Marriage is not designed to kill dreams, but the nature of the relationship is such that a woman or man that does not share your view of life is going to put a real stopper on any dreams you have because your dreams are based on how you see life.

Marriage was designed to provide the male with a person who can help him achieve the purpose of his existence, but that will never happen if he either gets married before he figures out what his life is about or he marries someone who cannot appreciate that purpose for any reason.

Afam4eva: It hinders individualistic and selfish dreams. When you agree to marry, your life no longer belongs to you. You share it with your partner and any decision you make has to be an agreement between you and your partner. That's why if you want to continue the dream you've been nursing before marriage, make sure you marry someone that will accept both you and your dreams.

Cosign.
Well said!

When you married somebody who does not support ur dreams

I am a strong dreamer. I see myself achieving any type of dream married or unmarried.

If my wife wants me to support her dreams, it must be realistic and ongoing before we get married. I will show her results of my own dreams so she has no option than supporting them.

But I won't allow me or her move away from each other in pursuit of dreams

That is Naija, in The western world, dreams are achieved after marriage even they believe in the word "ka fi owo we owo lowo fin mo"

But here in my country it doesn't go that way, they too much belief in spirituality than reality, too much divinity to be humanity....

Smh

GboyegaD: Good observation OP. I think the challenge is in the way we see marriage in our culture. Unless we have a broader view of life and marriage, it will have to remain the way it is right now.

I cosign this

Marriage is seen as the end of life so I guess it contributes to been a dream stopper ( for those who have dreams anyways)

Tell an average Nigerian that you want to do something like travel round the world and the next thing is ... don't you know you are married?

Danielotuya: It does oh. That's y some pipo will say if u wanna change d world do it wen u are unmarried,cos wen u are maried,u cant even change d TV channel

LOL....true. My living room TV is permanently tuned to Disney junior. I have been watching the world cup on my laptop via broadband internet.

It depends strictly on your dreams!!! There must be something both of you must commit yourself to and if your dreams is self centered then your dreams won't stand.

it depends on the kind of dream you wish to have

More contributions on this thread pls....
I need to make some decisions.

For a lady that is married to an African man i will say YES

More comments desired.

No!
Unless you a married to a BADLUCK JONATHAN!

Anything worth having in life has a price, so does marriage. The question everyone should ask themselves is if marriage is worth the price they would have to pay. The answer to the question is and must be personal.