Ab025: Bro, am sorry to say dis, but ur wife is indeed "wicked".

She should have atleast discussed it wit u first b4 taking the drugs, afterall, d feutus is also a product from u.

I just hope u guys can be one and dsame again o becos there are some thin line that once it has been crossed in a r/ship, there is no goin back again

U may just hav to forgive her o even if it is for just this one, how u go do, na stil ur wife.....

Princess zoe: NO, she is not a wicked woman. she is simply temperamental. Communication should be taken serious in your marriage. Get Christian article that deals with how to put up with a temperamental person for yourself and get another write up that deals with anger management for her. Also both of you should discuss about selflessness and top priorities in your marriage. I guess this is your own marriage challenge. Every marriage has it's own so you don't fret when yours come.You need to deal with this selflessly and patiently.Above all, get on bended knees because in kneeling,we win.

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Exactly, She never even mentioned what is it she was going to do when u got out of the house. Now, I am really scared of her. Poor fetus! just a week or so old. My love for her has since gone away with the action. Can't even make love to her again.

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Exactly, She never even mentioned what is it she was going to do when u got out of the house. Now, I am really scared of her. Poor fetus! just a week or so old. My love for her has since gone away with the action. Can't even make love to her again.

ileobatojo: I don't think she tried to abort the pregnancy because of the argument, she did it because she doesn't want to have a baby yet. You are both not on the same page about having children yet, she only succumbed when the pressure from you was too much. The argument was only the catalyst to her doing what was already on her mind to do.
Note that I'm only saying this for you to understand the problem. I'm not saying she's right in what she did.

After the brouhaha of the attempted abortion dies down, you both need to have a deep talk about each others feelings about starting a family, and find compromises.

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What should I do to this kind of wife that has to go abort our baby because she was mad at me? Never in my life have I heard about such wickedness and indiscretion.

I and my wife have been married for nine months and she had always been scared to get pregnant especially because it will limit her growing business. So I understood to the extend of using withdrawal technique.

I gave her reason recently while I couldn't wait any longer and she finally agreed to get pregnant. We had some little argument yesterday and she walked out of the house only to start sobbing in the evening that she took some drugs to kill the child.

I was awe-struck. I am still in shock. I am still thinking of what to do with her or to her.

bellong:

If the supposed pregnancy was only a week old at the time, how did you confirm she was actually pregnant? There are more to the pregnancy story than you think.

What if she was not pregnant in the first place but only told you to allow her rest and an opportunity came to reverse the lie.... This is my assumption as am still wondering how you were sure she was pregnant if it was only a week old....

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Yeah. she is highly touchy and temperamental. I try to avoid her troubles. She makes wrong conclusion from communications. I love books and I have bought all kinds including wife-husband subject.

The books are all rusty. she only has interest in 'commanding your morning' by MFM because she believes the prayers help her biz.

This argument has to do with her making tea for me.

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I guess u are right. She believe getting pregnant will make her lazy and stop the growth of her biz. She is 28 going 29. I am going 35. There are issues associated with late pregnancy. I won't wait for that to befall.

Guess she did this to hurt me because I was happy about the pregnancy and she saw it. I will have to look in another direction. I used to be a sharp man. I will have to sharpen my skill again.

ileobatojo: I don't think she tried to abort the pregnancy because of the argument, she did it because she doesn't want to have a baby yet. You are both not on the same page about having children yet, she only succumbed when the pressure from you was too much. The argument was only the catalyst to her doing what was already on her mind to do.
Note that I'm only saying this for you to understand the problem. I'm not saying she's right in what she did.

After the brouhaha of the attempted abortion dies down, you both need to have a deep talk about each others feelings about starting a family, and find compromises.

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Pregnancy seems to show too early in their family. I have never got to get in my fluid into her. so just did like 10 days ago on her ovulation. she has been showing signs of laziness, body change and what-nots. Hopefully she was. I cud only hope too.

And if she was, using (mesoprostol) would has ended the start of life and if she didn't, the intention is equally grave. I am not desperate for a kid. I had rather wait for a month or two to find out the coitus didn't yield fruit with no qualms. The intended action to abort and the line of thoughts that existed before the act is more traumatic for me than anything else.

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I guess u are right. She believe getting pregnant will make her lazy and stop the growth of her biz. She is 28 going 29. I am going 35. There are issues associated with late pregnancy. I won't wait for that to befall.

Guess she did this to hurt me because I was happy about the pregnancy and she saw it. I will have to look in another direction. I used to be a sharp man. I will have to sharpen my skill again.

Ab025: I wonder what type of wife wouldn't want to have a child for herself and her family o all because of her business!!!


If I marry, I wud even want my wife to give birth to our children very early so that we can start restin and training them

This ur wife lucky say no be my mumsy be her mother-in-law o, if not, them for start to dey ask questions say wether she dey barren..

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I guess u are right. She believe getting pregnant will make her lazy and stop the growth of her biz. She is 28 going 29. I am going 35. There are issues associated with late pregnancy. I won't wait for that to befall.

Guess she did this to hurt me because I was happy about the pregnancy and she saw it. I will have to look in another direction. I used to be a sharp man. I will have to sharpen my skill again.

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I guess u are right. She believe getting pregnant will make her lazy and stop the growth of her biz. She is 28 going 29. I am going 35. There are issues associated with late pregnancy. I won't wait for that to befall.

Guess she did this to hurt me because I was happy about the pregnancy and she saw it. I will have to look in another direction. I used to be a sharp man. I will have to sharpen my skill again.