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If you are the "very nice" or maybe "fairly nice" type of person. You
know how annoying people can be attimes. They always try to exploit
your niceness and kindness, always trying to use you, push you, get
you to do more than a descent amount and annoyingly continue to ask
you to do more. The worst is that your efforts are not often
appreciated and you are still taken for granted.
Unless you learn to say "NO" to this type of people, the circumstance
may not change or may even get worse. People can inconsiderate and
unreasonable sometimes, they dont care if you are busy, they just
want you do do exactly as they say at that moment. Being able to
reject their demands will help you gain respect and you will often be
appreciated whenever you offer to help them.
Here are the four ways you can say "NO" to any request without
getting aggressive or negative response from people.

#1. SAY IT IN A SOFT AND POLITE TONE

As opposed to yelling "NO" at the person which may create an
uncomfortable encounter you can instead say no indirectly by
deferring your help. For example
"Not right now please!, Am a bit preoccupied at the moment but will
be done in some minutes, by then i can help you."
"Please am busy and i dont have a free time for now. Maybe later in
the day"
"Oh i would realy love to help, however not at this moment, please try
michael".

#2. NEGOTIATE A DEAL

Whenever people who always want your help but would not help you
in return approach you for help, You can negotiate, because at this
point you have what they need then use that opportunity. Here is an
example
"I will help you but on one condition- and that is, whenever i need
something( anything) you will also help me in return"
Since you have what they want they usually would agree to your terms,
however if they disagree you can use approach #1 above by softening
the "NO" and postponing your help. This type of people view their
needs as more important and the need of others as secondary. Since
they consider themselves more important than others, then linking
your need to their gain is a fair negotiation approach. In a nutshell tell
then you will give them what they want if they give you what you want
in return.

#3. DIVIDE THE TASK

In cases whereby a request from these category of people cannot be
rejected. Another approach is to cut the task in such a way that you
take the smaller and easier part, while they do the bigger and hard
part. That is, you offer to help them only if they do the more tasking
part of the job. For example,
"I will clean two rooms if you clean the other three rooms".
"If you can get the materials i will write the research report"

#4. PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT

You can get better at this by saying no to things that arent so
important. That is say no to individuals or offers whose approval does
not realy matter to you. You will discover that saying no does nOt
mean the end of the world and doesnt necessarily imply that the other
person is not pleased with you. Best way to do this is to say no to
something you are offered and choose other available options.
The idea here is to win back control of your interactions with people
that often push you beYond limit. It gets better with time and practise.

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Very helpful,people take undue advantage other. I gave a friend a huge amount of money,when he wants to buy his car,since January,he hasn't paid back,now I find it hard to help out people now,cos he left a bad taste in my mouth. He doesn't even pick my call again. Wish I knew this earlier.

wow! This is great.

Nice info!.... The problem is, it s way more easier said than done.

Yomieluv: Very helpful,people take undue advantage other. I gave a friend a huge amount of money,when he wants to buy his car,since January,he hasn't paid back,now I find it hard to help out people now,cos he left a bad taste in my mouth. He doesn't even pick my call again. Wish I knew this earlier.

i feel your pain bro. We've all been there

glitest: Nice info!.... The problem is, it s way more easier said than done.

true, but practice makes perfect, right!

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