1. Take responsibility for your own life, and don't blame others for your failures, wrong choices, poor decisions, or problems. You are the only one responsible for your own life always. You have made your own choices as to the paths you have taken in life, and you are either suffering or enjoying the consequences of those decisions whether they are good or bad, or what you wanted or not. Life may not have treated you fairly up to this point, but it can certainly start treating you wonderful from now on. Learn how to be assertive in stating your own wants, needs, and feelings. Use "I" statements instead of "You" statements. "I" statements declare your own wants, needs, and feelings, while "You" statements put the other person on the defensive and arguments can arise quickly. They tend to place the blame on the other person. Whatever your own mindset is, is what you manifest into your life over a period of time. Your thoughts have created the life you now have. Your thoughts rule your world. I hope you are now able to see how important it is to think only positive about all things, even when negative curves are thrown in to try and hinder you.

2. Realize that God is fair and just and that the Universe only gives you back what you expect it to give you. This is why your internal feelings, thoughts, and self-talk words are so important. If your thoughts are only negative, then it begins to make sense that your life is going to be negative as well. Depressed people are caught up in a vortex of negative thinking. It is imperative for anyone suffering from depression to raise their own self-image, self-esteem, self-confidence, and change their thought patterns from negative to positive about how they experience life in general. You might have been a victim of your past, but it is not too late to become victorious now.

3. Realize that what you think in your mind you actually become in time. This is why it is very important to think highly of yourself, and never let that negative internal dialogue sabotage your highest good again. If you put on facades while in the presence of others, it will not work for the internal part of yourself. You have to believe in your own abilities always, and never let others sway you. Be strong in your own values and beliefs.

4. If anyone has abused you mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, or socially, or if someone has done you wrong in any way in life, forgive them. To change your life for the better you must forgive others and forgive yourself. You must realize that it is not others who have caused your life to be the way it has been, but only your own wrong thought patterns which you can now change. To do this, sit down in a comfortable place and visualize the wrongs that you perceive have been done to you. Only this time, visualize everything being done the way you would have liked it to have been. Take as long as you need to do this until you feel that things are okay between you and anyone else. Then ask forgiveness for yourself for any part you played even if it was unintentional, then release this person into God's Hands. Affirm that all is well between you and that person, and all things are now forgiven, that there is no condemnation in you, for you, or round about you, that all is well in your world.

5. Realize that how you perceive your life is very important. Learn to love yourself just as you are now and work from this point forward. The past is history. The future is yet to be. Begin to live in the Present one moment at a time.

6. Listen to your inner voice. Your intuition will be right most of the time. Your own instincts will tell you what you are really supposed to be doing if you will only listen. Meditation is a form of prayer. When you pray to God, be quiet afterwards and listen to what He says back to you. It could be a still small voice in your mind if you become quiet enough to hear Him, or perhaps a thought on how to accomplish something that has been puzzling you. The more you trust your Intuition, the stronger It will become to guide you on the right paths and make the correct decisions.

7. When negative thoughts enter your mind, replace them with positive ones. For example, if the thought, "I am ugly and I will never amount to anything in life," enters your mind, immediately cancel it out with this thought, "I am attractive, and I now do exactly what God wants me do." Satan always wants us to fail, but God is always here to help us succeed. To succeed you only have to believe that you are already succeeding now. Visualize things as you would like them to be, not the way they are. Learn how to visualize things as you want them to be, not how they are. Even the worst situations can be changed doing this. When you are so low that God has to pick you up and carry you in His arms, He will still give you the strength to bounce back from defeat if you allow Him to do that. We all have free will to make choices and decisions, and He will not interfere in that, but He will lead and direct our paths if we let Him.

8. Surround yourself with a healthy support group who can give you emotional support and encouraging feedback. If your family is toxic for you to be around, then as an adult, move away from them and find other people who can become your extended family and friends who will support your endeavors, and give you the emotional support needed daily. No one is an island. We all need emotional support, love, and encouragement. Surround yourself with people who will support you, not people who tell you that you can't do this or that in life. Having an emotional support system is a very important thing in life. You need love, encouragement, appreciation, and support, not being put down or invalidated, manipulated or controlled, and especially not being abused in any way.

9. Say aloud your positive affirmations several times each day. Do not skip a day, or it will not work. Your thought patterns will begin to change and a new attitude and mindset will begin after about one month or sooner. Some people see immediate results.

10. Realize that you can only change yourself and not others, but that other's lives may be affected by the change in your life. When people see how your own life has changed, they will want to know how to do it, too. Share with them this information so they can change for the better also. Always be willing to help others in any way you can without charging them for your help, but do not give so much of yourself that you then suffer. You must take good care of yourself first, before you can truly help others.

11. To prevent depression each day, you need to maximize your happiness and joy. Positive psychology teaches depressed people to focus on their strengths instead of their weaknesses. We must remove our negative characteristics and replace them with positive traits inside ourselves with our self-talk that promote our well-being in order for depression to be completely healed. By tackling our low self-esteem and confidence first of all, we take a huge step in obtaining the type of life we truly want. You must first learn to love yourself before you can genuinely love others. You have to believe internally that you deserve health, happiness, and prosperity before you will receive it from the universe.

12. Love what you do every day. If you don't enjoy your job or your life, find a job or things to do each day that you can enjoy. Make a list of things you enjoy doing and do them every day. I have a list of 105 things a person can do alone. If you read it, I am sure you can think of a lot of additional things you would enjoy doing alone that give you personal enjoyment and happiness. All work and no play can truly make you an unhappy person. By finding a job that you truly enjoy doing each day, and that meets a need or needs within your community, you can alleviate a lot of your stress and prosper.

13. Seek out things to do that you are capable of doing. Don't set out to do things you know you are not qualified to do, as this can sabotage you. Don't even try to do things that only cause you more stress, or that you really do not want to do. You can be certain that God is not in chaos. He does not want us to be unhappy or miserable. Always realize that God will never tell you to do anything that goes contrary to the Bible's teachings. If God's Word does not back it up, then it is not from God.

14. Set clear goals for yourself. If goal-setting is hard for you, do it in baby steps, then give yourself honor and appreciation for everything you are accomplishing daily, regardless how trivial the accomplishment might be. Learn to accept and appreciate other's praise and compliments to you.

15. Whenever you feel negative about something, focus on some positive memory in your mind immediately, as positive stimuli automatically reduces stress. Stress can kill anyone, so minimize it as much as you can.

16. Learn new coping skills. There should always be some way to find a workable compromise. I have websites on coping skills you can click-on from my main self-help index.

17. Make your countenance be full of happy smiles each day, even if you don't feel like smiling. Kindness is a gift we can give to anyone that doesn't cost us a cent, but it can be priceless to the person to whom it is given. Frowns create wrinkles. Smiles create an inner beauty.

18. Bring as much joy into your life as you can each day. Happiness already lies within us all. We just have to get in touch with it to bring it forth. Laugh as much as you can every day, as humor or comedy can transform the sadness of any situation, tragedy, or catastrophy in your life. Laughter is like a medicine to the body, spirit, and soul.

19. Learn to be calm, resilient, and relaxed. Don't focus on anything negative. Tragedies and catastrophies are a part of life. Learn how to bounce back fast. Don't succumb to emotions or feelings that are allowed to ruin your life.

20. Exercise daily and create a lifestyle of healthy nutrition. Diets will not work for long term. It takes a lifestyle change to stay fit for life. Make it a part of your everyday routine, the same as your daily affirmations. Always eat a good breakfast because that is what fuels your body for the entire day.

21. Give back to others what God blesses you with in life. Share your gifts without charging others for your knowledge and wisdom. Helping others always makes a person feel good inside. What you give out to the universe will also come back to you, because you will reap what you sow in this life.

22. Show appreciation and gratitude to God and others every day. If you look enough, you will find so many things to be grateful for and appreciative. The more open you are to receiving your blessings, the faster they will come to you. The more genuinely grateful you are, the more blessings will come to you. It is said that when bad things seem to be pouring into your life, it could be to make room for more blessings. Clean out the clutter to make room for more blessings. In the same way our homes can become cluttered and need cleaning out, so can our body, mind, spirit, and soul.

23. Realize that life can be hard on anyone, but with a daily positive mindset and healthy self-esteem and confidence in your own abilities, you now push your own buttons. You are in control of your own life. You have reclaimed your personal power from all the people you gave it to over the years. You are now able to create the life you have always wanted.

24. Begin blessing others instead of cursing them, griping, or complaining. This is the way to move people out of your life who cause problems for you. Affirm that they go to their higher good now in some other place than where you are. Shortly, this will happen, when it is done daily. Don't forget to thank God for blessings always. When you open yourself and your life up to blessings, and bless others, you create a flow of good into your life at that point from the Universal Mind and Divine Substance, from which all things are created.

25. You can do all of this even if you are alone in this life. It will not be easy, but it can be done, because I am proof of that. God plus nothing equals everything. Make sure you have a solid relationship with Jesus Christ and that He is your Savior, then trust in Him to lead you in the paths that He wants you to follow, and that He will take good care of you until it is time for you to go to Heaven. Satan cannot cross the Bloodline of Jesus Christ. He can only do what God allows him to do. The Bible says that the righteous have never been forsaken, nor His seed begging bread. No matter how hard things might look for you at the moment, keep up your Faith in God that He will see you through it all, and that you will be victorious, because Jesus Christ will give you the strength you need to do it. When you are alone and need help, call on Him to send you the strength you need to cope or accomplish whatever it is, and it will be there for you in some manner. The Holy Angels of God will be there to assist you in supplying you the strength and help you need. You do not need to give in to the voice of Satan who tells you it cannot be done. Rebuke his voice in your head, and plead the Blood of Jesus Christ when this happens, and Satan will have to flee from tormenting you. When your thoughts become irrational, don't contemplate suicide, get some help immediately. Prayer always changes things when nothing else will. Always believe in the Power of God and in miracles!

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