jennykadry:

Back from Naija already and seriously suffering the aftermath of mosquito bites no anti malaria shot got kill that una witches and wizards Naija mosquito venom.

eh ya,pele buy insecticide na.na fleet we sef dey use.buy any insecticide.highest 400 naira,fleet your place so you can sleep soundly.dont worry with time,you will adjust and get over the mosquito issh its just environmental change thats making you feel that way

So after d nigerian lady u met advied u, u didn't find it worthy enuf but thinks u can get better advice from nlrs with their badt mouth. I pity u lady, u already know d answer to ur question. So don't try to pin it on anybody here. Do what u have to do to save ur life and d life of ur daughter, u no dey put fufu for nose.

biolabee: You are in a foreign land and being abused and have not even filed a police report or threatened to sef

Your earnings go into his account so if you leave you have nothing?

What type of education do you have

What kind of work are you doing now

Also are you legally resident in spain

papers are not complete!

jolly@t.a.s:
i'm 30 years old woman from atagba ogun state married to a 35years old man from abeokuta.....not to write much, we are both living in spain. i've been so honest to him even when he was away for some months before i later joined him,and i have never caught him in the act of humanising.
i did all i could including giving him everything dat has to do with me(passwords,account details and every other information) just for him to trust me. but i noticed cos of the informations that were giving to him before we got married about nigerian ladies. he lost trust in me.
1.he uses every little gist we make against me when we have misunderstanding
2. because of me, he dsrespet my family member.
3. we are both working hard to make a better future, using the same account,though i have the accounts informations but he never allowed me to send money to my families back at home and he does almost every 2,2 months
4. he wont allow me to call my people when he is not there. and for this reason he asked me to buy a local line.
5. he goes angry when any of my family members calls me from home. wanting to know why they are calling.
6. when i was pregnant with our first daughter, he beats me althrough the 9month pains i had and he made me work extra at home. even when i was in pains, he never cared.
7. now, he want me to have another baby.
pls, i need your help. i found it difficult to feel happy when i see him coming home. he never allowed me to make friends, i met a nigerian lady some weeks back whom i explained my self to, she gave me 3.advice
1. divorce and have peace of the mind in other to feel relax before re choosing another man
2. tell him you need to go back to nigeria even if he want you to be pregnant
3. stay with him and pray for his change while you enjoy the pains
please what do i do? i love him despite the way he is treating me, i still love him. i dont want to divorce him, i dnt want to live in nigeria as a single mother. and yet this pain is too much...............

My question:

What is it that you love him for? I can't figure it out.

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He beats you regularly when you were pregnant? You are still here asking for advice? what sort of advice do you want?

You better take yourself and your daughter out of that situation right now. Leave now if you value your life.

jollytas: i'm 30 years old woman from atagba ogun state married to a 35years old man from abeokuta.....not to write much, we are both living in spain. i've been so honest to him even when he was away for some months before i later joined him,and i have never caught him in the act of humanising.
i did all i could including giving him everything dat has to do with me(passwords,account details and every other information) just for him to trust me. but i noticed cos of the informations that were giving to him before we got married about nigerian ladies. he lost trust in me.
1.he uses every little gist we make against me when we have misunderstanding
2. because of me, he dsrespet my family member.
3. we are both working hard to make a better future, using the same account,though i have the accounts informations but he never allowed me to send money to my families back at home and he does almost every 2,2 months
4. he wont allow me to call my people when he is not there. and for this reason he asked me to buy a local line.
5. he goes angry when any of my family members calls me from home. wanting to know why they are calling.
6. when i was pregnant with our first daughter, he beats me althrough the 9month pains i had and he made me work extra at home. even when i was in pains, he never cared.
7. now, he want me to have another baby.
pls, i need your help. i found it difficult to feel happy when i see him coming home. he never allowed me to make friends, i met a nigerian lady some weeks back whom i explained my self to, she gave me 3.advice
1. divorce and have peace of the mind in other to feel relax before re choosing another man
2. tell him you need to go back to nigeria even if he want you to be pregnant
3. stay with him and pray for his change while you enjoy the pains
please what do i do? i love him despite the way he is treating me, i still love him. i dont want to divorce him, i dnt want to live in nigeria as a single mother. and yet this pain is too much...............

if you ar ashamed of living as a single mother in nigeria just to save ur life then be prepared to live as a single occupant six feet below and someone else will be gladly waiting to occupy ur space.

#shundomesticviolence#

i'm not for divorce, but in this case a separation is needed. do you have an income? if yes, then go and speak with authorities and they will help you to move away with your life and take good care of your child. you are living in spain now and there are many resources for women that are abused. just leave him, maybe this will be his wake up call and he will understand that you have value. i'm so fed up with this nigerians men that think they own a wife; you are not his property.
just try to find out what resources are in your community for mother and child and move away. or if you don't want to bring the authorities in your story, then find another place and move. you have to think first about your child: do you want her/him to grow in a abusing environment?
....and honestly.......i don't understand how can you still love him........but that is not for me to judge. all i can say is that i saw your story many times here in europe and it never end good.

Op Sorry about your plight. I hope it is not an arrangee marriage..if yes, na one chance things ooooo

Just be prayerful, hopefully he will change, marriage is neither a prison nor slavery. You can talk to him and he will change, give hime reasons to trust you and build the trust.

This is the 3rd time today I am reading similar cases of "wicked husbands"! And trust Nairaland's professional advisers have jumped in?!!! And all their solution is - dump him! Divorce him! Kill him! Report him to police! Don't stand it! Leave home!!! #SMH
Most of you are either witches or divorce lawyers! Even when the lady said she still loves her husband and didn't want broken home!!!
That's why people shouldn't seek advice in a public forum where you have frustrated advisers that are certified psychiatric cases!!!
I can bet half of you are enduring worst situations in your relationship!!
Madam if you think divorce is great, try it! Experience will be the best teacher! Its one of this your advisers that will end up with your husband and they will manage him well.

The thread is from 2013.

Op

Shine your eyes ooo

Some things I am seeing here as in posts odikwa risky ooo

Remain prayerful,there's nothing God cannot do.

jollytas:
i'm 30 years old woman from atagba ogun state married to a 35years old man from abeokuta.....not to write much, we are both living in spain. i've been so honest to him even when he was away for some months before i later joined him,and i have never caught him in the act of humanising.
i did all i could including giving him everything dat has to do with me(passwords,account details and every other information) just for him to trust me. but i noticed cos of the informations that were giving to him before we got married about nigerian ladies. he lost trust in me.
1.he uses every little gist we make against me when we have misunderstanding
2. because of me, he dsrespet my family member.
3. we are both working hard to make a better future, using the same account,though i have the accounts informations but he never allowed me to send money to my families back at home and he does almost every 2,2 months
4. he wont allow me to call my people when he is not there. and for this reason he asked me to buy a local line.
5. he goes angry when any of my family members calls me from home. wanting to know why they are calling.
6. when i was pregnant with our first daughter, he beats me althrough the 9month pains i had and he made me work extra at home. even when i was in pains, he never cared.
7. now, he want me to have another baby.
pls, i need your help. i found it difficult to feel happy when i see him coming home. he never allowed me to make friends, i met a nigerian lady some weeks back whom i explained my self to, she gave me 3.advice
1. divorce and have peace of the mind in other to feel relax before re choosing another man
2. tell him you need to go back to nigeria even if he want you to be pregnant
3. stay with him and pray for his change while you enjoy the pains
please what do i do? i love him despite the way he is treating me, i still love him. i dont want to divorce him, i dnt want to live in nigeria as a single mother. and yet this pain is too much...............

The only thing I could glean from this post of yours is that your mental wellbeing is at the very bottom of your list of priorities. i.e: it means nothing to you.

Goodluck with the emotional enslavement sha.

Follow your mind....... It's never wrong

I would say you are the architect of your problems.
For the fact that you got married does not give you the right to blab about your own family.

I believed in wanting and trying for him to gain your trust you talk down on your relatives. Now he has known you, even if he slapped okra seed out of your mouth, no one will strongly object from your own family.

You even gave him your password in every thing, are you insane? Next relationship you gonna have try and hold back some information. Let them like you the way you are. Do not try super hard. Love him but do not act desperate.