Marriage Relationship: Five Keys To Effective Communication

By Christopher UI Ogholoh

The importance of effective communication in marriage need not be overstressed. Love, money and other 'goodies' purported to make a successful marriage will only work if effectively communicated. Some people say money answers all things, others say love is everything, but I have observed from theories and practice that effective communication is the key. Join me on this journey to discover five communication skills that will make your union a success.

1. Choose The Right Words

Messages are better transmitted in words. To effectively promote the desired love, unity and intimacy in a relationship the spouse must learn to choose words that are seasoned with respect, love and submission. The right words used at the right time will douse doubt, fear and wrong judgement. Let the wife's use words that express her loyalty and boost the man's ego. Husbands must not choose words that will hurt and disrespect his wife.

2. Avoid Assumptions

Most partners in relationships always presume some things. This can be very harmful to harmonious marriage. For example, Adam in the bible, presume Eve ought to know God's mind about the tree of good and evil in the garden of Eden. Hence, he did not bother to enlighten her about the implications of eating of it. The devil cashed in on it to deceive her. If Adam did not presume, Eve would have known the right thing to do. This same thing is common in many marriage relationships. You know this through some common utterances like: 'she ought to know... At her age' and so on. Use straight clear words. Avoid the use of parables because your spouse might not be able to interpret your intentions accurately. Also, it is better for the hearer to ask questions about issues that are not clear than to do the wrong thing.

3. Choose the Right Time To Speak

''To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven... A time to rend, and a time to hate; a time to keep silence, a time to speak'' (Ecclesiastes3:1-10). There is the need to know your spouse's mood and temperament so as to be able to know when and how best to discuss some critical issues. There are issues for bedtime; there are issues for dining time; and there are issues for special lunch hours. No matter how overwhelming the matter might be, learn to hold in until the right time. What should be uppermost is not an emotion but a peaceful relationship.

4. Learn To Listen Well When The Other Is Talking

I support the popular saying which says ''when two people are talking nobody is talking''. Communication, being a two-way thing, requires the cooperation between the speaker and the audience. Therefore,it is wise for one to listen attentively to the other in a relationship so as to be able to pass sound judgement, make good decisions and give accurate feedback.

5. Be Open And Truthful

Truthfulness and openness to each other in a marriage relationship can heal any wounds. They must be sincere and honest in their communications so that they can build confidence and trust in the relationship.

Finally, communication is an art that must be learned and internalized by both partners if they are to get the best in their marriage.

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Nice sharing. Sometimes, listenning is important and it helps you know what your partner thinks,and the wrong words really hurt.

sophieLL: Nice sharing. Sometimes, listenning is important and it helps you know what your partner thinks,and the wrong words really hurt.

yes. asking the right questions and listening. instead of making assumptions.
your partner maybe ignorant of what u think they know. and may have good reasons for doing what think they should not have done