betterline:


Exactly, She never even mentioned what is it she was going to do when u got out of the house. Now, I am really scared of her. Poor fetus! just a week or so old. My love for her has since gone away with the action. Can't even make love to her again.

Isiterere:

I thought maturity is required in marriage. Seems the OP is in dare need of baby and you pressurizes her into lying to you that she's pregnant (though you're 9month into the marriage )
Its high time you both have a tete-a -tete discussion on the foundation of your matrimony .
I don't believe she's even pregnant in the 1st instance

dayokanu: Use your tongue to count your teeth

SHarp up

Kanwulia: Sorry you are hurt and angry, but it is HER RIGHT TO DO AS SHE WISHES, MARRRRRRRIED OR NOT!

No woman should be made to incubate and birth ANY offspring from A DESPICABLE SOURCE, husband included! 10 months is daaaaaaaaaamn, too long a road to HELL.

Next time ask ya 'GOD' to give you an ADAM'S UTERUS, instead of an 'APPLE'!

You sef! STOP PHOCKIND HER OR KISS HER AZZZZZE GOOD-BYE!!!!

SHIKENA!!!!

Oh! BTW, abortion is the CHEAPEST form of contraception in AFFFRRRRIKKKKKA!!!!

mysticgal: welcome to marriage world

bellong:

If the supposed pregnancy was only a week old at the time, how did you confirm she was actually pregnant? There are more to the pregnancy story than you think.

What if she was not pregnant in the first place but only told you to allow her rest and an opportunity came to reverse the lie.... This is my assumption as am still wondering how you were sure she was pregnant if it was only a week old....

Mayflowa:

It may be true am despicable to her. She may thought why wud she carry this fuuuckking ba.stardd child for this ingrate!

jidegirl12: @Princess Zoe .. You're too nice as usual.. Trying to convince a grown aśš married adult from fornication.. Let him go ahead and do it now. God is watching you with His BiG eyes OP .

Like I tell my friends Marriage is not for Cowards! Your marriage is how you make it.

I dey vex

Princess zoe: Do you really mean to commit adultery? Holy Jesus. So you expect your marriage to be all rosy without a challenge? So you cannot stand your ground to fight the problem and challenge that entered your home? Are you trading your headship in your marriage with the devil? A head is a protector and a fighter, are you actually selling that right to adultery? Am sure you know what adultery can cause for you? You may need to prepare yourself for divorce; unsettled home; permanent lack of love; immoral children or even financial turbulent. You are about to invite the devil to come and take total per-eminent in your home. From your post, you sound as if you have ventured into it before and you think that spiritual consequences of adultery cannot bring this problem of you dragging with your wife over having what some homes are lacking(children), yet you are about sailing again. Ignorance is a slow killer. Between, will you have the face to pray to God again? What will you tell God? My wife pushed me into this? It was a mistake? No, you signed the warrant and purposely choosed that path. Of course God will forgive but you will reap the seed of adultery you have sown, that is the hurting truth people don't know .

Physical and spiritual consequences of adultery are still affecting majority of homes even homes where the couple have said no to infidelity. Trust me, you don't want to do this for time shall come when you will pray to change the hands of time in order to amend your deeds. I will love to see you enjoy the glory of God upon your marriage, that was why i came back to paste this second message. Remember, for things to get better, you must get better and not worse. Your choice.

isha.salam:
Hi,
Firstly, was she truly preggy or told you she was. Secondly, kindly confirm from your family doc if she still is preggy or not. If all has been confirmed and she truly did abort the baby, then she is not fit to be called a wife. Period.

Mayflowa:

I understand what u mean. I hv been fighting from day one.I hate adultery but I also feel abused.

This action just capped it for me. She always tell me she is cut out for single life. I always rebuke her. It disturbs me however. It is well and fine I don't mention food throughout the day or wen I cook 4 her. I am a bad husband if I ask.she just specialises in eating junk and conflakes and she makes only for herself.
She tells me she loves me above all things yet my fluid dare not touch her during coitus else I get the silent treatment. I have to get them to my hands everytime. Its killing my sexual drive 4 her. She doesn't care anyway. Seexx is not her thing. She loathes cuddle. We have to sleep apart most times.

She is wired different from me or from any of my previous relationship. Taking drug to purge hersef of any imagined seed gives me the worries that she cud purge me out too one way or the other.

I intend to divorce her. I rather stay unmarried. What am I saying? She has divorced me in her mind. She just find it difficult 2 let me go. The truth is that I need a second wife and I will sure get.

Mayflowa:

I understand what u mean. I hv been fighting from day one.I hate adultery but I also feel abused.

This action just capped it for me. She always tell me she is cut out for single life. I always rebuke her. It disturbs me however. It is well and fine I don't mention food throughout the day or wen I cook 4 her. I am a bad husband if I ask.she just specialises in eating junk and conflakes and she makes only for herself.
She tells me she loves me above all things yet my fluid dare not touch her during coitus else I get the silent treatment. I have to get them to my hands everytime. Its killing my sexual drive 4 her. She doesn't care anyway. Seexx is not her thing. She loathes cuddle. We have to sleep apart most times.

She is wired different from me or from any of my previous relationship. Taking drug to purge hersef of any imagined seed gives me the worries that she cud purge me out too one way or the other.

I intend to divorce her. I rather stay unmarried. What am I saying? She has divorced me in her mind. She just find it difficult 2 let me go. The truth is that I need a second wife and I will sure get.

ileobatojo: I don't think she tried to abort the pregnancy because of the argument, she did it because she doesn't want to have a baby yet. You are both not on the same page about having children yet, she only succumbed when the pressure from you was too much. The argument was only the catalyst to her doing what was already on her mind to do.
Note that I'm only saying this for you to understand the problem. I'm not saying she's right in what she did.

After the brouhaha of the attempted abortion dies down, you both need to have a deep talk about each others feelings about starting a family, and find compromises.

debrief08:

Which is it? "Mayowa or betterline?" Anyway, its just 9 months, why did you marry her because as you stated you had better relationships.

Did a pastor sanction it? I don't understand why you both obviously are so full of bile and take turns to deliberately hurt each other, each ones action worse than that of the other, competing for who inflicts the most pain
Don't kill eac other oh, you may both need to talk to someone

Mayflowa:

Both are correct. I own the two handles. Don't feel like hiding anymore.

I have always had good relationships. I was young then and not ready to marry. Schooling abroad also created distance and separation from them.

Just wanted to make this one count. She told me she hates cooking but will cook everyday 4 me. She hurried our marriage because she told me she was tired of her menstral pains and want to stop it by getting preg. She was a virgin wen we got married and she wouldn't let me touch her till 3 months after. Now she says the menstral pains is an harbinger of goodnews to her.

I am trouble-free person but with strong personality. She saids she love me and I am the only one 4 her but its taking a tore on me. She doesn't think she is wrong anytime. So I can't help her. I have always been the one making and creating peace for no after-gratification and no food. I give up already. I will pitch my tent somewhere. She won't fight. She is got more cash than me b4 she starts thinking am sticking to her cash. I supporteed the biz from the start anyway.

Mayflowa:

I am very positive person. If not, I would considered mysef unlucky. I won't because I have long known life is up and down and is it not also do and die.

I can only try my best. Marriage is not forced.

I have a question 4 u:
What is expected of a man in modern day marriage? I feel I belong to the last generation. Do man asking for a food make him needy? Does he hv to make food himsef?

Mayflowa:

Both are correct. I own the two handles. Don't feel like hiding anymore.

I have always had good relationships. I was young then and not ready to marry. Schooling abroad also created distance and separation from them.

Just wanted to make this one count. She told me she hates cooking but will cook everyday 4 me. She hurried our marriage because she told me she was tired of her menstral pains and want to stop it by getting preg. She was a virgin wen we got married and she wouldn't let me touch her till 3 months after. Now she says the menstral pains is an harbinger of goodnews to her.

I am trouble-free person but with strong personality. She saids she love me and I am the only one 4 her but its taking a tore on me. She doesn't think she is wrong anytime. So I can't help her. I have always been the one making and creating peace for no after-gratification and no food. I give up already. I will pitch my tent somewhere. She won't fight. She is got more cash than me b4 she starts thinking am sticking to her cash. I supporteed the biz from the start anyway.

maclatunji:

Oh my God! The world has turned upside down. Your wife is not the only one that thinks she doesn't have to cook for her husband.

Ok, let us agree it is not compulsory but how can a wife derive pleasure from her husband cooking his own food or eating those of other women?

bukatyne:

Really?

Mayflowa:

I understand what u mean. I hv been fighting from day one.I hate adultery but I also feel abused.

This action just capped it for me. She always tell me she is cut out for single life. I always rebuke her. It disturbs me however. It is well and fine I don't mention food throughout the day or wen I cook 4 her. I am a bad husband if I ask.she just specialises in eating junk and conflakes and she makes only for herself.
She tells me she loves me above all things yet my fluid dare not touch her during coitus else I get the silent treatment. I have to get them to my hands everytime. Its killing my sexual drive 4 her. She doesn't care anyway. Seexx is not her thing. She loathes cuddle. We have to sleep apart most times.

She is wired different from me or from any of my previous relationship. Taking drug to purge hersef of any imagined seed gives me the worries that she cud purge me out too one way or the other.

I intend to divorce her. I rather stay unmarried. What am I saying? She has divorced me in her mind. She just find it difficult 2 let me go. The truth is that I need a second wife and I will sure get.

Princess zoe: O!this is serious. I doubt whether all you have posted here are really as they appear because i know that you are very angry. Please ignore some of the things your wife said to you because people can say nonsense when they are really upset. That is why in marriage, you forgive, forgive, forgive and continue to forgive except on the ground of adultery which you can still forgive. DO NOT DIVORCE. I bet you,you cannot remain single if you do, and if you remarry, you may cry more than you are crying now and definitely heaven will shut against you because you divorced aside the ground of adultery. Please hold on, you will win this. Communication will work wonders here but you must speak from deep down your heart, tell her the extreme you have gone with your intentions,be sincere, do the talking in the midnight and make sure you pray before waking her up. Believe me, believe God, your marriage will work and children must set in.

betterline:

Pregnancy seems to show too early in their family. I have never got to get in my fluid into her. so just did like 10 days ago on her ovulation. she has been showing signs of laziness, body change and what-nots. Hopefully she was. I cud only hope too.

And if she was, using (mesoprostol) would has ended the start of life and if she didn't, the intention is equally grave. I am not desperate for a kid. I had rather wait for a month or two to find out the coitus didn't yield fruit with no qualms. The intended action to abort and the line of thoughts that existed before the act is more traumatic for me than anything else.