greatgod2012: I think this man is taking us as fools, and im getting furious towards the man.
Last year April, one of our neighbours came to hubby for financial assistance, he said, he went to the bank to withdraw some amount at the bank with his ATM card, and he claimed that the machine swallowed his card, it was on a Friday, and he came to hubby and asked hubby to borrow him the cash till Monday, when he would have sorted out his ATMcard issue with the bank. Hubby gave him the money,(with my knowledge, of course) and since then, the man has refused to pay the money back. Now, what is making me furious is that, the man never talked about the money, he has been relating with us as if nothing is between us, he has never talked about the money, not to talk of how he is going to pay the money. I asked hubby to ask him the money, hubby said, there is no need, all he know is that, the man can never come to us for financial assistance again. We reported him to his wife, his wife said a lot of bad things about him, how she has been managing/coping with his uncomely attitude. The wife even promised to pay the money back, but hubby asked her not to worry, because, the woman do not have much with her(shes a private school teacher). Now, im feeling like confroting him, not in order to collect the money, but to just let him know that we aint fools, and to also let him know that its not good to behave like that, to let him know that he isnt smarter than us, but hubby wont allow me.
Now, please, advise me, should i confront him or i should just leave him alone. Each time i see him, i feel like hes just taking us as fools, what do i do?
Thanks.

ayobase: Let it slide as ur husband suggested.
And try also to inculcate that habit, and don't always give out what its way too much to lose.

Its what I do always, if u don't talk about it, I also wouldn't talk about it. Its a matter of next time. And there is always a blessing attached.

What we should always pray for is God's blessing!

Guys are watching match now....pieces of advice are gonna be flowing in later in the night!

ayobase: Let it slide as ur husband suggested.
And try also to inculcate that habit, and don't always give out what its way too much to lose.

Its what I do always, if u don't talk about it, I also wouldn't talk about it. Its a matter of next time. And there is always a blessing attached.

What we should always pray for is God's blessing!

Guys are watching match now....pieces of advice are gonna be flowing in later in the night!

Idowuogbo:
Igbawo lo di pastor?

Idowuogbo: Haba! Aunty G,calm down nau.. he's probably still in a tight corner.Madam,as Oga don talk make you liv mata, let it go.Talking comes by nature,silence by wisdom.

debrief08: Nigerians can pet and accept bad behavior.
That's why we have leaders who will continue to rap3 us because we will say "leave them to God".
Confront him, don't only confront him ask for your money back.
Next time even if its your sister get it in writing before releasing even 1kobo on loan.
We don't like paper work and it always gets us in trouble.
Why won't people be acting like idiots when we will "leave them to God", confront him so he will know that even if he can get away with it because others are too docile you are not.
We wonder why we have bad leaders and a horrible society when you can not even stand and take the time to fight for money you have earned.
Sad society.

Acidosis:
Igbawo lo di Philosopher?

Acidosis:
Igbawo lo di Philosopher?

debrief08: Nigerians can pet and accept bad behavior.
That's why we have leaders who will continue to rap3 us because we will say "leave them to God".
Confront him, don't only confront him ask for your money back.
Next time even if its your sister get it in writing before releasing even 1kobo on loan.
We don't like paper work and it always gets us in trouble.
Why won't people be acting like idiots when we will "leave them to God", confront him so he will know that even if he can get away with it because others are too docile you are not.
We wonder why we have bad leaders and a horrible society when you can not even stand and take the time to fight for money you have earned.
Sad society.

debrief08: Nigerians can pet and accept bad behavior.
That's why we have leaders who will continue to rap3 us because we will say "leave them to God".
Confront him, don't only confront him ask for your money back.
Next time even if its your sister get it in writing before releasing even 1kobo on loan.
We don't like paper work and it always gets us in trouble.
Why won't people be acting like idiots when we will "leave them to God", confront him so he will know that even if he can get away with it because others are too docile you are not.
We wonder why we have bad leaders and a horrible society when you can not even stand and take the time to fight for money you have earned.
Sad society.

debrief08: What silly blessing should they fold their arms and wait for?
So letting a criminal get away with fraud now attracts blessings, God have mercy and give me strength

greatgod2012: I think this man is taking us as fools, and im getting furious towards the man.
Last year April, one of our neighbours came to hubby for financial assistance, he said, he went to the bank to withdraw some amount at the bank with his ATM card, and he claimed that the machine swallowed his card, it was on a Friday, and he came to hubby and asked hubby to borrow him the cash till Monday, when he would have sorted out his ATMcard issue with the bank. Hubby gave him the money,(with my knowledge, of course) and since then, the man has refused to pay the money back. Now, what is making me furious is that, the man never talked about the money, he has been relating with us as if nothing is between us, he has never talked about the money, not to talk of how he is going to pay the money. I asked hubby to ask him the money, hubby said, there is no need, all he know is that, the man can never come to us for financial assistance again. We reported him to his wife, his wife said a lot of bad things about him, how she has been managing/coping with his uncomely attitude. The wife even promised to pay the money back, but hubby asked her not to worry, because, the woman do not have much with her(shes a private school teacher). Now, im feeling like confroting him, not in order to collect the money, but to just let him know that we aint fools, and to also let him know that its not good to behave like that, to let him know that he isnt smarter than us, but hubby wont allow me.
Now, please, advise me, should i confront him or i should just leave him alone. Each time i see him, i feel like hes just taking us as fools, what do i do?
Thanks.

ayobase:

Wretched mindset.....criminal....fraud....strength....I still wonder how somepeople think about MONEY o!

What about if u die 2moro......or what about if u don't have to EVEN give out!

Some people are praying for God's financial blessing so that they can give out, and here you are STILL!

VANITY UPON VANITY, ALL IS VANITY!

smartmom: I can imagine how you feel . And its made worse that you have to see him every time. Since you have reported to his wife, I am sure she must have mentioned it to him so he is aware of your feelings. Since your hubby has asked you to let it go, ask God to help you get over the bitterness and the hurt of being taken advantage of. That man should be pitied because he has reduced himself before you family.

bellong:

She is actually looking at the issue from the point of making the guy accountable for his mischievousness. @Debrief, it is not everytime you act on issues about money. There are times you adopt the "serpent style" in dealing with monetary issues. In between, it was the husband who gave out the money, not the wife.
If the wife confronts the guy, it may portray the husband as a weakling who couldn't voice his opinion to the debtor (although that doesn't count).

Vikin:

Nigerians, sometimes we make something so small looks big. Someone owes you money, ask him for it! Maybe he has forgotten. At least know his reasons!

Even If you don't need it again, it will clear your minds and give him the guilt too.

Vikin:

Nigerians, sometimes we make something so small looks big. Someone owes you money, ask him for it! Maybe he has forgotten. At least know his reasons!

Even If you don't need it again, it will clear your minds and give him the guilt too.

Idowuogbo:
Sexy gal, ask him bawo? If husy says no, let d no b no! Kin ti yin? No b him use hin hand give d guy money? E like wahala sha.

Idowuogbo:
Igbawo lo di oni gbejo nkan mbe?