Okiki_Oluwa, 'Open communication is a tool that straightens relationships'. It's very vital to a successful marriage.

Absolute crap its like deliberately sticking your neck out to be beheaded. Marriage by itself has given women more advantage, which one be open communication again? am not saying cheat! Or commit adultery, But woman and men are not wired the same way and will not reason on the same line of thought, you will find out that 99 % of decisions taken in these types of marriages are women inclined, its the delilah tactics, then when a minor misunderstanding occurs of 25 years in the marriage the men will commit suicide, because weather you like it or not, no matter how long it takes there will be misrep or misunderstanding somehow some way along the line, then you would have been checkmated.

wen i don marry i go answer that question. I m still single ok.

Open communication works well for my boo n i. He knws every guy on my contact list n vice-versa. We knw every silly tin both of us have done before n during our relationship

olumidazz: Absolute crap its like deliberately sticking your neck out to be beheaded. [size=13pt]Marriage by itself has given women more advantage[/size], which one be open communication again? am not saying cheat! Or commit adultery, But woman and men are not wired the same way and will not reason on the same line of thought,

Abeg what type of ridiculous lie is this one?

@pushpinkey I know u like that open comm now and your boo loves u 4 that lol, but the day u hv a stronger affection for one of those guys on your contact list it will be closed communication. Lol

no comment

dis is phone numba: 0905647778905.
tell ur wife to call me.
i dont cost anything.
thanks.

I don't know why it's usually the woman who pushes for an open (relationship) communication? Is it because its not too easy for a woman to have an affair without becoming emotionally involved, which will eventually become so obvious to her partner hence 'lets be open'? A man can have an 'ethical' affair without being emotionally involved and where his wife and family's interests would be carefully shielded.

poshpimkiey: Open communication works well for my boo n i. He knws every guy on my contact list n vice-versa. We knw every silly tin both of us have done before n during our relationship

ur openess is the reason i said 'Yes!' when u were crying n begging to date me.
but i also accepted cuz u don't cost me more than #500 per month.

Noted and very vital

Open o or no open communication, there are things I will never discuss with my wife at home. Official businesses and documents must be kept out of marriage.

Tho related, there's a big difference between open communication and open marriage. I think the. Op is practicing both. No biggie!

Open communication is a situation where a couple is free to discuss all aspects of their relationship including finance, relatives, friends, work, intentions, advances from opposite sex and desires.

While open marriage encompasses the above and having any one of the couple be intimate with a 3rd party so far the partner is informed.

Some may find open communication too extreme and embarrassing while others may find it reassuring and safe.
So, be it open or secret communication...COMMUNICATION is one of the major foundations to stable relationships.

PLease nairanders, a word of advice - Some information are better not opened up in marriages especially if there is no request for it. Example, you've been living happily with your spouse for 5 years and suddenly your new neighbor turns out to be your ex, you don't throw it up that you banged together for years before your marriage.
Communication in marriage should not be open rather guided by common sense. But please always be truthful to your spouse.

Mynd_44: Open communication is important in all marriages and relationships.

Seconded.

I just won't feel comfortable dating girl who believes there are things she can't talk to me about.