Heartie01: If she had tested positive den doesn't mean U̶̲̥̅̊ too will be positive, cos am living witness to that, I and my ex had been dating for over 2yrs before I went for test but he use to do his own test like every 6months due to the nature of his job and its always comes back negative, but @ d orientation camp last year I decided to know my own status and lo and behold it came back +ve he didn't believe it cos he too just got tested a week before dat time nd he was -ve, after the camp we both went to 3 different hospital mine was also +ve and his -ve..He has done d test again after 3 nd 6months they both came out negative....

KnightsTemplar:

Hi read your post on your other tread, you are indeed handling your status well. My question is this, not trying to be invasive though, u said the nature of your ex's job, pre exposes him to probable infection, hence the need for a regular 6 months Tests, now is it possible that the virus is dormant in his body, unable to be detected, but still has the propensity of infecting another person....hope u r doing OK.

fsb: Okay so on NL, there are threads for everything including how to secure a visa (not that the idea of eloping is bad altogether)....anyway, I work in that field and I thought it might be a good idea to start an online support group thread dedicated to every nairalander living with HIV.

For those who have successfully been on antiretrovirals for years, please share your experiences/challenges with us as someone in here might benefit.

For those looking for answers to questions, please come in here ....physicians providing ARV care are also welcome.

fsb: Okay so on NL, there are threads for everything including how to secure a visa (not that the idea of eloping is bad altogether)....anyway, I work in that field and I thought it might be a good idea to start an online support group thread dedicated to every nairalander living with HIV.

For those who have successfully been on antiretrovirals for years, please share your experiences/challenges with us as someone in here might benefit.

For those looking for answers to questions, please come in here ....physicians providing ARV care are also welcome.

Obinoscopy: Yes, provided they use condom and the person with the virus is compliant with his/her medication. Presently, we even have medications for sero-discordant couples. This will ensure that the man does not infect his wife and vise versa for the rest of their lives

fsb: Okay so on NL, there are threads for everything including how to secure a visa (not that the idea of eloping is bad altogether)....anyway, I work in that field and I thought it might be a good idea to start an online support group thread dedicated to every nairalander living with HIV.

For those who have successfully been on antiretrovirals for years, please share your experiences/challenges with us as someone in here might benefit.

For those looking for answers to questions, please come in here ....physicians providing ARV care are also welcome.

Maria-Goretti:

Like you rightly said, HIV is just a name.
Ask some people, and they will tell you they prefer CANCER to HIV.

jacjac: My wife has been tested positive few yrs after our marriage. She wasn't +ve before the marriage and our child then wasn't +ve and myself till today(infact just last week i tested myself again) is not positive, how and where she got the virus remains a mystery to me. I cried as I've never cried in my life during that period, (i wish i can erase those days from my memory) even till today, remembering her status saddens my heart but she is still my wife and I still love her and can't leave her. She have given birth to 2 kids after then and they are both negative and very healthy(that's my consolation). She takes her medication every single day since then and doesn't miss her appointment in hospital. Am still praying God that one day she will be okay. Since then I've not been enjoying se.x with her because i use protection+trauma/fear. We use a method her doctors advised us for conception.

jacjac: My wife has been tested positive few yrs after our marriage. She wasn't +ve before the marriage and our child then wasn't +ve and myself till today(infact just last week i tested myself again) is not positive, how and where she got the virus remains a mystery to me. I cried as I've never cried in my life during that period, (i wish i can erase those days from my memory) even till today, remembering her status saddens my heart but she is still my wife and I still love her and can't leave her. She have given birth to 2 kids after then and they are both negative and very healthy(that's my consolation). She takes her medication every single day since then and doesn't miss her appointment in hospital. Am still praying God that one day she will be okay. Since then I've not been enjoying se.x with her because i use protection+trauma/fear. We use a method her doctors advised us for conception.

jacjac: My wife has been tested positive few yrs after our marriage. She wasn't +ve before the marriage and our child then wasn't +ve and myself till today(infact just last week i tested myself again) is not positive, how and where she got the virus remains a mystery to me. I cried as I've never cried in my life during that period, (i wish i can erase those days from my memory) even till today, remembering her status saddens my heart but she is still my wife and I still love her and can't leave her. She have given birth to 2 kids after then and they are both negative and very healthy(that's my consolation). She takes her medication every single day since then and doesn't miss her appointment in hospital. Am still praying God that one day she will be okay. Since then I've not been enjoying se.x with her because i use protection+trauma/fear. We use a method her doctors advised us for conception.

uy plus:

But Comeon, ders a lead-in dose for nvp wich mst b adhered to inother to avoid risk of steven Johnson syndrome wich is associated wit nvp based combination. I hf nva come across nvp induced sjs in clinical practice, because pts r advc to report weneva rashes r noticed.

And pls try to explain to them dt efavirenz based combinations r associated wit drowsiness n nt jst stating dt tdf/3tc/efv r associated wit drowsiness.

lumeviews.com:
Some may know my website, therefore I am not faceless and say all these knowing that y'all can trace me. A wise person once said, "My people die from ignorance". Back then, I used to think if I ever became HIV+, I would commit suicide and get it over with.

Over the last couple of years, I learnt a lot about HIV and completely lost my phobia of it. These are not empty words because I dated someone who is HIV+. By "dated", I mean a relationship where we did almost everything together. Had unprotected intimacy a few times inbetween all the other times... And the reason we used a condom most times was to avoid pregnancy, not because of the fear of AIDS. We continued with the relationship even after we found out about her status in 2011 although it was a difficult period for us. Luckily, our immediate family were there for us. I was with her when she began treatment and counselling. I gained more as a human being from that experience. Sadly, she was one of the casualties on the Dana plane crash last year. I'm still free of the virus as I type this...

Just thought I'd share because I know the struggle for those living with the virus and I hope someone out there gains strength from this.

Don't know if I would deliberately jump into another relationship with someone infected with the virus but the difference in my mentality now is that it wouldn't stop me if I truly like/love the person.

The disease is manageable now. All that's left is to find the cure.

God bless everyone who have to deal with this condition every day. They say there is a difference between a human being and being human. Take heart and ignore the ignorant ones who stigmatize others!

Here's a toast to the future... Remember you live every day and only die once.

Ciao.

jp philips:


you type like someone with incomplete fingers