As hard as it is to accept i think,i lack confidence(i am very shy) and i am a lonely person,please if u can help,i am ready to learn.

Dear friend, your statement up there is not detailed and as a result you might not be adequately advised if the adviser is the one doing the thinking for you.

Confidence in doing what?

Facing women, doing job interview, writing exams, or in general terms?

Also how old are you and what is your exposure level. These among other things will determine the advice you need.

However, in all, you can have a big dream but start small.

If you want to meet the president later in the year, start meeting the elders in your neighborhood now. You want to do job interview? Prepare adequately and be asking your brothers or friends to be asking you some questions that you have prepared for. You want to date a lady, start from friendship level with other ladies or same lady in question.

That is my little cent.

hmm,i am 21 years old,i stay in doors mostly.let give u guys a picture of how shy i am,dere ws a day in Church som1 put her jacket on my seat and i did nt like it,bt i couldnt talk cos i ws afraid of talking.

kingingkinging:

Dear friend, your statement up there is not detailed and as a result you might not be adequately advised if the adviser is the one doing the thinking for you.

Confidence in doing what?

Facing women, doing job interview, writing exams, or in general terms?

Also how old are you and what is your exposure level. These among other things will determine the advice you need.

However, in all, you can have a big dream but start small.

If you want to meet the president later in the year, start meeting the elders in your neighborhood now. You want to do job interview? Prepare adequately and be asking your brothers or friends to be asking you some questions that you have prepared for. You want to date a lady, start from friendship level with other ladies or same lady in question.

That is my little cent.

tankq sir

Have you ever tried 'IGBO'?
Maybe you should.
I hear it works WONDERS!

SAVEDBABA: hmm,i am 21 years old,i stay in doors mostly.let give u guys a picture of how shy i am,dere ws a day in Church som1 put her jacket on my seat and i did nt like it,bt i couldnt talk cos i ws afraid of talking.

Were you sitting there when she put the jacket on your seat?

5minsmadness:
Were you sitting there when she put the jacket on your seat?

nowent to ease myself.ur name sound suspicious

Kanwulia: Have you ever tried 'IGBO'?
Maybe you should.
I hear it works WONDERS!

no,(never and i hop i will never try it in my life) bt bt i have tried something else,drinking,it worked bt will i always have to drink to have confisdence

SAVEDBABA: no,(never and i hop i will never try it in my life) bt bt i have tried something else,drinking,it worked bt will i always have to drink to have confisdence

No. . .
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS LOVE YOURSELF.
People who lack confidence usually do not love themselves.
Or are negative in their outlook of life.

SAVEDBABA: nowent to ease myself.ur name sound suspicious

Next time kindly pick up the jacket, smile and hand it to her while sitting on your seat. Don't make too much eye contact, just enough to direct the jacket to her hand. Sometimes you don't need to talk to make your opinion known.










Then again...if she was a young and pretty chic then its possible she likes you but was just as shy as you were and was looking for a way to start a conversation hence her putting the jacket on the chair knowing fully well you were already seated there. In which case you have just missed a red light.






Look past yourself. Most of the time other people are just as shy as you are if not more so.





As for my name, dont worry. I've taken my meds this morning. Or have I? I forget..

5minsmadness:
Next time kindly pick up the jacket, smile and hand it to her while sitting on your seat. Don't make too much eye contact, just enough to direct the jacket to her hand. Sometimes you don't need to talk to make your opinion known.










Then again...if she was a young and pretty chic then its possible she likes you but was just as shy as you were and was looking for a way to start a conversation hence her putting the jacket on the chair knowing fully well you were already seated there. In which case you have just missed a red light.






Look past yourself. Most of the time other people are just as shy as you are if not more so.





As for my name, dont worry. I've taken my meds this morning. Or have I? I forget..

hmm u have a point sha cos after d service i think she secretly taking a picture of me,tankq,i wish it cn happened this sunday again.

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Kanwulia:

No. . .
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS LOVE YOURSELF.
People who lack confidence usually do not love themselvesa
Or are negative in their outlook of life.

ok i wil try doing dat.tankq

Change yourself image and believe you are worthy. Love all of yourself the good,the bad and the ugly, just love it all. Learn to put yourself first.

Shy is another word for scared. If you had told the lady please remove your jacket what do you imagine would have happened? when people offend you don't pretend its ok let them know and if they stop being your friend well its good riddance. Don't ignore yourself, your emotions and "play nice" learn to be assertive

Deliberately put yourself in situations where you are shy then speak out. e.g compliment people men and women some will ignore you but don't let that stop you. Get out of your comfort zone i.e staying indoors and hiding from the world people can only reject you they cannot destroy you.

Start speaking out at home,among your friends even if you make silly contributions at least you'll learn. Treat yourself with respect and kindness.
Don't make alcohol your confidence booster make your mind your confidence booster. Becoming confident can be tough at same time if you don't you'll never truly realize your true self.

Think good thoughts.

andromida: Change yourself image and believe you are worthy. Love all of yourself the good,the bad and the ugly, just love it all. Learn to put yourself first.

Shy is another word for scared. If you had told the lady please remove your jacket what do you imagine would have happened? when people offend you don't pretend its ok let them know and if they stop being your friend well its good riddance. Don't ignore yourself, your emotions and "play nice" learn to be assertive

Deliberately put yourself in situations where you are shy then speak out. e.g compliment people men and women some will ignore you but don't let that stop you. Get out of your comfort zone i.e staying indoors and hiding from the world people can only reject you they cannot destroy you.

Start speaking out at home,among your friends even if you make silly contributions at least you'll learn. Treat yourself with respect and kindness.
Don't make alcohol your confidence booster make your mind your confidence booster. Becoming confident can be tough at same time if you don't you'll never truly realize your true self.

Think good thoughts.

ok,tankq