Woged2005: Kind of annoying that serious people will come to family section (meant for people with real family experience) to seek real advice and a bunch of kids who should be on career, sports and entertainment sections will jump in with childish comments simply because they have phones that can browse...

@OP relationship and marriage is for two. Only male chauvinists (Same men who marry teenagers simply bc they want to dis-virgin a girl) who have no emotions and true love/feeling for a female partner will believe that a legitimate wife or partner who initiated sex is wayward. I wouldn't marry such a man with such a 18 century ideologies.

step 1. Set the mood by avoiding any arguments and confrontations or anything that may create negative energy in ur house. Just be nice all day. Serve him a light food so he doesn't feel heavy and sleep off.
step 2. Dress in his most favorite wear, especially the ones he bought for u (he bought them because he loves to see u in them)
step 3. Start a very easy discussion especially on a topic he enjoys most (I assume u know ur husband's interest).
step 4. Admire and compliment him as he air's his ideas with words like "that's why I love you..", "I like the way u handle matters ", "Thank God I married u"....etc). Men like to feel like kings and in in control.
step 5. Slow caressing touches at the right places is everything while resting on his laps or chest, take it slowly, looking into his face and draw a very long french kiss. Sustain it with short bouts of kisses, perks, etc.
step 6. Let the caressing pre-intimacy and romance begin...and sustain it when he takes over.

Note: Remember intimacy is not always about s.ex. Just enjoy the moment even if it did not end up in s.ex. Argument is a romance/ relationship killer.

All the luck

To the highlighted, not all men like to feel like kings. She should just do and say things he likes thats all. I agree with rest of ur comments

Jojo4truth: thank u,anytime I wnt It,I let my hubby know trust the guy he no dey slack.Abeg no dulling.

hehehe, correct guy, my wife go ask dt kind thing, I go kon slack Never!!!even if na small sign she show, na to enter mode sharperly...

Woged2005: Kind of annoying that serious people will come to family section (meant for people with real family experience) to seek real advice and a bunch of kids who should be on career, sports and entertainment sections will jump in with childish comments simply because they have phones that can browse...

@OP relationship and marriage is for two. Only male chauvinists (Same men who marry teenagers simply bc they want to dis-virgin a girl) who have no emotions and true love/feeling for a female partner will believe that a legitimate wife or partner who initiated sex is wayward. I wouldn't marry such a man with such a 18 century ideologies.

step 1. Set the mood by avoiding any arguments and confrontations or anything that may create negative energy in ur house. Just be nice all day. Serve him a light food so he doesn't feel heavy and sleep off.
step 2. Dress in his most favorite wear, especially the ones he bought for u (he bought them because he loves to see u in them)
step 3. Start a very easy discussion especially on a topic he enjoys most (I assume u know ur husband's interest).
step 4. Admire and compliment him as he air's his ideas with words like "that's why I love you..", "I like the way u handle matters ", "Thank God I married u"....etc). Men like to feel like kings and in in control.
step 5. Slow caressing touches at the right places is everything while resting on his laps or chest, take it slowly, looking into his face and draw a very long french kiss. Sustain it with short bouts of kisses, perks, etc.
step 6. Let the caressing pre-intimacy and romance begin...and sustain it when he takes over.

Note: Remember intimacy is not always about s.ex. Just enjoy the moment even if it did not end up in s.ex. Argument is a romance/ relationship killer.

All the luck

Good points there my sister, I still think no matter how tired a man gets after the days hustling, light romance, cuddling, kissing, snuggling, sucking sef shouldn't be too much to engage in with once wife, it doesn't necessarily has to get to humping.

lorretta u: All this protocol for wetin?
Hian

Just wear his loose tshirt without a bra.
If you have big bouncy booobss better for you. The moment u walk by innocently infront of him. The deal is sealed..

lool, correct woman...God, I must marry a Capricorn, Taurus, or a Virgo woman, they are neat to a fault and with a high sex drive, for me to v kept myself from having sex yl I'm still unmarried, my wife must not dull me then abeg.

lorretta u: Wetin?
Add ur contribution joor.

This is for the wives.... I'm also learning

These rules and regulations dey tiring,abeg let me enjoy my youth while I can,i will abide by these rules when am old and flabby .

olymurphy: What's wrong in a woman initiating sex.



N.B- hussy likes it more if I seduce him thereby initiating sex

oti like ishekushe ju

kulyie: oti like ishekushe ju

You still dey look for trouble this new yr atink

Chillisauce:

You still dey look for trouble this new yr atink

no your royal majesty

kulyie: no your royal majesty

Berra repent o. Like moi

Initiating lv making mostly is a spontenous thing for women. No laid down rules. Go with d flow as it comes.

@wooged05, that ur first point is quite debatable if I may say. Some heated arguments r settled under d cover.
Infact, if an argument doesn't end in hot and exploding sexxx, then that couple hv to access their union.

Also, guys hould provide an enabling environment for their wives to reach out to them.
Some guys r turn offs on its own for the wives and remember sexxx is an emotional thing for most women.

Awkward moment, you want to do the do, and the kids come screaming for chocolate, Banging on the door to tell you they have finished their snack. Waiting to see the smile in your face to tell them job well done, meanwhile

Chillisauce:

Berra repent o. Like moi

*clears throat*

Chillisauce: Awkward moment, you want to do the do, and the kids come screaming for chocolate, Banging on the door to tell you they have finished their snack. Waiting to see the smile in your face to tell them job well done, meanwhile

preach it dont stop

kulyie: preach it dont stop

My dear, you do the thing anywhere anytime... Trying to initiate, baby wakes up and cancel the whole thing.

Just go with the flow.

Chillisauce: Awkward moment, you want to do the do, and the kids come screaming for chocolate, Banging on the door to tell you they have finished their snack. Waiting to see the smile in your face to tell them job well done, meanwhile

Banging alone is better,my kids will scream off their heads if you don't respond,NO 1 swag duller .

Chillisauce:

My dear, you do the thing anywhere anytime... Trying to initiate, baby wakes up and cancel the whole thing.

Just go with the flow.

isorraaaiitt

byvan:


Banging alone is better,my kids will scream off their heads if you don't respond,NO 1 swag duller .

I guess the OP is still new in matrimony. By the time the kids dull your moment. You take it even in the garage . No shame here o.

kulyie: isorraaaiitt

I trust you eh, your hubby go hear when!

Chillisauce:

I guess the OP is still new in matrimony. By the time the kids dull your moment. You take it even in the garage . No shame here o.

@ Chillisauce, hiding in the toilet dey game .

That awkward moment when you are both waiting for the kids to sleep,only to open your eyes to a new dawn with everyone littered all over the sitting room.

byvan: That awkward moment when you are both waiting for the kids to sleep,only to open your eyes to a new dawn with everyone littered all over the sitting room.

Lmao! No show today, try again tomorrow!

At times its better when they r deep sleeping. As d kids grow older, sanity will return to an extent.
Imagine a baby crawling up on u when d show is on.
End of show!

^^^ baby's could be managed,
Byvan pls come and tell us that your method again?

Rocking the baby with same momentum as the rock you get from behind

Abeg time it unfollow thread. This is new yr, new beginning!

Amen!

kulyie: something like this,right?

Please you are going to derail this young woman's thread and rob her of the advice she's looking for by all this unnecessary indecent pics you are posting. Exercise some decency and maturity by showing some value and respect to other people's discretion. That's why this is a family section. It's not fair to her to scare people off her thread. You can open your own thread and fill it up with pics as much as you want. Moreover that could earn u a ban if anyone reports it to MODs.

Woged2005:

Please you are going to derail this young woman's thread and rob her of the advice she's looking for by all this unnecessary indecent pics you are posting. Exercise some decency and maturity by showing some value and respect to other people's discretion. That's why this is a family section. It's not fair to her to scare people off her thread. You can open your own thread and fill it up with pics as much as you want. Moreover that could earn u a ban if anyone reports it to MODs.

no vex o

but does the picture up there not represent the topic of jist so how am i derailing it and please whats decent about s3x,educate me.i am only but a learner

Chillisauce: ^^^ baby's could be managed,
Byvan pls come and tell us that your method again?

Rocking the baby with same momentum as the rock you get from behind

Abeg time it unfollow thread. This is new yr, new beginning!

Amen!

Am reviewing the method,i ll be back to tell ya .

kulyie: no vex o

but does the picture up there not represent the topic of jist so how am i derailing it and please whats decent about s3x,educate me.i am only but a learner

The reason why u see certain words u type on Nairaland are censored by the server is in keeping with NCC's rules and standards so that Nairaland's owner doesn't get penalized or even banned for allowing offensive materials on his site, where it's accessible to minors (people below 18yrs). If harmless words like s.ex, and brea.ast are censored then imagine what will happen if they see indecent pics on the site? The site is not rated as adult site otherwise people below 18yrs won't be able to log in here without age validation. Just a clue! And thanks for politely asking. No bad feelings.

lorretta u: All this protocol for wetin?
Hian

Just wear his loose tshirt without a bra.
If you have big bouncy booobss better for you. The moment u walk by innocently infront of him. The deal is sealed..

Girl..u d ish
some physical attacks can up d tempo like crazy as well.

@o.p..only masochistic egomaniacs will view dis sideways.
Initiating sex is an ego boost to a lotta..that feeling ofshe wants me,is a definite psychological viagra making f some wild n interesting time

Ps; contrary t popular belief, guys like females that take charge or can..

There is nothing bad for a married woman to initiate sex.Husband and wife should be able to understand themselve so much that even with ur eye wink he knows what you want.

@ OP U̶̲̥̅̊ can initiate sex with style,either by caressing or kissin him,touchin his dick.ĥȇ'll understand u want ɪ̣̝̇τ̣̣.i do då̝̅† weneva i want it .no dulling provided u are legally married