Long distance relationship is not new but only evolved. Historically men have been travelers, nomads, wanderers, and even sojourns in foreign lands in search for food and resources to support their families, while women were home as resource managers. Long distance relations can only work for people who did not marry for wrong reasons. If one party begins almost immediately to put pressure that’s a good insight of what he or she wants in the relationship. Otherwise if you live in the 21st century rather than 19th century and take good advantage of technology long distance relationships work.

1.Take Advantage of Technology
With instant messaging systems, such as Skype, BBM, Video conferences, and social media such as blogs, Facebook, etc, you can live at Lagos, Nigeria yet find and have a date in Brazil, you can comfortably stay in Asaba, Nigeria and do business in Hong Kong. One can also choose to keep his family, where it’s safer, while one takes a job, hustle elsewhere and absolutely keep in touch with family on a daily if not hourly basis.

2. Avoid giving room to situations that can generate unhealthy rumors
Don't keep a 'close' single friend of opposite sex no matter what name you call it – ‘church brother/sister’, ‘uncle’, ‘good neighbor’, ‘work colleague’, ‘prayer partner’, ‘mentor’, ‘just a friend’, etc.

3. Take your calls from your partner when they come.
If you are busy, take excuse, call her back and tell her you are busy and will call back. Nigerians DO NOT handle partners not picking calls well. Don’t look for trouble.

4. Keep yourself busy,
Taking up a job, start a business, enlist in a training school, learn a useful skill such as driving, braiding hair, cooking class, sewing, etc. Do not sit around waiting for a green card like it’s a horror movie.

5. USA green card takes up to 5 years
Be informed that for those in USA a Greencard holder cannot apply for Fiancé visa (which usually takes less than a year) for a spouse, only US citizen can. Family 2A visa application for green card is based on ‘first-come-first serve’. If your sponsor is a green card holder the average wait is 4-6 years. Sometime it could be up to 7 years.

6. Don’t live a vain life seeing her/him as your ATM machine simply because you got married to someone abroad.
Be content with what you have, and protect her/his finances from unreasonable relatives.

7. Don’t cut corners traveling with tourist visa or student visa just to join your spouse.
Remember you’ll not work and rather become a burden to her/him, which will eventually generate tensions and unhappy marriage.

8.Totally stay away from vision-seeing, prophesy-reeling, prayer houses, pastors, and Babalawos.
They will certainly see troubles for you, where one does not exist and use it to milk you. Your situation will worsen. Go to church, come back and hope on the Lord for strength. No close friendship with any pastor (it’s never ended well in Nigeria).

9. Marry only your best friend, not your lover
Please, please, please, marry only your best friend not just a lady looking for a husband or a man who came home to look for a wife, to avoid living with a total stranger who has nothing in common with you. Take time to date, bond and build the friendship, because ‘Easy-in, easy-out’. Friendship survives most pressures marriage brings.

10. Assume you are being watched and spied on
Girl, gurl, sista, how many times have I called you? Behave yourself!!! This is the age of information technology. Just assume that your emails, texts messages, BB chats, Facebook chats, etc are read and watched on 3D. Moreover, with phone cameras and spycams these days, your awkward pictures or video may end up being exposed.

Long distance relation will work except for those who are dating or marrying for wrong reasons, after all soldiers go on long mission for years without their spouses. Please marry for the right reasons.

Long distance for US and A.

Green card ppl. You go wait tire!

Chillisauce: Long distance for US and A.

Green card ppl. You go wait tire!

Yep! Experience is the best teacher, better told by those who have gone through it and felt it. I wish people can make a little effort in getting more information before they take a huge life-shattering jump sometimes.