You no well!!lol at eeew "I can't believe I did that"

Bludevil I like your perspective.

un fortunately in my opinion , this lady wants one last tango before she settles down

I think that she has no emotional connection with him that would tie into physical attraction.

I mean you can love people and feel no romantic connection, the fact that she keeps breaking up with him shows that.

Heck people kiss those who they are not attracted to Abu, how dem day act for film.

I think she's just anxious that time is ticking away.
To answer her yes you need to at least be physically attracted to him that attraction can come from not just his looks but his personality. However is it the only reason to get married,No. But it is important.

Not having sex with him is irrelevant to you being attracted to him.

Just move on.

Physical Attraction is VERRRRRYYYYY Important.
Like a friend once said ' love aint love if there isn't a bit of lust in d mix'.

Though, concerning d o.p,I feel that is just an excuse of convenience t mask d true issue.

If he's al that goodness n u sincerely tink theres d possibility p.attraction might develop later, then by all means stay..else, do a Johnnie Walker.

Simple solution t ur dillemma..KISS HIM!!!
A kiss will tell u All u need to knw far beta than anyone here will.

The op derailed her post by blaming her doubts on the lack of physical attraction (what a reason).


She probably just cant pinpoint exactly why she's hesitating, she needs to figure that out first, could be something to do with her herself, not necessarily the guy.

Winneygirl: A lot of ladies have not clearly defined love.
'You love him so much' or
'You'd like to think U love him so much' ??
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U didn't give much info, but I'd say that U dont have a very good/close friendship with him. The love U 'feel' is that which is written in the mind, not born of the heart.
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Ur heart is not with him. It has nothing to do with physical attraction.

You are right and wrong. Wrong because we know each other inside out. We talk about anything under the sun together. I love his personality, attitude to life, love for God but my heart does not beat or skip when he walks into d room, so its possible my love for him is of the mind.

dBard: Physical Attraction is VERRRRRYYYYY Important.
Like a friend once said ' love aint love if there isn't a bit of lust in d mix'.

Though, concerning d o.p,I feel that is just an excuse of convenience t mask d true issue.

If he's al that goodness n u sincerely tink theres d possibility p.attraction might develop later, then by all means stay..else, do a Johnnie Walker.

Simple solution t ur dillemma..KISS HIM!!!
A kiss will tell u All u need to knw far beta than anyone here will.

I suggested that but he said I should make up my mind before the act not after or because - as it would muddle things up.

To all those asking if he is is ugly. He is not but I would like it if he is taller and looses the tummy.
But a human being is more than his or her physical appearance.
We are spirits and souls but i find it hard to close my eyes and marry him.

There must be something in him that made you close to him to the extent of him talking marriage. why string him along if you knew you were not serious?

stillwater: There must be something in him that made you close to him to the extent of him talking marriage. why string him along if you knew you were not serious?

Stilly, right on point. My thoughts exactly.

ininiana: To all those asking if he is is ugly. He is not but I would like it if he is taller and looses the tummy.
But a human being is more than his or her physical appearance.
We are spirits and souls but i find it hard to close my eyes and marry him.

Yea Babe ur gut is tellin u not to U don't know d reason now but if U do Go ahead after d warnings of 'this thing' that is holding u back, u'll find out D reasons and it Won't be PRetty.

If u honestly didn't JUmp n say Yes, to d proposal of someone u've dated for a While nw, Then u re nt Ready for Either marrg or marrg with him, U might truly luv him as a friend n all buh ur spirit does nt just accept him as a life partner... Its Never wise to ignore d nagging doubts

Tho ur post was directed to the women but i jus felt this cld help you,wait for a guy to approach toy den study him wen ur dating,dnt be too desperate cus in d process guys will take advantage of you.
Then are you saying you are nt physically attractive to him or he is not physically attractive to you?

ininiana: To all those asking if he is is ugly. He is not but I would like it if he is taller and looses the tummy.
But a human being is more than his or her physical appearance.
We are spirits and souls but i find it hard to close my eyes and marry him.

hmmmn,then look out for one rather wait for one,but remember beauty fades but love grows if you are looking forTDH(Tall, Dark and Handsome)