NB: I only added a few jink to this work, it was totally
written by a friend of Mine: Tombellz Akorin
(@AkorinTm), A social Critic and Gospel/Conscious
Musician!


OUR PARENTS ARE DELUSIONAL!!!!

(Teenage- Parent relationship does it exist?)

First of all, I like to define what a Teen is: In order not
to confuse the great minds of my readers!
'Its simply defined'
A person aged from 13 to 19 years
But because of the versatility of what am writing and
the civilisation of our World I will reduce this age limit
down!

So the TEENS, that I will referring to in this journal are
children/Teens ranging from 8-18


Teens are wonderful people, unique people who are
easily Misunderstood, and badly treated! Yes I mean it!
Parents appreciate their teens so much, that some
times, they many go extra limit to do somethings for
them including FUSTRATE them!
Teens are largely Mis-understood! Parents claim to
wish them well(and in real sense, they do) but they
end up frustrating them!

As Parents, you have goals for your children, you want
them to be well successful in life, and you feel that
nothing should dent their destiny, Well, that's still the
best thing a Parent can wish for their children:
But how do we carry it Out, certainly not the way 90%
of Nigeria Parents carry it out!
First: Have seen countless parents, with the 'DON'T GO
OUT' policy, Parents who lock up their wards home, and
only release them to go to school, after that its indoors
thru out!
In all sense of reality, it is actually a way of keeping
their wards from joining bad company, and making
them read their books----- which is actually a good plan
but with poor execution!

Ask those children (If they would be truthful) you are
merely ENSLAVING them!
That a childs plays and catch fun doesn't mean he/she
can't read or will fall in bad company, its all about
Moderation- which you are supposed to TEACH them in
the first place!

Parents don't teach their children anything about life,
yet they become this Protective cover--- Over WHAT

You lock your girl inside because you don't TRUST
those guys out there, they may corrupt her, so she
shouldn't have male friends, and she should stay
indoor too!
That would solve the Problem shey?
Before we start talking about Consequences of this
Naïve acts by Parents, let's examine others

Let's talk about SEX!!


Hmmmm! Me as a person and over 50 people I asked
in 3 days-- None of them learnt about Sex from their
Parents, basically, we have just like 8% of Nigeria
Parents talking to their Wards about Sex!
And even those who do, probably only lecture their Girl
child, with some few words of: Don't allow a Boy to do
this, you may get pregnant, and so on..
The rest! Probably Sex is an abominable word in the
house, Parents don't lecture nor explain the basis of
Sex to their children, and they will be the first person
to shout

IF YOU EVER GET PREGNANT, I WILL DISOWN YOU

Sorry dad, but what's Pregnant??
Lmao! Actually, that's supposed to be a Joke.
But seriously; how come you are telling me not to get
pregnant, when u never even discussed the process of
pregnancy with me!

You feel shy or heavy to Discuss SEX with them, yet
you watch a nollywood movie that is expressly rated 18
with them, and feel free even with the Hot romance
and almost Sex Scenes! Basically 96% Of all Nollywood
films are always rated 18!
But Our parents watch it with US and yet wouldn't
explain Sex to their Wards! SMH
What Parents don't know, or are not paying attention
to is: If you don't teach them about it, they will learn it
from outside! And most times in a Wrong Way!
Don't u wonder, We find 8 year old children in the
process of playing 'Daddy and Mummy' having dry
Sex!!! There are several cases like that of course!

How
does an 8 year old kid know how to have Sex? You as a
parent, u feel its too Early to discuss Sex with them,
but How come the Kid already knows about it, and is
even practising it! And They even know better than to
do it where you can catch them, they do it Secret---
Don't you Wonder Why on Earth would they know what
they are doing is wrong and MUST not be caught! 8
YEAR old kids!!!
Now, You lock up your child at home, and keep
shouting don't have friends!
Well, that's almost impossible, they will have friends,
the worse part is you won't know!

And in case you don't know, Peer Pressure is like the
greatest Pressure a Teen can face! Not even your
pressure at home as a parent can match it!
When they start having friends Secretly - that's the
most dangerous trick!

You can easily solve the problem by allowing
transparency of friends, Make your Ward know, you are
cool with friends, and you can help them select!
When your Kid's friends feel free to walk up to your
house and joke around with you and the whole family:
Am telling you, your child is safe!

You can easily advise them: you know, they can easily
confide in you! And Guess what?
When Teens feel free around you, they leak their secret
to you without them even knowing, you can be aware
of their latest plan and can easily advice them out of it!


Talking about Friendship...


When Your 13 year old Girl receives a Love letter, and
shows it to her friend first, you have failed as a Parent!
You should be your kid's best friend, She could easily
walk up to you and tell you' Shile sent me this letter'
but here comes another WARNInG: its not really up to
you to go to 'Shile's house to start warning him to
leave your Daughter alone!

The Next time she receives another letter she won't
show you again! You can't be shouting around the
whole area, and except her to trust you again!
There are better ways to handle matters like that, in
which your daughter/Son will trust you more than
anyone!
On relationships....
You keep telling you 15 year old Girl not to have any
boyfriends, and the best Explanation you can give is
that Pregnancy and Virginity warning, am telling you
that this doesn't work anymore! She has 2 or more
friends that have boyfriends, and have been telling her
about it-- 'Of course you don't know them since you
don't know her friends' Those Virginity and Pregnancy
fear you thought you instilled in her has expired- I bet
a 10 year old can lecture you about the works of a
Condom!

Watch out for Part Two!
Thanks!