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Living With A Cheating Husband by Pat80(f): 5:12pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
If a man is cheating his wife so much so, that the wife has tried all means to convince him to desist. It has gone bad that possibly the man now has kids outside wedlock. What advice can be given to the wife in order to lessen her pain while still married to the cheating husband? |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by bellong: 5:25pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
So sorry madam, a man that has been cheating probably before you married him is difficult to stop. Habit die hard. Sincerely, I do not know how to deal with such without application of violence. Except he encounters divine touch and transformation, stopping is an herculean task. Your patience and prayer will have to increase on a geometric progression. God be with you. 1 Like |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by greatgod2012(f): 5:30pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
@op, what are his reasons for cheating? Do you have kids for him? Why do you like continuing living with him, sorry for asking, @op, if you don't mind my asking. |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Ashabie(f): 5:45pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
Point out that man who is innocent? @op,all you need is prayer. Everybody faces one thing or the other when it comes to marriage. If you still luv him keep your home. Thousands of woman out there want your position,they dnt mind just bearing his surname. If you have kids on your own,focus on them and their future, if you are yet to have,use that as your prayer point, and I blve God will give u ur hrt desire. And try to adjust in ur lapses as well.don't leave your home for anybody,having child out his home is not new,many ppl will no this after husby death,thank God u find out in time,dat will help u to be more focus,and plan your children future well. Our joy will not turn to sorrow.it is well |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Nobody: 5:51pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
OP, keep praying until you contact HIV. Is your life that useless that you are willing to go through all these. Na wah! Go get a job, or learn a new trade...however small the amount is and start taking care of yourself. Anyway, as per your post, in order to lessen your pain, start drinking and smoking. Am surely the time you hit the bed, your pain will be lessened. 4 Likes |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Nobody: 5:52pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
Ashabie: Point out that man who is innocent? @op,all you need is prayer. Everybody faces one thing or the other when it comes to marriage. If you still luv him keep your home. Thousands of woman out there want your position,they dnt mind just bearing his surname. If you have kids on your own,focus on them and their future, if you are yet to have,use that as your prayer point, and I blve God will give u ur hrt desire. And try to adjust in ur lapses as well.don't leave your home for anybody,having child out his home is not new,many ppl will no this after husby death,thank God u find out in time,dat will help u to be more focus,and plan your children future well. Our joy will not turn to sorrow.it is well Smh I give up! 9 Likes |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by TV01(m): 5:55pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
greatgod2012: @op, what are his reasons for cheating? Are there any valid reasons for cheating? TV 3 Likes |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Kanwulia: 5:56pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
Two options only. STAY OR LEAVE! How many AFRICAN WOMEN do you know have LEFT their husbands for cheating? IS THE AFRICAN CULTURE NOT POLYGAMOUS? I don't understand NIGERIAN women. ALMOST 90% OF NIGERIAN WOMEN GREW UP IN HOUSES WITH THEIR OWN FATHERS CHEATING WHILE THEIR MOTHERS STAYED IN THOSE MARRIAGES. . . . OR WERE KICKED OUT WITH OTHER WOMEN MOVING INTO THE HOUSES! When the vows were taken. . . did the HUSBAND AND WIFE really believe that they would really forsake ALL OTHERS? Why do NIGERIAN WOMEN FEEL A SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT TO 'THE ONE MAN-ONE WIFE' ILLUSION? HOW MANY OF THEIR FATHERS WERE MONOGAMOUS? Why go into a marriage and EXPECT a NIGERIAN MAN to be monogamous? Cheap advice : WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED TO A NIGERIAN MAN. . . DO NOT EXPECT MONOGAMY. . . SIMPLE! If you can understand this BASIC FACT. . . . YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE GOTTEN MARRIED EXPECTING TO CHANGE GENETIC POLYGAMISTS! YOUR CHRISTIAN VOWS ARE UNNATURAL IN THE CONTEXT OF AFRICAN OR NIGERIAN MARRIAGES. . . Women! Quit deceiving yourselves. . . .DON'T GET MARRIED TO NIGERIAN MEN. . . OR SIT THERE AND TAKE THE HEAT! YOUR FATHERS WERE NOT MONOGAMOUS. . . .SO STOP YOUR ILLUSIONS AND SAVE YOURSELVES LIVES OF MISERY! Don't get married to NIGERIAN OR AFRICAN men. . .or do so and ACCEPT YOUR FATES! POLYGAMOUS FATHERS GIVE BIRTH TO POLYGAMOUS SONS! THIS IS AFRRRRRRRRRICA!!!! Ask FEMI-FANI-KAYODE! 4 Likes |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by baby124: 5:58pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
Abeg i read this thread and instantly got headache. Am out |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Nobody: 6:00pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
Wow! Just wow! Ashabie: Point out that man who is innocent? @op,all you need is prayer. Everybody faces one thing or the other when it comes to marriage. If you still luv him keep your home. Thousands of woman out there want your position,they dnt mind just bearing his surname. If you have kids on your own,focus on them and their future, if you are yet to have,use that as your prayer point, and I blve God will give u ur hrt desire. And try to adjust in ur lapses as well.don't leave your home for anybody,having child out his home is not new,many ppl will no this after husby death,thank God u find out in time,dat will help u to be more focus,and plan your children future well. Our joy will not turn to sorrow.it is well 3 Likes |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by coogar: 6:11pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
Pat80: If a man is cheating his wife so much so, that the wife has tried all means to convince him to desist. It has gone bad that possibly the man now has kids outside wedlock. What advice can be given to the wife in order to lessen her pain while still married to the cheating husband? look the other way....if it will make her feel better, she can also get a young lover to even the score. |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Nobody: 6:22pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
Ashabie: Point out that man who is innocent? @op,all you need is prayer. Everybody faces one thing or the other when it comes to marriage. If you still luv him keep your home. Thousands of woman out there want your position,they dnt mind just bearing his surname. If you have kids on your own,focus on them and their future, if you are yet to have,use that as your prayer point, and I blve God will give u ur hrt desire. And try to adjust in ur lapses as well.don't leave your home for anybody,having child out his home is not new,many ppl will no this after husby death,thank God u find out in time,dat will help u to be more focus,and plan your children future well. Our joy will not turn to sorrow.it is well Unbelievable that a woman would right this. There are still thousands of men out there who are innocent including me. If unfortunately you married a cheat, do not deceive yourself you could not have done better. The truth is that you could have done better and it may be partly your fault. Back to the poster. You know why you got married in the first place and you should always remember that. My question is "are the reasons you got married still there". If this man always cheated on you before marrieage and you only married him because he has money, then you need to ask yourself if the money is worth all the heartache you face. May be the money you have will reduce your pain. I can see you want to remain in this marriage by force! But if you married him hoping you will be his only wife and it was out of true love, I would advice that divorce is an option in this case. Even the bible says you can divorce under these kind of scenario. Why call a man your husband why he shares himself with several other women. Be truthful, can you bear what he is doing? If not then it may just be time to move on! I honestly do not think having children or not should change your decision, besides you dont want your kids growing up in this kind of environment. 6 Likes |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Nobody: 8:24pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
Nashville: I'm sure she wants other part ways to deal with the philandering man apart from divorce. |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by greatgod2012(f): 9:05pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
TV01: Who knows? The man might have told her why he's cheating on her, and it might be probably the reason she want to continue living with him, knowing fully well that he's a serial cheater, because in her post, she didn't mention why she want to continue living with him, she only asked how she can continue living with him, despite the fact that she knows that her hubby is a cheater, that was why I asked the question, maybe it was in their agreement,lol. I smh at some people mindset sha, but I won't say more than that. Each to his/her own. |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Nobody: 9:11pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
greatgod2012: Which naija woman will stay with a cheating man if not that their source of life is tied to it. Na money palaver, nothing else. Abi u think say na the s ex style that will make her stay. Probably, she don see her name for the man will so she no wan give up all the inheritance |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Kanwulia: 9:32pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
Better-LOADED MEN ARE CHEATING LEFT RIGHT AND CENTER WITH THEIR WIVES DYING FOR THEM. . . e come be some peeps wey nor see food chop for NL? LWKMDead!!! GBE NU E SOUN JOR!!! . . . As my darling grandmama go say! ANDY UBA. . .REMARRIES AFTER 27 YEARS OF SERIAL CHEATING!!!!! HIS WIFE IS STILL ANSWERING 'ESTRANGED WIFE' waiting to collect ABANDONED PROPERTY abi na 'blokos'!. . . . . NOT EX-WIFE!!! 2 OF OJUKWU'S WIVES DIED LOVING HIM AS A SERIAL CHEAT, TILL HIS BLOKOS ROTTEN FOR H-INSIDE BIANCARRRR!!!! Women! Please, take note! STOP STRESSING YOURSELVES!!!! Join the 'recycling business'!!!! There will ALWAYS BE A SWEETER POOHSIE THAN YOUR MGBEKETOTO! YOUR HOLY NWENJA SLACK, OVER-PHOCKED, MISERABLE AZZZE WILL BE 'DUMBBBED'. . . and A RECYCLED ASSSSSSSSSSSHAWO WILL MOVE INTO YOUR HOME. . . DEAL WITH IT! This is AFRICAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!! http://www.newsofthepeople-ng.com/the-messy-burial-of-senator-andy-ubas-mother-how-his-mistress-faith-vedelaigo-was-shut-out/ http://www.globalvillageextra.com/FRESH-CRISIS-LOOMS-IN-SENATOR-ANDY-UBA-S-FAMILY-AS-HE-BURIES-MOM--WIFE-AND-MISTRESS-BATTLE-DIRTY-OVER-RECOGNITION.html [b] Or this? http://www.vanguardngr.com/2012/03/ojukwu-sexcapades-of-the-biafran-leader/ [b][size=20pt]Ojukwu: Sexcapades of the Biafran leader[/size] CHEI!!!!! |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by coogar: 11:24pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
i don't believe these stories. no man at ojukwu's age could have been that virile unless he's related to ron jeremy! 1 Like |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Nobody: 11:36pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
Jesus Christ!! |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Nobody: 11:55pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
Mgbeke toto! FFK don suffer for ur hand! But u r somehow right o! I entered into marriage with open mind so I will not get hbp. My late mum told me to always live room for fuckups in everything I do cos at times,it doesn't always go the way we want it to go. I told mr ypp while dating and after marriage, if u must do it, be adequately protected. Though I've seen no reason to doubt his sincerity, I always drag him to hospital for complete medical checkup. We need to wisen up abeg. Those men I encounter everyday everywhere r husbands not single guys. |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by biolabee(m): 6:37am On Aug 16, 2013 |
Nice insight...... calotti And people dey go this woman ministry for anointing, ,,,, Even this reinhard bonnke sef? |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Nobody: 6:59am On Aug 16, 2013 |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Nobody: 7:37am On Aug 16, 2013 |
Ashabie: Point out that man who is innocent? @op,all you need is prayer. Everybody faces one thing or the other when it comes to marriage. If you still luv him keep your home. Thousands of woman out there want your position,they dnt mind just bearing his surname. If you have kids on your own,focus on them and their future, if you are yet to have,use that as your prayer point, and I blve God will give u ur hrt desire. And try to adjust in ur lapses as well.don't leave your home for anybody,having child out his home is not new,many ppl will no this after husby death,thank God u find out in time,dat will help u to be more focus,and plan your children future well. Our joy will not turn to sorrow.it is wellmeee |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Bootylicious(f): 9:02am On Aug 16, 2013 |
Thanks! Bitter truth hahahahah I remember a thread I started asking if ladies would prefer dre man go for paid sex or has one lady he has an affair witout side,i was called all sort of names, dis is Africa mehn Nigeria 4dat matter... itss just natural.. OP dat shld not bother u, infact d more u talk him out of it d more he goes deep into it. Don't nag, pretend as if u don't know, treat him wit lovee and respect 4d sake of ur children.. u move out anoda woman moves in.. Kanwulia: Two options only. |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Nobody: 9:41am On Aug 16, 2013 |
When I say 99% of men living in Nigeria are cheats,, I knew it. This is what you will get when most women marry for money. This is what you will get when you give out your daughter in marriage for the said husband to take care of you and family (girls parents) This is what you get when you think that only men needs education. This is what you get when employment and appointment laws favors men. This is what you will get when a girl befriending a broke as s nicca and due to poverty, unemployment, and love of wealth, these girls follows married men. This is what you get when most girls, once they enter the higher institution, their main target is to get married because of the pressure the society puts on them. This is what you will get when a girl is in her late 30's is not married, ppl tend to curse, laugh, even at the expense of telling her she selects too much. As long as the man is taking care of you financially...marry him. And most young girls desire is maarrying a wealthy man. a broke a ss nicca, starts doing all sorts of illegal business just to get this same money. Finally he has it, the circle continues. The news here is, you are cheating, many girlfriend....the wife might also be cheating., or she is seated at one church program asking for miracles. Until one day monkey go go market e no go come back. Yes, we will get there, the remaining 1% of faithful spouses will fight with our blood. If you think your husband it's cheating. Get some area boys(plenty jobless youth), deal with your husband, while you handle the girl....since Mohammed no gree go mountain, mountain will go to Mohammed. Yes we will win this war! 1 Like |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by bukatyne(f): 9:49am On Aug 16, 2013 |
LOL! @ thread Tomorrow if someone says most Nigerian husband cheat, posters will say the generalizations are too much... @OP: How to cope with a cheating hubby?.... It seems you have struck divorce from the options... I really do not know but whatever you do, do not cling to your kids, let them live their lives so they can look forward to rebuilding their lives in marriage without you breathing down their backs and homes. |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Nobody: 10:10am On Aug 16, 2013 |
bukatyne: LOL! @ thread It might just be better to stick to the topic and not derail. This is an individual case and does not constitute majority of Nigerian men. And by the way who do these men cheat with? Their fellow men or Nigerian women? As I said, let's stick to helping the poster. 1 Like |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by buklan4realyah(f): 10:19am On Aug 16, 2013 |
Seriously, i really dnt knw wot to say.... but to my own understanding, aw did u nd so call ur husband started d relationship, is it cos of he is famous, wealthy,handsome etc... if it cos of one of dose reasons den u kip facing sumtin like dis. cos u nd a man can start ur life togeda frm d scratch nd he will pay u back dis way, though, we av some ingrate fellow. ur story is som aw toching nd i feel for u.. i understand aw broken hrt is wen it comes to dis issue... but a question, do u really want to continue living with him, with an external oppression can u withstand his babymama let alone d child? pls see ur pastor or guardian or both parent for proper counselling. |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by bukatyne(f): 10:59am On Aug 16, 2013 |
Nashville: Oga Nashville, Defender of the brethren! Reread my post. Most posters said that and not me. I am only gathering the general consensus of the thread. Sorry, I do not care who they cheat with. As a married man/woman, your only biz is your spouse and not what others are doing. Do you think I will care most married men cheat if my friend's guy comes to tell me that she slept with a married man? What is even my concern with who she slept with? The koko here is the erring hubby/wife and not some random babe or dude. As for the % of Nigerian married men who cheat, check NL's guys to know the percentage. Now, you are the one derailing the tread |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by coogar: 11:14am On Aug 16, 2013 |
Chillisauce: When I say 99% of men living in Nigeria are cheats,, I knew it. these men must be cheating with domestic animals and inanimate objects. all the women living in nigeria are saints. 2 Likes |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by MrsChima(f): 11:56am On Aug 16, 2013 |
It's your choice. Accept all rrepercussions. |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Nobody: 11:58am On Aug 16, 2013 |
coogar:lolz |
Re: Living With A Cheating Husband by Enegod(m): 12:12pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
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