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Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by coogar: 9:30pm On May 28, 2015 |
lilspiceyy: you don't totally hate but you partially hate? see - the whole outcome depends on the individuals involved. if the man & the woman put up a united front against their detractors, they would overcome. 3 Likes |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by Nobody: 2:46am On May 29, 2015 |
lilspiceyy: This is the main reason Igbos resist it when their daughters are marrying Yoruba men Many Igbo women who do it end up wounded and regretful It's not good to generalize but when you see a recurring pattern it's difficult to ignore it Igbo women have to make this clear Discuss this culture of extra wives and secret mistresses and extramarital babies and put your foot down,let him know you are totally against it and won't tolerate it or accept that alien culture I don't know why they keep looking for trophy Igbo wives and then end up keeping a Yoruba mistress/ w.hore on the side If his family is such that his father had kids indiscriminately or he was one of those kids ,that should scare you,an apple doesn't fall too far from the tree Born again or no born again,makes no difference And if the family doesn't accept you during courtship,you will be foolish to go ahead with the marriage and bring up children that will be hated by their fathers family Just take care of your self and your siblings and move on and embrace the family that loves you You don't need people like those of your fathers family in your life Imagine calling little kids names 4 Likes |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by Nobody: 8:34am On May 29, 2015 |
here: There is ways problems but people will not tell u this,there is hatred in language 1 Like |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by BeloHorizonte14: 11:26am On May 29, 2015 |
babyosisi:Please oh,what about the part she said her mother's family blamed her and her siblings for their mother's death,isn't that worse(did you consider the psychological impact on them at that age)? If the father's people are actually bad people according to your post,tell me; are the mother's people in anyway different? 5 Likes |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by nnwniger: 2:39pm On May 29, 2015 |
IT'S UNNECESSARY RISK, WHY TAKE IT. EVEN IN THE BIBLE, NOT SURE THE EXACT CHAPTER, WANTS YOU TO STAY WITH YOUR OWN. JUST REMEMBER, MARRIAGE IS DIFFERENT FROM DATING AND I WISH ALL WELL 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by Nobody: 8:21pm On May 29, 2015 |
BeloHorizonte14:So sad! Most times it happens when a woman married against her parent's wish or she might have fought every member of her family and elope with the said husband. That's the reason why some of them are always ashamed to go back home even when being abused by their husbands. 2 Likes |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by BeloHorizonte14: 10:31pm On May 29, 2015 |
softysparky:**sighs** So much for Love. But in lilspiceyy's post she didn't say something like that happened. My own is since nothing like you typed happened,both families of the said late parents didn't do well at all. I just don't understand why the mother's family would inflict such emotional torture on them at young age(it takes an inner strength to withstand and endure such kind of blame; i could imagine the piercing innuendos,isolation,especially the despising looks/countenaces they would be exposed to at that young age). Or is it that children are only representatives of their fathers and not their mothers? I even feel the story isn't well told/complete because lilspiceyy took sides. |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by Nobody: 11:40pm On May 29, 2015 |
softysparky: This was going to be my response Most likely they didn't consent to the marriage Sad story though The children are innocent in all this and are now bearing the pain of it all |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by Nobody: 2:47am On May 30, 2015 |
I'm from an inter-tribal home and the major side-effect of my parent's marriage is that we are not close to any of our relatives. I think there's a huge discrimination against us from both families. Despite all, I'm not a tribal person and I could care less about someone's tribe. 1 Like |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by lilspiceyy(f): 12:38pm On May 31, 2015 |
coogar:I can't afford to hate them totally . It takes strength to hate someone. There are families that even if u like put wit anytin they do there wld be a time one of the two parties wld give up. |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by lilspiceyy(f): 12:46pm On May 31, 2015 |
softysparky:Well, notin like dat happened. There was a proper wedding. One thing I learnt from this situation is dat you get to know the true colour of pple wen sometin bad happens to you. Dats life |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by Nobody: 3:07pm On May 31, 2015 |
lilspiceyy:That's true sha. Life can be so unfair sometimes. Just take good care of your siblings, you will definitely laugh last. |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by Cirphrank(m): 3:32pm On May 31, 2015 |
softysparky: 2021. 4040 in sight. |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by tpiaobsession: 6:14pm On Jan 29, 2016 |
coldgate: a lot of products of intertribal marriage tend to not support the same although some are ok with it. |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by tpiaobsession: 6:18pm On Jan 29, 2016 |
here: well, that's true for the most part, however, not having kids is hard even if you are from the same tribe. |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by aameyah(f): 10:34am On Jan 30, 2016 |
Inter tribal marriage....hmmmn. |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by pet4ril(f): 12:04pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
What now happens to intra tribal marriage but inter religion? |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by ifyalways(f): 12:07pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
From where I stand, no pains. Joy is all I see! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by jashar(f): 7:40pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Sorry to say this. But people that suffer in inter-tribal marriages are usually people that married someone from the west. I'm not a tribal person, I hate tribal bigotry with a passion. But sadly my folks from the West are not too accommodating of outsiders. Don't know why. 1 Like |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by Cutehector(m): 7:41pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
jashar:can't even see myself marryn a yoruba woman to start with.. 1 Like |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by jashar(f): 7:44pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Cutehector: You're here again... . Stop following me . Shey the chase has begun? |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by Cutehector(m): 7:47pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
jashar:lol ur shakara too much.... |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by jashar(f): 7:58pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
Cutehector: Hellllloooo!!!!!!! I'm a lady ;i like to be wooed |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by Cutehector(m): 8:01pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
jashar:at least make I do small expo na |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by Adaezeagu(f): 10:17am On Jan 31, 2016 |
Marry within your tribe |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by aameyah(f): 3:06pm On Jan 31, 2016 |
jashar: True!! |
Re: The Pain Of Inter Tribal Marriages by kuverah(f): 6:08pm On Jan 31, 2016 |
lilspiceyy: |
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