folymania: Hi,
I'm new @ this section and I need to hear ur opinion on sth.

Just wedded last month and its been fun.
The honey-moon has refused to end
But while my hubby and I came back from S/Africa (4m the honey-moon),
His mum took me aside and said she would like to have a baby-boy.

She was all blabbing about how it is better to have a boy as first born. Claiming that it would be difficult to handle a girl in this corrupt county of ours.

While I lightly pressed my point on the fact that a first born girl will still have time for her parents and siblings far longer than a boy.

U won't believe I've been having it tough with my in-law ever since and even my hubby has joined her

I really don't care. I just trust God 4 whatever he gives me. And I'll play my role.

But what do u guys think ?

Sunshine lady: Op, am sori to say, but u acted foolishly by arguin wit her or 'pressin ur point' as u said, on d gender of d baby. Are either of u responsibl for producin children, let alone d gender? U shuld av just laughed over it, & said somtin like 'mama God will giv us accordin to his wish' or somtin. Dat ll settle it. Now both she & ur husby are now against d female first born idea. Hmmm, u r courtin trouble o.., pls next time wen such iSsue arises wit her don't argue or say u ll prefer dis or dat. Just be tankful to God 4 a blissful marriage, enjoy ur marriage, & wait on God to giv u wat he wants

Chomzy19: Hmmm Marriage Never start MIL don dey quote her choice of SEX for d first baby! Na so e dey strt, @OP better be weary of dt your MIL and of I were u n I could do it I'd giv birth to a girl just to spite her (tho finally its in God's hands) dis is d kind of MIL dt will begin to look 4 other options for her son when No male is forthcoming after d 3rd girl so u berra b careful


As to the question, to me n most Mothers, A girl is always better as d first issue, cos she kinda begins to help you out at a very early age, she will organise her siblings n help keep them in check for you wen u aren't looking. But boys re known to be "scattersome" in nature n nt very helpful arnd the house, as d saying goes 'boys will be boys'

rudedough:

I totally disagree with you. It's 50% Y-Chromosome and 50% X-Chromosome.

Actually if you bring weight into the equation, the female X-Chromosome carries 3 times as much DNA material than the Y-Chromosome and in reality, the woman X-Chromosome has more say in determining the gender of the Child.

folymania:

Thanks.

But u don't expect me to confront her with dat, do u?

folymania:

Thanks.

But u don't expect me to confront her with dat, do u?

unmask: Most of you have missed the MIL's point of view...... @op did you fornicate with your hubby or with someone else before your hubby? If your answer to that question is yes, then the reasons for your hubby and MIL's concern isn't far fetched...........

They believe in the "like mother like daughter" mantra..... So they don't want a daughter that would end up living the kind of life her mother lived or even doing worse......

So op that's what is on their mind

You can even use this thought : Imagine Beverly osu having a girl as her first child....... Yea... You get the picture now

ileobatojo:

And how does she expect you to achieve this jare? I assume she believes you're omnipotent?

Lord knows what the reaction will be if you do have a girl first.

Celyt: @Troy20; E be like say you are Op's MIL, lol...
Please go back and re-read your post. You sounded as if a female child can't do all that you stated there. I should be asking you that question; do you have issues with the female gender?

for your information; i have them(three healthy boys) but doesn't make me a better woman than others, kini big deal?