We live in a time where a huge part
of our daily interactions with people
lies online, in a virtual world where
speed of communication is key, and
entertainment value is significant, if
not vital. The Internet has enabled
us to cross time and space barriers,
allowing instant access, responses to
and sharing of information. Everyone
is no longer mere consumers of
information, but also producers.
This overall ease of instant
communication, though powerful, is
very often abused by people who
lack good intentions–people who are
careless, mindless, insensitive,
unhappy with themselves, culturally
unaware, bigoted, self-centered,
biased, or simply mean-spirited.
How should we deal with the online
bullies who leave nasty comments on
our Facebook posts, our Tweets, our
WordPress, our Tumblr, our
YouTube videos, our Instagram
photos, and wherever? How do we
deal with these strangers? What
about those who are our
acquaintances, or “frenemies”? How
do you stop the constant chain of
discouraging notes and the on-and-
off harassment.
Here’s the complete guide to chasing
those sources of negative energy
away from your online social life.


1. Send them a private message

Confront the bullies. Tell them that
you know what they are doing. Tell
them that what they are doing is
wrong. Don’t be afraid to
communicate with them. They might
even be shocked that you dare to
speak up. By sending them a personal message, you make yourself appear to them as an actual person who can be hurt and feel pain, and less of virtual person whom they think might not even exist.
But do not send a hateful message
of vulgarities, slurs and insults. You
can’t fight hate with hate. Don’t be
defensive and insecure about the
whole thing. You don’t want to add on any more negative energy and make the whole matter worse. Be nice. Be the bigger person. That’s what that differentiates you from someone mean and hateful.

2. Expose them

Bullies often think that they can
simply hide behind their computer
screens while they go about
spreading hate online. If you know
who they are, you have the choice to tear off their veil of anonymity. Let them and their evil deeds come to light. Don’t let them get away for
free. Let people know who they are.
Warn others about them. By helping yourself, you also help others from getting hurt.

3. Own the names they gave you

Don’t let the labels the bullies put on you terrorize you. Own the ‘name’ by saying, “Hey, you can call me a xxxxx all you want but that won’t make you any better a person, or me, any worse.” The truth is, there is no point in telling the bullies to stop calling you what they call you.
Because the more you dislike the
‘name’ or the ‘label,’ the more they
will use it against you.
So don’t be afraid to speak using
the very terms that the bullies use
on you. By not avoiding the use of
those terms yourself, you show the
bullies that you do not feel fear or
sadness at the mere sight of those
words. You own the names when you
truly overcome the power they have over your happiness. Don’t let the words of the bullies make you doubt yourself, or hate yourself. Don’t let the names have power over you and your emotions.

4. Be open about it

Don’t allow yourself to be a victim
silenced by fear. Don’t tell yourself
that you are not affected when in
reality you feel wounded and
trapped. Don’t ignore the facts and
what had happened. Because if you
do–if you keep mum about it and act
like you’re fine with everything–the
bullies might really believe that you
are alright, and that they are not
hurting you that much. In this case,
they might become even more
aggressive with their taunting.
Be bold. You don’t have to be afraid if you have nothing to hide. Being a victim of online bullying is not something to be ashamed of. If you turn things around and make it
something you are unafraid to be
open and honest about, you will
emerge as victorious. You win by
being open about it.
This is how we fight bullying–by
talking about it, sharing about it, and helping each other brave through it. While the bullies will always be there as bullies, every bullied person will come out of the
battlefield as a stronger and wiser
being.

5. Tell your friends and family

We all need some love and support in the times of personal crisis. Just
because you try to seek help and
comfort in someone other than
yourself doesn’t mean that you are
weak–it just means that you are
human. We are all social beings who
need to talk to each other about our day and our feelings. It’s not healthy for anyone to keep everything in. At some point, you will have to let it out to feel better.
Nobody wants to be bullied,
criticized or humiliated. It is not a
nice feeling to be disliked by other
people. At this point, instead of
throwing yourself a pity-party and
wallowing in your own self-sympathy,
you should talk to your friends and
family. You will be surprised by the
amount of love and support you’ll get.
Don’t be ashamed of yourself. And
stop thinking that people will be
ashamed of you.
It is necessary that you have your
friends and family as your allies.
Often, true friends will not only
stand with their friend who is
bullied, they will help to fight back
as well. Let your friends and family
speak up for you. This is not just
your battle–it’s the battle of
everyone who loves you. Friends and family are the perfect reminder that you are not alone and that you are loved.

6. Report/block them online

As the saying goes, “Out of sight,
out of mind.” If you need to report
or block the people who are
harassing you, do so right now.
Reporting or blocking people online
doesn’t mean that you are “afraid of them,” or that you are “unable to
handle them.” That would be the
same as saying, I don’t wear a
seatbelt while driving because I
think I can handle the roads and I’m not afraid of accidents. But
accidents do happen. Even if you
don’t bump into people, some might
just come crashing into you. It’s
better to be safe than sorry.
Look through your privacy settings
and make the necessary changes to
better protect your private
information and content. Social
media sites, like Facebook or
Twitter, are not responsible for
your protection. You are the one
responsible for your own protection.

7. Ignore them

If it’s just a single hate comment or a small thing (not regular insults and spam), you should just ignore them. Let the haters do their thing. When no response is given to them, they will simply move on to other things and other people. Don’t always see the need to correct people, because most of the time they won’t care what you say. They won’t try to understand. Your explanation means nothing to them. Don’t become mean or aggravated because of them. If you choose to fight fire with fire, the whole situation is only going to drag on longer.

Remember: Be kind and forgiving.
Don’t sink to their level.


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