Efemena_xy:

Your sister is an adult and knows what she wants.

If she's based in Naija, engaged to a Nigerian man, then yes - her choice makes a lot of sense and I respect her for that. At least she's being very clear on what she wants and has laid her cards on the table. No time for sme-sme and she just wants to get down to business. If the man can't deliver the goods, then he's out the door.you are sooooooooo right


You couldnt have said it any bettermi remember the other day when one of those nl things was telling me as a lady you are supppsed to be seen not heard.i bursted in laughter and deliberatly let it go not because i didnt have a befiting answer but on a 2nd thought this is africa.men unconsciously expect women to be doormats or daft
their only usefulness is in marriage and child popping,if they cant fulfill that,tjey are ejected or sidelined

thats what i call african reality 101

Yeah, her actions might sound harsh, but not as harsh as what she'll be subjected to by her in-laws and probably her hubby himself a couple of years down the line of married life. I can almost picture it - the unbearable pressure from in-laws poke-nosing and wanting to know why pikin never enter the equation (even if the fault is the man's), her mother-in-law dragging her off to meet the 'pastors' of Celestial church of A, holy ghost ministries of miracles, etc where she'll be forced to swallow gallons of Olive Oil, bath n@ked and bury red candles at Lagos bar beach, and so on and so forth... (where is madam Debrief! sigh...)

No, better she saves herself the stress now than jump from frying pan to fire. All those shouting love...love...love...Naija love nor dey waka reach that side of childlessness. When push comes to shove, no one will bat an eyelid if the man decides to get a second / third wife + x number of girlfriends along the way to 'test' his fertility. He'll even get a pat on the back for it.

But her nko? Will she be at liberty to take a second / third husband or to 'test' her fertility outside? I don't think so. At the end of the day, we women can shout ourselves hoarse but in Naija, it's a man's world and women are expected to lead conservative lives and definitely no exploring especially once married.

Only thing I'll add on here is that she and her man both go for extensive medical / fertility checkups. Let the medics do their thing and rule out any possibilities of infertility caused from STIs / STDs, and they should also count the man's little swimmers and how active they are.

Efemena_xy:

Your sister is an adult and knows what she wants.

If she's based in Naija, engaged to a Nigerian man, then yes - her choice makes a lot of sense and I respect her for that. At least she's being very clear on what she wants and has laid her cards on the table. No time for sme-sme and she just wants to get down to business. If the man can't deliver the goods, then he's out the door.you are sooooooooo right


You couldnt have said it any better i remember the other day when one of those nl things was telling me as a lady you are supppsed to be seen not heard.i bursted in laughter and deliberatly let it go not because i didnt have a befiting answer but on a 2nd thought this is africa.men unconsciously expect women to be doormats or daft
their only usefulness is in marriage and child popping,if they cant fulfill that,tjey are ejected or sidelined

thats what i call african reality 101........

Yeah, her actions might sound harsh, but not as harsh as what she'll be subjected to by her in-laws and probably her hubby himself a couple of years down the line of married life. I can almost picture it - the unbearable pressure from in-laws poke-nosing and wanting to know why pikin never enter the equation (even if the fault is the man's), her mother-in-law dragging her off to meet the 'pastors' of Celestial church of A, holy ghost ministries of miracles, etc where she'll be forced to swallow gallons of Olive Oil, bath n@ked and bury red candles at Lagos bar beach, and so on and so forth... (where is madam Debrief! sigh...)

No, better she saves herself the stress now than jump from frying pan to fire. All those shouting love...love...love...Naija love nor dey waka reach that side of childlessness. When push comes to shove, no one will bat an eyelid if the man decides to get a second / third wife + x number of girlfriends along the way to 'test' his fertility. He'll even get a pat on the back for it.

But her nko? Will she be at liberty to take a second / third husband or to 'test' her fertility outside? I don't think so. At the end of the day, we women can shout ourselves hoarse but in Naija, it's a man's world and women are expected to lead conservative lives and definitely no exploring especially once married.

Only thing I'll add on here is that she and her man both go for extensive medical / fertility checkups. Let the medics do their thing and rule out any possibilities of infertility caused from STIs / STDs, and they should also count the man's little swimmers and how active they are.

Efemena_xy:

Your sister is an adult and knows what she wants.

If she's based in Naija, engaged to a Nigerian man, then yes - her choice makes a lot of sense and I respect her for that. At least she's being very clear on what she wants and has laid her cards on the table. No time for sme-sme and she just wants to get down to business. If the man can't deliver the goods, then he's out the door.you are sooooooooo right


You couldnt have said it any better i remember the other day when one of those nl things was telling me as a lady you are supppsed to be seen not heard.i bursted in laughter and deliberatly let it go not because i didnt have a befiting answer but on a 2nd thought i understood this is africa.men unconsciously expect women to be doormats or daft
their only usefulness is in marriage and child popping,if they cant fulfill that,tjey are ejected or sidelined

thats what i call african reality 101........

Yeah, her actions might sound harsh, but not as harsh as what she'll be subjected to by her in-laws and probably her hubby himself a couple of years down the line of married life. I can almost picture it - the unbearable pressure from in-laws poke-nosing and wanting to know why pikin never enter the equation (even if the fault is the man's), her mother-in-law dragging her off to meet the 'pastors' of Celestial church of A, holy ghost ministries of miracles, etc where she'll be forced to swallow gallons of Olive Oil, bath n@ked and bury red candles at Lagos bar beach, and so on and so forth... (where is madam Debrief! sigh...)

No, better she saves herself the stress now than jump from frying pan to fire. All those shouting love...love...love...Naija love nor dey waka reach that side of childlessness. When push comes to shove, no one will bat an eyelid if the man decides to get a second / third wife + x number of girlfriends along the way to 'test' his fertility. He'll even get a pat on the back for it.

But her nko? Will she be at liberty to take a second / third husband or to 'test' her fertility outside? I don't think so. At the end of the day, we women can shout ourselves hoarse but in Naija, it's a man's world and women are expected to lead conservative lives and definitely no exploring especially once married.

Only thing I'll add on here is that she and her man both go for extensive medical / fertility checkups. Let the medics do their thing and rule out any possibilities of infertility caused from STIs / STDs, and they should also count the man's little swimmers and how active they are.

Efemena_xy:

Your sister is an adult and knows what she wants.

If she's based in Naija, engaged to a Nigerian man, then yes - her choice makes a lot of sense and I respect her for that. At least she's being very clear on what she wants and has laid her cards on the table. No time for sme-sme and she just wants to get down to business. If the man can't deliver the goods, then he's out the door.you are sooooooooo right


You couldnt have said it any better i remember the other day when one of those nl things was telling me "as a lady you are supppsed to be seen not heard".i bursted into laughter and deliberatly let it go not because i didnt have a befiting answer but on a 2nd thought i understood this is africa.men unconsciously expect women to be doormats or daft
their only usefulness is in marriage and child popping,if they cant fulfill that,they are ejected or sidelined

thats what i call african reality 101........

Yeah, her actions might sound harsh, but not as harsh as what she'll be subjected to by her in-laws and probably her hubby himself a couple of years down the line of married life. I can almost picture it - the unbearable pressure from in-laws poke-nosing and wanting to know why pikin never enter the equation (even if the fault is the man's), her mother-in-law dragging her off to meet the 'pastors' of Celestial church of A, holy ghost ministries of miracles, etc where she'll be forced to swallow gallons of Olive Oil, bath n@ked and bury red candles at Lagos bar beach, and so on and so forth... (where is madam Debrief! sigh...)

No, better she saves herself the stress now than jump from frying pan to fire. All those shouting love...love...love...Naija love nor dey waka reach that side of childlessness. When push comes to shove, no one will bat an eyelid if the man decides to get a second / third wife + x number of girlfriends along the way to 'test' his fertility. He'll even get a pat on the back for it.

But her nko? Will she be at liberty to take a second / third husband or to 'test' her fertility outside? I don't think so. At the end of the day, we women can shout ourselves hoarse but in Naija, it's a man's world and women are expected to lead conservative lives and definitely no exploring especially once married.

Only thing I'll add on here is that she and her man both go for extensive medical / fertility checkups. Let the medics do their thing and rule out any possibilities of infertility caused from STIs / STDs, and they should also count the man's little swimmers and how active they are.

Efemena_xy:

Your sister is an adult and knows what she wants.

If she's based in Naija, engaged to a Nigerian man, then yes - her choice makes a lot of sense and I respect her for that. At least she's being very clear on what she wants and has laid her cards on the table. No time for sme-sme and she just wants to get down to business. If the man can't deliver the goods, then he's out the door.you are sooooooooo right


You couldnt have said it any better i remember the other day when one of those nl things was telling me "as a lady you are supppsed to be seen not heard".i bursted into laughter and deliberatly let it go not because i didnt have a befiting answer but on a 2nd thought i understood this is africa.men unconsciously expect women to be doormats or daft
their only usefulness is in marriage and child popping,if they cant fulfill that,they are ejected or sidelined

thats what i call african reality 101........

Yeah, her actions might sound harsh, but not as harsh as what she'll be subjected to by her in-laws and probably her hubby himself a couple of years down the line of married life. I can almost picture it - the unbearable pressure from in-laws poke-nosing and wanting to know why pikin never enter the equation (even if the fault is the man's), her mother-in-law dragging her off to meet the 'pastors' of Celestial church of A, holy ghost ministries of miracles, etc where she'll be forced to swallow gallons of Olive Oil, bath n@ked and bury red candles at Lagos bar beach, and so on and so forth... (where is madam Debrief! sigh...)

No, better she saves herself the stress now than jump from frying pan to fire. All those shouting love...love...love...Naija love nor dey waka reach that side of childlessness. When push comes to shove, no one will bat an eyelid if the man decides to get a second / third wife + x number of girlfriends along the way to 'test' his fertility. He'll even get a pat on the back for it.

But her nko? Will she be at liberty to take a second / third husband or to 'test' her fertility outside? I don't think so. At the end of the day, we women can shout ourselves hoarse but in Naija, it's a man's world and women are expected to lead conservative lives and definitely no exploring especially once married.

Only thing I'll add on here is that she and her man both go for extensive medical / fertility checkups. Let the medics do their thing and rule out any possibilities of infertility caused from STIs / STDs, and they should also count the man's little swimmers and how active they are.

Efemena_xy: Shuo!!

Kulyie, I don see you na! You've quoted me 6 times!! Na so you like me reach?? But I like you too na! Abi na greeting you dey find for my hand??

Okay:

Good morning (1), Good morning (2), Good morning(3), Good morning(4), Good morning(5) and Good morning(6) to you Lady K!

kulyie: goodmorning efe.na this useless airtel.if i submit i no go see anything good morning

Kanwulia: I must reaaaaaally love a man more than myself to go thorough that!
Even after marriage, it can still be dicey!
Matter or personal choice.
If I want a bastard, I sure know where to purchase one!

Efemena_xy:

Oh I know that - was just pulling your legs babes

Kanwulia: I must reaaaaaally love a man more than myself to go thorough that!
Na! Not that needy or 'wanty'!
Even after marriage, it can still be dicey!
Matter of personal choice.)
If I want a bastard, I sure know where to purchase one!
No need to labor and torture my beautiful mind and body for such a quest!
Issues can never hungry me reassssh so!

Kanwulia: I must reaaaaaally love a man more than myself to go thorough that!
Na! Not that needy or 'wanty'!
Even after marriage, it can still be dicey!
Matter of personal choice.)
If I want a bastard, I sure know where to purchase one!
No need to labor and torture my beautiful mind and body for such a quest!
Issues can never hungry me reassssh so!

Sen.tempest:
My fellow sisters and brothers, thks 4 d advise jst that i belive say she wil definitely get preggy if dey finaly get married.

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