Can you really change your man? I stumbled across this article in times online, about how two women who were able to change their husbands by applying their business/boardroom skills in their relationship to fix their husbands and in return their marriage. They first kicked out the husbands, then when the husbands begged to come home, they applied these rules/skills aimed at making the men help out at home, getting jobs to help with finances planning kids holidays/homework etc, One of the male responders to the book called it another man-hating book!! Is this another ploy for women to control men? ;is this the" marriage is a partnership" issue; equality of women? How to DEAL with bad/irresponsible husbands? I don't know. However, I think the role of the modern man with regards to his involvement in the home is changing. But this applying rules/kicking out etc, to change the man sha, e get as e be?

http://women.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,17909-2208916,00.html

Obviously the women are the bosses here while the men are the expendable pawns.
i would like to know the result where the men are top level executives.

the only person u can change is urself.

people only change if they want to.

u can change ur partner, they say behind the success and falure of a man theres always a woman behind, i think i can change my man o

Its difficult or almost Impossible to change a grown-up adult UNLess he/she wants to change.
You can only tolerate and accept each others fault.Sometimes,ur tolerance,acceptance and love 'might' prompt ur partner to change.

No one can change the other.
BTW, when you change a man, he is no more the man you fell in love with.

No. But I can make a positive change in his life.

No u cannot change a man,he is wat he is,if there is or are things that u definately cannot live without while dating better run,it wont change after marriage, it will only get worse,i hear people say oh pray 4 him he'll change,   no he wont,habits n behaviours die hard.Either learn to live with it or u dont.

ubiaa5:

No u cannot change a man,he is wat he is,if there is or are things that u definately cannot live without while dating better run,it wont change after marriage, it will only get worse,i hear people say oh pray 4 him he'll change,   no he wont,habits n behaviours die hard.Either learn to live with it or u dont.

well said

you cant change a person's personality or upbringing. However, I do believe that you can change their thought process. worked for me. but it takes patience and persistance.

you can lead a horse to the water but you cant force the horse to drink from it. same with changing people

~Sissy~:

you can lead a horse to the water but you cant force the horse to drink from it. same with changing people

true words

~Sissy~:

you can lead a horse to the water but you cant force the horse to drink from it. same with changing people

Why would you want to change your husband in the first place, you knew about his habits before you married him right ?

How are you sis

OgidiBoy:

Why would you want to change your husband in the first place, you knew about his habits before you married him right ?

How are you sis

do u knw some ppl change after marriage.

TOPE2000!:

do u knw some ppl change after marriage.

Yeah but it's just a matter of time before they go back to their old self.

TOPE2000!:

true words

is dat u

u still dey? longest time!
how bodi

OgidiBoy:

Why would you want to change your husband in the first place, you knew about his habits before you married him right ?

How are you sis

many women have this mindset that they can change their men and their bad behaviors even when the person shows no interest in changing.

your sis is fine. how is ma big brotha doing?   hope u have being a good boi dnt disappoint me

OgidiBoy:

Yeah but it's just a matter of time before they go back to their old self.

U reckon?

~Sissy~:


is dat u

u still dey? longest time!
how bodi

yes its me hun. how u dey?

~Sissy~:


is dat u

u still dey? longest time!
how bodi

many women have this mindset that they can change their men and their bad behaviors even when the person shows no interest in changing.

your sis is fine. how is ma big brotha doing?   hope u have being a good boi dnt disappoint me

Your big bros is doing fine dear.

You right I think it's wrong for a woman to try and change a man. That's why it's good to know that person before you marry em.

TOPE2000!:


yes its me hun. how u dey?

me is fine oo

OgidiBoy:

Your big bros is doing fine dear.

You right I think it's wrong for a woman to try and change a man. That's why it's good to know that person before you marry em.

wait. i have get your behavior progress report 4rom my secret spy agents b4 i accept ur words

yes its wrong because before you can change a person, the person have to wholeheartedly admit they have a problem and need help with it but many men are too egoistic to admit they have a problem and trying to change them becomes a lost course.

so before change can take place, admittance of a problem and willingness to change have to be there

~Sissy~:

me is fine oo
wait. i have get your behavior progress report 4rom my secret spy agents b4 i accept your words

yes its wrong because before you can change a person, the person have to wholeheartedly admit they have a problem and need help with it but many men are too egoistic to admit they have a problem and trying to change them becomes a lost course.

so before change can take place, admittance of a problem and willingness to change have to be there

Smart as always, my sister.

I've been good sis you know me nah

ok now. make i take fear agree

how is life going for you. what r u getting moi for xmas

Nothing special, I'll just go down to Dallas and send it with cousins, my folks are in Nigeria. I cont'd go with them because I had no money for the ticket.

What about you sis?

you r still a stud. so thats is expected. so no worri ur own tyme dey come

no plans yet

~Sissy~:

you r still a stud. so thats is expected. so no worri your own tyme dey come

no plans yet

I hear you my sister, I'll be right back dear need to go eat

no finish d food oo or else i go vex 4 u

~Sissy~:

no finish d food oo or else i go vex 4 u

funny girl