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Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by NosaHenry(m): 7:42pm On May 14, 2013 |
How can you ever think of asking your senior How are you, for a greeting. |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by StateOfMind: 7:44pm On May 14, 2013 |
purplekayc: These sort of response is common with girls and women who don't have regard fro males... Na wa o..how gender take enter this matter na? |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Nobody: 7:46pm On May 14, 2013 |
Seriously? People find "how are you?" rude? I personally do not find it rude as long as you respond to my greeting before asking how I am....kinda like Me: Goodmorning You: Goodmorning Modella, how are you? I don't see any big deal about it. People can create a big deal out of little things sha. 3 Likes |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by gbollykore: 7:50pm On May 14, 2013 |
if its going to bring about questions, why dont you avoid it completely, u may not mean any evil, but u need to be conscious of the environment u are in, personally if my mate says how are u to me, i see it as arrogance from the side of that person i think u should say good morning , or afternoon or whatever |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by emekuze(m): 7:54pm On May 14, 2013 |
thr is notin wrong in it but is just dat some persns use that word to blitu othrs |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by ayd91(m): 7:55pm On May 14, 2013 |
Personally, i prefer the phrase "how are you doing" to an ordinary "how are you". May be its me being biased but its what i prefer. |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by ChiSun27(m): 8:15pm On May 14, 2013 |
Abujafood: Don't mind people and their shallow reasoning! OMG!!! God in H'vn knws dat I just argued dis left hand of stuff with my nebor ydy....n all dey wia sayn is dat it depicts respect...mesef i taya ooooooo!!!!! D same questn wey u ask na im me i stil ask....shey no b God create d left hand abi him ordaine d ryt hand special? N wat abt those dat r left handed? |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by damselsdezire(f): 8:32pm On May 14, 2013 |
To me, "how are u"is jst showing ur concern 2wrds d persn u're greeting. When u go 2 an office and u meet a respectful receptnist, she says good morning sir, ow are u dis mornin sir.but it depends anyways...som girls all in d name of provin levels says hi, or ow are u 2 their mates in a rude way & it pisses one off, so it depends on d tune of ur voice while sayn it. |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Fussbot: 8:49pm On May 14, 2013 |
Sm1 younger dan me:how are u?? Me:am fine,how is mumy and daddy?? --------------------------------- Sm1 younger dan me:how are u BRO? Me:I jst dey o aburo.. (Ynga1) Shikena! |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Mystery11(m): 8:56pm On May 14, 2013 |
Lets not deceive ourselves.80% of Nigerians know that ''How are you'' is offensive. I think it is a simple case.Personally, despite my exposure, I still find that greeting very offensive especially when it comes from someone not expected from. Tell me ''How do you do" ''How things'' and ''How are you doing'' but for ''How are you'', you will not get any damn reply from me. If I am in a culture that does not call it anything,I will not call it anything but in Nigeria,Dont try it on me. 1 Like |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Nobody: 8:58pm On May 14, 2013 |
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Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by ceaz4r(m): 8:59pm On May 14, 2013 |
kokoye: I noticed our people dont take the greeting "how are you" very nicely. When you greet them and say "how are you", most would feel you are being disrespectful. I have experienced this several times - someone actually told me he wasnt a kid when I greeted him that way...and a few did not even respond. I think the subject of concern here is in the way it was said, not in the gesture. The gesture is a very welcome one, but some ppl like to sound superior saying it. 1 Like |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Nobody: 9:03pm On May 14, 2013 |
ceaz4r: Aptly said! |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Nobody: 9:27pm On May 14, 2013 |
Abujafood: Don't mind people and their shallow reasoning!I was going to write something on the left hand ish... Some pple take it so personal that there reaction @ tymes will make you wish the ground could swallow you up, gush wtf is wrong with giving/taking with the left hand huh? |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Hiringu: 9:55pm On May 14, 2013 |
Everything in life is subject to context. In the typical Nigerian context, it might be perceived as disrespectful. n the other hand, if you live in this society (US) the rude thing will be- not asking how someone is doing. So, it really isnt about right or wrong, but context. Driving on the "wrong" side of the road only makes sense in relation to what side of the road that country drives on. Get it? 1 Like |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by jovichi: 9:56pm On May 14, 2013 |
Yorubas & their issues! 2 Likes |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Ninilowo(m): 10:17pm On May 14, 2013 |
javipee: If im older than the person then its rude to me. Gbam!!!!!No StoryWhen dem no even SWEAR for am. Hw will someone younger than me say that to me? O ri e ti buru niyen. Owo die die ni ara n fe now. |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by AdeniyiA(m): 10:31pm On May 14, 2013 |
Seun,how are you? |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by donbazini: 10:49pm On May 14, 2013 |
AnanseK: I always welcome "how are you " a decent and very straightforward greeting. My reply is always "Very well, thank you" and may follow up with conversation or not. I hate people who ask me "How is your night?" I get annoyed and confused and never know how the respond to such senseless greeting., you can simply tel d person u had a good nite rest or rough |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by donbazini: 11:07pm On May 14, 2013 |
Don't see anytin wrong as dis can go both ways, hw are u, ans: am fine and u but be rest assured that I will be d one to ask you hw are u d next time we meet. |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Dumkele1: 11:10pm On May 14, 2013 |
But i do hear a lot of yoruba people ask "ba wo ni sir?" |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Nobody: 11:28pm On May 14, 2013 |
Thats africa mentality and culture 4 you..."How are you" seems rude when sayin it to an elderly 1....Africa mentality is Respect!Respect!Respect!,especially the yoruba elders.If u tel dem how are u,they can course u al day witout stoping.Their own greating u most make sure u bend til u knees,hands,stomach touches the ground...Like in america u can see a young guy working up to the elderly 1 to give a handshake,but if u try dat 1 4 9ja,u are gud as a bad child.Hahahaha |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by mydex93(f): 11:32pm On May 14, 2013 |
pekelepekele: How are you is very rude. In fact I will slap one teeth comot for your mouth , If you say that to meHow are you 3 Likes |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Nobody: 11:33pm On May 14, 2013 |
I don't find "How are you" as a form of greeting rude, regardless of who greets me that way, younger or older. In the same way, I greet both younger and older people that way, and so far, I haven't had any adverse reactions. I would greet an older Nigerian the same way too - I'm not a mind reader, besides how can I tell if they're older than myself? Nigerians claim they're singled out, and treated differently from their peers who may well be of a different race or culture. Yet they, by their very actions make themselves "different". Why would anyone want different rules created exclusively for themselves? I just don't get it. 1 Like |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Nobody: 11:41pm On May 14, 2013 |
ceaz4r:c dis 1 o...No matter the gesture you use to ask an elderly yoruba man 'how are you,he go course you...Thats when he wil Open his mouth wide as if he wants to swalow u n start sayin....aaahh omo ibo aaahh aaahh orie oti baje aaaahh aahh orie o fucka si aaahh omo jati jati.chai yoruba baba n mama dey funi o. |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by ja2wa: 12:00am On May 15, 2013 |
Der's dis lady in my work place dat dnt take dis likely, I mean dis is jst a mere greetin, no 1 is being disrespectful.. My own is if I say dat and u rebuke it den I greet u no more.. Chikena |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Gudintent: 12:06am On May 15, 2013 |
Papa God na U ooooo When I go find someone wey go ask how I dey Na dat day ehen all my wahala go disappear I go lay all my troubles for dem feet Young or old I no mind Cos na U Papa God I go dey serve ooooo |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by addicted268(f): 12:51am On May 15, 2013 |
Personally I don't find anything wrong with asking or being asked "how are you".if I talk to an older person,I ll say "how are you sir/ma" and if its online on over the phone,I add "are you having a good day?"(Though this depends on the rapport). a couple of times,my 5years old neighbor has asked me "aunty how are you"?I didn't find it insulting.I found it rather strange and sweet.I told her with a smile,"I'm fine onini,and you?" And she said fine. infact,anyone who greets me(irrespective of age) should be ready to hear "goodmorning,how are you",and anyone who asks me how are you should be ready to hear "I'm fine,thanks AND YOU"?that's my standard greeting.no big deal at all....and for how was your night,I'd rather say "did you sleep well?" or "did you have a good night rest?" (I don't wanna know the other details! ) |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by Immortal1(m): 12:59am On May 15, 2013 |
To a man respect means so much, & even more 2 a yoruba man. Be respectful & u'd win d heart of a yoruba folk. To me, 'how re u' is a wrong form of greeting cos d Older shud check up on d younger, & not d reverse. There is a student I mentor who always ask dat question whenever we re chatting, & I cringe whenevr I hear/read it. Lolzzz... I remember greeting a Director-General of an Organisation(Yoruba by tribe) 'hello Prof', & it didn't go well at all. Meanwhile, itz a sign of being more respectful in d university. We just need 2 know that respect means a lot to some people & they read it 4rm your every word & gesture. It could be harmless, but if ur aim is 2b respectful, then d other party's reaction should be all that matters 2u, & not if u don't see any problem with it. My one piece. |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by gagzee(m): 1:11am On May 15, 2013 |
My response??....well a nigga grits me 'hw r u' ma silent reply 'gay mofo'....and 4rm a younger grl, ma loud reply 'u no wan dey respect ur uncle abi??' |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by antifat(m): 1:39am On May 15, 2013 |
Student:Good afternoon sir! Lecturer:Oh! Good afternoon Student:How are u? Lecturer:am great Any offence by d student? 1 Like |
Re: How Are You - Is It A Rude Form Of Greeting? by kokoye(m): 2:13am On May 15, 2013 |
What our culture will do to us.. We wont take advice from a younger person...an advice that may save our lives We wont take a job simply because the director is young enough to be our child We wont accept things from a leftie We borrow money to do funeral for the dead...we didnt even care about them when alive Our leaders commit atrocities and we cant call them out. ....Maybe we need to put some part of this culture in check 1 Like |
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