I can get how a man's untidiness can piss off a woman. But ehn, I seriously am afraid of marrying a slob myself. I have a strong aversion to clutter. And I have seen a slob at close range. That one taught me that my occasional lapses into untidiness when I'm under serious psychological stress are not untidiness at all. Ha! I hear am o!

I have absolutely zero desire to live with a woman who will turn my house into a dump site. Hoarding all manner of junk like the economy will fail tomorrow; stuffing anything anywhere and having to search for it for eternity; forever wondering what should be cooked and whether it's even in stock at home. Good God! That would drive me stark out of it.

Efemenaxy1:

Lol! Did you watch the program about OCD's going out to slob's homes to help them out? It was hilarous watching both ends of the spectrum trying to find a common ground.

Most of the "dirty" people were willing to change. It's just that they let things get on top of them till it all got out of control...so looking at the pile of chores to be tackled was sort of depressing for them. The worst cases though were the hoarders. Jeez, now that set of people really do have mental issues. Every single item, old newspaper, bottle cover, pin, scrap, etc had it's use. A skip was hired for one guy whose home was literally filled up from floor to ceiling, but he was ever so reluctant to throw out anything. The most that was done was just a polythene bag or two of rubbish he allowed to let go...and even then, he put up such a fight! At the end of the program, the OCD sufferer could only clear out one room in the entire house.

Most of the junk was just shifted from pillar to post one room to the next. Sad really.

Anyway, I so get you about not sleeping comfortably knowing there's stuff that needs to be sorted out in the kitchen sink. I actually find cleaning (and ironing) theraputic. Feels even better waking up in the wee hours of the weekend (whilst the entire household is still asleep) to just get a-scrubbing...behind the electric / gas cooker, deep freezer, washing machine / dishwasher / condenser and inside every cupboard.

A good sweep followed closely with moping the floors with boiling water and bleach is just exhilarating.

Where is Yellowpawpaw / Ypepe??

I watched one of the episodes and it was hilarious You are right slobs just let the whole thing get ontop of them and sometimes it just gets to the point where they just can't be bothered.You know I watch those programmes and I am scratching my head thinking where do they actually sleep?? . I can't even sleep on a bed that is not laid A wet towel on the bed makes me see stars not to talk of that level of filth.

I also hate hoarding God knows how many quarrels I had with my mum about the need to keep hundreds of plates cutlery etc when we always rented off caterers for parties My mum is a neat freak (I took after her) but she can hoard jeeez.Her Gele(head tie) cupboard is the size of my whole wardrobe all sorted and arranged by colour and shade. Geeeez very annoying I do a clear out every new season and if I don't use it at least once in 2/3 years its going out. I like space and keeping unnecessary stuff just takes up space.

Like you Efe cleaning (not ironing hate ironing) is therapeutic for me.My friends and roomates in University thought I had issues but I just can't stand dirt or untidy enviroments.Thankfully my husband is also neat (but is not as obsessed with getting them done everyday like I am) but I really don't think I could have coped with a slob.My daughter is taking after me and even her nursery teacher remarked on how excellent she is tidying up after play She can't even use a messy toilet " mummy its disgusting lets go home".

Do you have an unmarried twin sister like you, damiso? I wanna make friends

Efe, you too. I don't mind younger sisters either but they need to have the neat freak, non-hoarding genes.

ihedinobi2: Do you have an unmarried twin sister like you, damiso? I wanna make friends

Efe, you too. I don't mind younger sisters either but they need to have the neat freak, non-hoarding genes.

Ask around I am business woman so whats my commission ?

damiso:

Ask around I am business woman so whats my commission ?

All these Ijebu and Igbo people sef. Ok o. We'll share the cake with you.

ihedinobi2:

All these Ijebu and Igbo people sef. Ok o. We'll share the cake with you.

Cake ke naa am on a diet.Hard Currency only

damiso:

Cake ke naa am on a diet.Hard Currency only

*sigh* Ok, you'll have to give me some time. I have to call a carpenter. Which one do you want carved? Naira? Dollar? Pound? Yen? Euro? Metalworkers aren't easy to find. But if you prefer metal work I'll see about finding somebody too.

You get the carving at the wedding o. I'm an Igbo man too.

ihedinobi2: I can get how a man's untidiness can piss off a woman. But ehn, I seriously am afraid of marrying a slob myself. I have a strong aversion to clutter. And I have seen a slob at close range. That one taught me that my occasional lapses into untidiness when I'm under serious psychological stress are not untidiness at all. Ha! I hear am o!

I have absolutely zero desire to live with a woman who will turn my house into a dump site. Hoarding all manner of junk like the economy will fail tomorrow; stuffing anything anywhere and having to search for it for eternity; forever wondering what should be cooked and whether it's even in stock at home. Good God! That would drive me stark out of it.

Sounds like you've had quite an experience there. Oya spill the beans and do tell...

But yes, I get where you're coming from. Some people just can't function in the midst of clutter. You need to see those (females included) guilty of leaving their kitchens looking like a bomb site after cooking.

My motto: Clean As You Go.

Golden rule in my home.

ihedinobi2: Do you have an unmarried twin sister like you, damiso? I wanna make friends
Efe, you too. I don't mind younger sisters either but they need to have the neat freak, non-hoarding genes.

Fortunately (for them) and unfortunately (for you), they're all married.

But pay Dami her commission - I hear she's the best matchmaker in town and for the right price, would hook you up with a Gbobo - London Big Girl.

ihedinobi2:
All these Ijebu and Igbo people sef. Ok o. We'll share the cake with you.

I'm not Igbo!

damiso:
I watched one of the episodes and it was hilarious You are right slobs just let the whole thing get ontop of them and sometimes it just gets to the point where they just can't be bothered.You know I watch those programmes and I am scratching my head thinking where do they actually sleep?? . I can't even sleep on a bed that is not laid A wet towel on the bed makes me see stars not to talk of that level of filth.
I also hate hoarding God knows how many quarrels I had with my mum about the need to keep hundreds of plates cutlery etc when we always rented off caterers for parties My mum is a neat freak (I took after her) but she can hoard jeeez.Her Gele(head tie) cupboard is the size of my whole wardrobe all sorted and arranged by colour and shade. Geeeez very annoying I do a clear out every new season and if I don't use it at least once in 2/3 years its going out. I like space and keeping unnecessary stuff just takes up space.
Like you Efe cleaning (not ironing hate ironing) is therapeutic for me.My friends and roomates in University thought I had issues but I just can't stand dirt or untidy enviroments.Thankfully my husband is also neat (but is not as obsessed with getting them done everyday like I am) but I really don't think I could have coped with a slob.My daughter is taking after me and even her nursery teacher remarked on how excellent she is tidying up after play She can't even use a messy toilet " mummy its disgusting lets go home".

Many of them have pets too.

Don't get me wrong, I love pets as long as they sleep OUTSIDE, like in Naija where the weather is warm enough for that all year round. So there aren't any instances of accidental poo-droppings in your home / floors, moulting hairs on your carpets, beds (eurgh!) or irate pets chewing frustratedly on your leather furniture because they've not had their daily walk / outings to the park.

Basically, I love the good parts of owning a pet but not the work that comes along with looking after them HERE.

aisha2:

Lol Efe, you had to go there this afternoon, LMAO and I was having such a great lunch now its all gone. chai, bet whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

My dear, I just couldn't help it. Both your descriptions (yours and Debrief's...especially yours), leave a visual implant in one's memory that's hard to forget.

You never did complete that story though. Did the meatpie guy eventually clean up his act (I doubt), or did he find someone to get married to? Some domestic goddess to clean up after his act?

EfemenaXY:

I'm not Igbo!



Many of them have pets too.

Don't get me wrong, I love pets as long as they sleep OUTSIDE, like in Naija where the weather is warm enough for that all year round. So there aren't any instances of accidental poo-droppings in your home / floors, moulting hairs on your carpets, beds (eurgh!) or irate pets chewing frustratedly on your leather furniture because they've not had their daily walk / outings to the park.

Basically, I love the good parts of owning a pet but not the work that comes along with looking after them HERE.

Me and you are the same can't stand cat hairs, dog hairs etc etc. Too much work and if we do that naija style here na RSPCA go come arrest person So lets keep to the gold fish in the tank
No vex chilli but have you also noticed the weirdest of the lot have lots of Cats Seems there is some kinda eccentricity going on with lovers of many cats

ihedinobi2:

*sigh* Ok, you'll have to give me some time. I have to call a carpenter. Which one do you want carved? Naira? Dollar? Pound? Yen? Euro? Metalworkers aren't easy to find. But if you prefer metal work I'll see about finding somebody too.

You get the carving at the wedding o. I'm an Igbo man too.

cunning man die cunning man bury am

damiso:

Me and you are the same can't stand cat hairs, dog hairs etc etc. Too much work and if we do that naija style here na RSPCA go come arrest person So lets keep to the gold fish in the tank
No vex chilli but have you also noticed the weirdest of the lot have lots of Cats Seems there is some kinda eccentricity going on with lovers of many cats

Lol!

Lucky you! I can't even keep the gold fish in the aquarium. My inquisitive daughter will knock it over and flood the electrics.

EfemenaXY:

Lol!

Lucky you! I can't even keep the gold fish in the aquarium. My inquisitive daughter will knock it over and flood the electrics.

Me too my inquisitive son too I am talking about when they are abit older and want pets.

damiso:

cunning man die cunning man bury am

LMAO!

I be Igbo nau. How e go be?

EfemenaXY:

I'm not Igbo!

Have you considered being Igbo?

Nope.

Did my Uni there - so I've got more than enough Igbo-ness in me. Even learnt a couple of words there sef.

Greetings: Bia. Kedu? Odima!

In church: Chineke Idima

When buying eba and Oha soup at the canteen: Ogini?

Sending the local children on errands: Bia, Nwasukka. J'ai chutere mirri. (Come, Nsukka child - go fetch water for me).

See?

Hahahahahahahahahahaha

You're Igbo joor

I am not.

I'm proudly Isoko - from Deep south in Delta state, with the cool, clear rivers and rich, thick green forests.

Besides, your language is very hard to learn. My roommates never stopped laughing at my pidgin Igbo.

There's a place like that in Nigeria?


Lmao! Indeed. I'll forgive you for that. Igbo is tough, so I agree. I don't believe I've ever heard Isoko.

ihedinobi2: There's a place like that in Nigeria?


Lmao! Indeed. I'll forgive you for that. Igbo is tough, so I agree. I don't believe I've ever heard Isoko.

No, you probably haven't - but you must have heard of the Urhobo / Itsekeri. We're quite close to them but more to the Urhobos.

bukatyne: On a serious note,

Only a lazy/wicked spouse looks on when the other can't handle or needs to multitask stuffs

It goes both ways

. Some men expressly make it clear they hate domestic chores.... Its selfish, maybe... But I wouldn't be caught dead sweeping or mopping up floors.. Everybody knows that and they have learnt to accept it.... My dear loving wife would have to bear with me..... But if she doesn't wanna do it, I'd pay someone to do it....

njokusboy: . Some men expressly make it clear they hate domestic chores.... Its selfish, maybe... But I wouldn't be caught dead sweeping or mopping up floors.. Everybody know that and they have learnt to accept it.... My dear loving wife would have to bear with me..... But if she doesn't wanna do it, I'd pay someone to do it....

Lol @ its selfish, maybe

Since you have expressly told her forehand and she still decides to tie the knot with you, then you are covered.

If it's more than she can handle, someone else can be paid to assist

damiso:

Me and you are the same can't stand cat hairs, dog hairs etc etc. Too much work and if we do that naija style here na RSPCA go come arrest person So lets keep to the gold fish in the tank
No vex chilli but have you also noticed the weirdest of the lot have lots of Cats Seems there is some kinda eccentricity going on with lovers of many cats

I'm just seeing this. Damiso what with you and cats . They are just innocent animals also wanting the basic of life.
You should get one, it will make your kids to be responsible . Teach then how to care, play gently etc.
You won't regret it.

EfemenaXY:

No, you probably haven't - but you must have heard of the Urhobo / Itsekeri. We're quite close to them but more to the Urhobos.

Definitely going to tour Nigeria properly one day.

njokusboy: . Some men expressly make it clear they hate domestic chores.... Its selfish, maybe... But I wouldn't be caught dead sweeping or mopping up floors.. Everybody knows that and they have learnt to accept it.... My dear loving wife would have to bear with me..... But if she doesn't wanna do it, I'd pay someone to do it....

I don't really know any rule that says that house cleabing is a woman's job. Not in such unambiguous terms anyway, but even though my mom taught all of us to take care of the home and cook too, it was taught too that house chores were generally the woman's job. Perhaps it is wholly cultural but that's how I think.

I expect that my house will have a general house cleaning day when I start a family. On such days everybody will pitch in in one way or another. But my boys will learn to prioritize "manly" work for normal duties and my girls will be taught to be good housekeepers. That's me. Everyone will learn something of the other but each one will know what their primary duty is.

It's good to be able to lend a hand to the woman you love. Mop when she's cleaning windows. Or dust when she's sweeping. Nothing wrong with that. After all, God washed dirty feet.